Autumn Clothes Wishlist 2017

Hey readers,

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It is September which means change of seasons. As you probably have seen the Autumn clothes are coming into the shops. I love this time of year especially in relation to fashion. I love the comfort of knitted wear, tights and autumn colours in clothing. I brilliant website is Lyst for all your fashion needs on one website and curated to your tastes.

I have deviced a wish list of some of the items I have spotted that I am lusting over and perfect for the autumn season.

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1) I am loving this fun red animal print from Asos, I like the way that it is loose and funky design (£16.00).

2) Jumpers are stable pieces during the autumn season, I love this simple but warm soft knit from Monki  (£15.00).

3) Now the next piece is a bold number but that bright yellow jumpsuit from BooHoo to brighten up dreay day. It is in the sales as well for £6.00 – bargain!

4) I just love cable type jumpers and this red is to die for. It is from BooHoo and currently is £4.00 in the sales, so be quick to pick it up.

5) Finally, I present you this lovely dress from Asos. I think it is clear to say I am attracted to the colour red. I really like the thrills and it is something that you can wear most of the year with or without tights, so it is a real bargain in my eyes (£12.00).

Hope you have found some inspiration.

Cheers for reading X

 

 

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Let kids be kids!

Hey readers,

“Aw isn’t she cute” is something I hear a lot when people talk about my youngest. You see he has long blonde hair and apparently people assume that means you’re a girl.

I mean boys cannot possibly look cute or pretty, this is the society we seem to live in and quite frankly it sucks.

What annoys me is why does it bother people so much, why are people asking me why don’t cut his hair? I’m sorry boys are not allowed to have long hair or pig tales or pink no, well f**k you my sons do.

I even have dresses for them and they are not even dress up, like proper dresses from Sainsbury’s and boy that is one way to get a reaction from people.

It is not something I do to get attention. I have social anxiety for crying out loud. I don’t like attention but what I do like is giving my sons the choice to choose what they want and give them opportunities as I would want if I had girls.

My son has a spotty swimsuit for swimming because he wanted to have one because his friend who is a girl had one and he liked it, simple as that.

It is a strange thing this idea to have to dress a boy or girl a detain way. It seem ‘s that if they have a penis then they can’t possibly have a dress or whatever. The same goes for girls wearing blue and trousers.

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We need to  break down this silly rules, stop dictating us in shops with the two different departments. Let’s allow children to be children and give them the opportunity to choose, this will give better equality for all regardless of their sex.

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I don’t want my sons to think they can’t do this or wear that simply because they are a boy. I want them to have the choice because they want to and having that freedom to do so.

We need to break down stereotypes and just accept that it doesn’t matter if a boy wears pink or girl wears blue it doesn’t stop their identity. They are still the same child.

Cheers for reading X


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Mother fudging guilt! 

Hey guilt,

We don’t need introductions we already know each other fairly well, as you are always there permanent 24/7 hiding in the background waiting to pounce.
I an just writing this letter to let you know that I seriously mother f****** hate you. you know this, you know when am weak and you can manipulate me. You think I will listen but I will but up a fight. There are days when there are constant internal squabbles between me and you. It is tiring and no one comes out.winning in this war. But I still put  up a fight most days, while you hoover in the  background.

I try to be a good mother,  I really do . I don’t get it always right but please stop with the pestering, knocking at my door every corner of the way through motherhood. No one provides a manual with this parenting malarkey so how am I supposed to know. Sometimes I am so scared that I don’t know what to do. All you can do is hope for the best. I am constantly learning through trial and error. Sometimes I win, other times I fail dramatically so. 

I know you love the control over my weak mind, especially when I’m not certain but I’m sick of this battle between you and me. I have had enough of this constant battering me down with your mental torture.

You take advantage of all the information available, whether that be online, TV or whatever to make a stronger argument and bring me down. I am sick of this punishment! You dampen my mood and make me feel miserable. I shouldn’t have to feel like this. I have a right to be happy just like anyone else. 

Ok, I lose my shit from time to time and shout mum makes an appearance. I let the kids watch TV, sometimes I look at my phone a little bit too much but give me a goddamn break it is hard work.

I know people are going to criticise me for making the comment but parenting is a full time job but no-one recognises what you do. Apart from you guilt, you are there waiting at every opportunity to put me down and make me feel like I’m the worst parent in the whole entire world.

Sometimes you mess with my brain so much that I lie awake in the early hours of the morning reflecting and where it all went wrong.
Right now I don’t care anymore and no I’m not 100% perfect but I’ll give it a good try. We all have to learn from my mistakes or how else do I grow as a parent.
I work my ass off, I try to do all them things that you should do as a parent I feed them a clear of them I love them but now and again I make mistakes I am only human after all.
so on a final note to you guilt I want to say f*** you.

yours,

a tired mother dealing with this guilt trip!

 

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Letter to the parents of children starting school 

To the parents of children starting in reception,

I know people get emotional when their child starts school in reception. My child will start year one in September so, I thought I would share with you what I have learnt over the year.

Firstly, I have read a lot about the emotional impact it has on a parent when their child starts school. Let’s be logical here they are not gone forever and this is an exciting new chapter on there life. Some parents sadly don’t ever get to see this opportunity so look on the bright side, at least they are growing healthy and growing into their own little personality.

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They will still love you but they are now that little more independent. I sure for one don’t want my child needing me so intensely.

Most of the time the child will enjoy the new experience. Sometimes, a child may have additional needs or struggle to settle in. but that is ok as the school is there to provide the support.

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Not many people know this but reception is actually classed as nursery. They do not need to pay for time off if you go on holiday. I have spoken to a teacher who has told me this information. So, stand your ground if you want to take your child out for a holiday.
Reception year is more about settling in and adjusting to school life. They will learn to write phonetically (which  is honestly a load of shite but I won’t go into that, as that is a post in itself). They learn to read which is lovely as my son had book each week to practice at home and he loves reading now.

They go on trips which is so much fun as most children love to be like a grown up especially when it is away from the family.

They will explore and learn all about the world, it will help them understand others.

it is also a testing time for a child as they need to learn to get on and share with other children. Some children are more bossy whilst others can be shy. This is life and I believe something good for the child to learn about different types of personality. Using skills are adapting and working out what way would be best to get the result they are searching for.

It will change them but for the good. They will grown as we all do and develop that much further. But don’t worry because they not alone as others are going through the same experience.

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DS1 on his first day at school, happy as Larry!

Cheers for reading X

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If I was invisible I would…

Hey readers,

Id I had to chose a super power for the day I would chose being invisible. It would blow my mind and I wouldn’t know where to start, but boy would I have so much that I would never want it to end.

What would I do if I had a super power?

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Well first of I would find all them annoying people that wind me; Katie Hopkins, Donald Trump, Tony Blair, to**ers who feel the need to rev their mopped when my children going to bed and so far. I would make sure I books of poo and land it on their head that would be totally self-indulging.

Oblivious, got to play pranks on people and make sure you record it and upload on YouTube, just for the laughs!

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Free travel in Luxury to anywhere I wanted to go and sit in first glass drinking all the diet coke and eating crisps. Ideally I would aim to see Norway, Iceland and New Zealand for starters.

Haunt someone’s house, how fun would that be, I might even goes as far as my husband just to see his reaction. He is the sort of person who is totally logical and at times quite clinical about certain, such as death.

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As I am a nosy parker, love Come Dine with me, may the best house win, through the keyhole I would totally go and explore people’s homes. I definitely would pop alone to the Queen’s pad and mix things up a little bit, especially if she is doing a recording, haha!
I think may actually go to Harrods to the food quarter and you know have taster session with all the food that is on offer, my theory being is if you can’t do it when you are invisible when can you do it!

I totally would empty Rupert Murdoch’s bank account and make sure everyone knows about his phone calls/emails and any other type of ‘private’ information.

I would rip up Teresa May’s £950 leather trousers, see how she likes it when other people take things of her!

I could on and on but I shan’t bore you, but it has been good to dream.

What things would you do if you were invisible?

Cheers for reading X

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Moshi Monster Mystery Box

Hey readers,

Have you heard of Moshi Monsters – it is basically a virtual game for children between the ages of 5-12 years old. You have a pet and customise your pet then you can go on the game and complete tasks and get rewards. You can personalise area and communicate with other players.

Moshi Monsters have brought out a mystery box that you receive in the post. I am trying it out with my five year old.

Well first and foremost you can personalised letter sent to your home outlining that you are on a secret mission and that in the coming week you will get send a personalised box that you need to complete the task.

When receiving the Moshi mystery box there is a enclosed letter with a Moshi monster stamp making it very realistic and fun for the child. It is an introductory letter outlining what the child has to do and also details about codes and the Moshi monster app. Also a special code on the bottom of the letter to get your next Moshi mystery box. On the other side there is fun activities for the child to do, a word search with all words relating to Moshi Monster. Then the second activity is to spot ten differences between two pictures. PICTURE OF MOSHI LETTER / BLUR OUT PICTURE

This is what the box looks like below.

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A few days latter a lovely designed box with my son’s name on arrived in the post, which made him super excited because he doesn’t normally get post for him so it makes him feel super special and all grown up.

I love all the charters and the playful design. When you open it is a small letter and then the main section is a map of Moshi city which is another genius idea.

In the box contains several activities, which is such a cool idea to keep children entertained (perfect for rainy days or the summer holiday). It is a subscription box and it all links together.  There are codes that I believe you need to collect or open up online in order to get more boxes. You have to visit the Moshi Monsters site here.

One of the items is a comic of story which is continued in the next month’s box. It is called The Poached Egg (so it is great for practising your reading skills). The story is left open until you get the next subscription  box.

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There are two fun activities you can do with your child. I like the fact all the materials are provided and that they are in a yellow or green envelope which is associated with the same colour instruction leaflet. For someone like me who gets in a mess easily this is a top idea. On the instruction also it indicates how much time it takes, how much mess and how difficult it is so you can plan around what works for you.

One of the activities is an arty type theme activity called monsterific moshling egg. You can get creative and allows the child to help cut, glue and paint (all things my child loves) cue best mummy ever!!! It is really easy to follow and not as stressful as originally thought. Step by step guide with pictures is a lifesaver, making it less stressful for me. It allowed quality time with my child and he really enjoyed working together as a team.

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The other activity is the the frozen moshling eggs which is a fun way to learn about science and the different properties of water. My son was really excited and enthusiastic with this one, as he loves learning and seeing how things worked out. We got a balloon put each Moshi monster into a balloon. Then filled it up with water and tied a knot in the balloon. Really straight forward and fun. We had to then put the ‘eggs’ into the freezer and wait three hours so they got frozen. Then the fun really began for my boy when he snipped the balloons and released the frozen egg. He then put the sachet of salt onto the egg and also with the pipette but warm water on top of the egg. Both my five year and three year old enjoyed watched the frozen water turn to liquid water. The best bit for them was getting the frozen water shall, AKA the egg and smashing it up. Nothing beats playing with water for my boys. The loved finding the Moshlings and this was such a fun and different way to do something with your child.

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We also had to put a sticker on completion of activities which was a great way to praise a child.

Inside the actual physical box is a A4 certificate where you can write your child’s name in to say that they have completed the tasks set out by Buster BumbleChops – one of the characters in Moshi Monsters. This is a fantastic way to encourage and praise your  child, making them feel really good.

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There is also two pictures on one piece on either side of Moshi monster related stuff to colour in. So there is an element of creative and imagination for the child.

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There is a sheet with pictures of all the Moshi Monsters and a brief overview of what each character is like.

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There is a sheet with jokes on based around Moshi Monsters (probably more advanged for the older child)  but still an element of fun for the younger child.

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It such a fun and creative way to do something with a child. If you struggle with thinking for ideas then the proscription gives you all the ideas/instructions plus materials so there is less stress.

The only thing that I would say and this depends on your child as well is the online game and some of the material like the jokes were not really age appropriate for my son. I think he found it quite difficult to understand. But this is a wide age range from 5 to 12 and definitely the online game is more marketed towards the older end of the age range. Some of the basic games my son can play and enjoyed. He also liked creating a personalised chatrater, giving it a name (poppy) and designing hte room.

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Also there were trading cards, where you can scan the code, found on the app and you can get special characters, diamonds or other type of rewards. The trading cards also game in the box and you had to scratch the box to find the code, which is something my son really loved doing.

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Overall, it is a fun way to play with your child and get them excited because it is personal to them, making them feel extra special.

Cheers for reading X

I was given a Moshi mystery box. However, all opinions expressed in this post are entirely my own. 

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Why I am pro-child telly!

Hey readers,

For the past five years of being a mother my main obsession has been Television / entertainment. I have been rattled with guilt, paranoia to near destruction of what other people think, mainly because of the pressure of social media but also because I feel my autism is a downfall. Therefore, I need to score points of being ‘ better’ because of my inabilities in other areas.

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I would obsess so much that i could not think of anything else, I would not enjoy my time with my child and felt always on edge.

I felt that my child if they watched TV every single condition associated with allowing your child to watch TV they would get.

I would get annoyed at hubby being so relaxed with just turning the telly on and I am always on edge. My whole body aches from anxiety. I worry that I am a failure because I allow my child to watch TV.

But recently I have learnt to accept that you know what TV isn’t that bad. It can be enjoyable, I love good old Mr Bean.

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TV can have a positive effect it can help with my son’s speech delay, it can educate them or it can simply help my eldest wind down from when he gets in from school.

I have noticed that if I live the TV all day long thew kids get bored, they wonder off. They look for something to do and they happy play together or entertain themselves.

When I dropped the guilt and thought fuck it, as long as they are happy, fed and alive that is all that matters.

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It is not the end of the world, it is so hard for any more especially first time round to know what to do and how to deal with giving the right amount of input.

But hand on my heart I have found the more relaxed I am, the more relaxed everyone else is around me.

Sometimes, you have to accept what the situation is and yes sometimes the 43 inch  babysitter helps because I am struggling or just need a break.

We are all more happy when I adopt this attitude. Plus, my eldest watched very little TV and very likely autistic. my youngest watches a TV, more clear in speech and socialable and not likely autistic. What does that say?!

So, if your reading this, give yourself a break, you are properly doing fine and the more research shows us that more then ever are parents more engaged.

Cheers for reading X

 

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