Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

because previously I mentioned the battle that is personal independence payment and going through the appeal stage. It was extremely frustrating as I have scored zero points, therefore, I had to go for an appeal. Whilst waiting for the all the information from the DWP regarding my application which takes roughly 28 days we had some really good news. We randomly received a big payment from the bank and we found out it was Pip. After a week we finally received a letter to confirm that we had been successfully awarded Pip there for not having to actually have to deal with going to court and appeal. Which is a massive relief for us.

Another highlight of the week is finally getting snow, the boys absolutely loved playing in the snow and watching the wind swirl the snow around.

My eldest got to dress up as The Flash his favourite character for World Book Day. Whereas my youngest, unfortunately, could not go into the nursery because the boiler in the nursery had broken down.

So overall a rather pleasant week and a sense of relief with the success of pip.

hope you had a good week.

cheers for reading X

The ordinary stuff #OreoCookieQuest

Hey readers,

I was asked by Britmums to share my joyous moments with my family. Oreo is celebrating The Great Oreo Quest promotion on packs now, which means anyone can pick up a pack and have a chance to win awesome prizes, including a once-in-a-lifetime trip to California and the Googleplex.

So, now as a parent living in a world where social media dominates our attitudes and influences, I thought the pressure was on. However, if you look close enough and watch your children you don’t have to look far to see the joy in the ordinary stuff.

It can be really hard with underestimating the ordinary stuff, I am one of the people who has been guilty of this. But taking a moment to relax and just be lead by what your child wants can be pleasantly enjoyable.

So, I give you my take on what is a wonderful and joyful experience that is simply coming home after school for my son and once changed having that time to play. My son struggles a bit with school because he wants to run around like a loony only problem is now that he is in year one he has to do school work, boo!

Therefore the time he has after school where he can do as he pleases is the best, especially as he has his sidekick with me to do so (his brother).

He spends three hours playing with his new additions of Fungus and Mungus, stretching them, giving them roles and having pretended play.

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He was super happy to talk to mummy uninterrupted and share the joy of his favourite toy. He loves telling me stories and getting into the roles so this is his happy moment.

He doesn’t want a lot out of life and as a parent, I could learn a thing or two. Although, I will tell you he did join getting some Oreo Cookies to add to the mix of happiness.

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Cheers for reading X

This post is an entry for BritMums #OreoCookieQuest, sponsored by Oreo. 


Hey readers,

My word of the week is:


Because I am drained, I am really tired and my eldest is really testing me. Even  my hubby who is rather chilled himself it is slowly getting to him too.

My eldest is getting more violent (hitting, scratching, biting) and having meltdowns episodically after school. I am trying to deal with my own issues relating to my autism, so trying to find that winning combination is bloody hard work.

I get ‘advice’ but it is exhausted to implement the long list of new things to incorporate. I just get fed up with these professionals dumping this advice on to you. You then got to remember all these new rules. Along with having to go for PIP assessment next week my anxiety is really pushed. I just want that time to not have to think about how I am meant to perform and just be brain dead for a bit.

Cheers for reading X


Hey readers,

Today I just want to talk about the fact that I am against children doing exams in primary school. I don’t see the point of it to cause that added stress for children. I think it is unhealthy especially when tests start at the age of 7, I mean come on really we need this.

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I think schools focus too much on meeting targets for whose benefit?! Of course the government to try and see if we get children to a certain level. But this is added pressure and stress for children, they spend enough time at school to then have to go home and do more homework.

Can you actually believe now there are SATS for children aged 7, I mean come on let kids be kids. I am not surprised kids get more anxious when they are being judged on their ability. We should let kids play instead of trying to push information down their throat. I believe children learn more through play then sitting there trying to recite facts. Ok, some thrive of this don’t get me wrong but as a whole I think it is wrong to test children at such an early age.

I want my  child to have happy memories of going to primary school instead of thinking I didn’t do so very well with my tests I has to do.

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There is so much more pressure on teachers with how well they are rewarded as a direct outcome of the performance of children doing exams. Teachers are under a lot of stress and I believe that stress not only placed on teachers but also some parents.

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Since my son started school last year there is an assembly each week and each child gets a certificate for attending school, for being the best reader or for this and that. I think it is wrong because there are many other reasons why children aren’t achieving or they are ill and they can come away feeling rubbish they didn’t achieve what the other children did. My son didn’t get a reward for sports day and he was really down. Ok, competitives good but I don’t believe in social pressure to perform to a certain level.

I have however, due to my autism felt the pressure to do certain tasks like read. As there are no clear instructions I tend to try and get my child to read. There are times when he is not in a good place mentally to do this task. This type of pressure isn’t good for the parent (me) or the child (my son). It can also cause friction in the relationship at such a young age.

Cheers for reading X


Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

because I seem to be trying to remember so many dates/ appointments. Then I have to try to remember all these names that my eldest keeps telling me out. no ever tells you when you are pregnant that you have to have a good memory.

My diary is so valuable to be right night, if I didn’t have that I would’ve gone crazy.

If the letters for things aren’t enough at school it is the constant party invites, jee weez it is none stop go.

Why is the week so long by but seem to go really fast, I cannot believe we are in October already. I wish people would stop talking about Christmas, I am pooing myself thinking about how I am going to pay for it. I don’t need this stress in October.
Hope you have had a good week!

Cheers for reading X

Rant about PTA! 

Hey readers,

When my son started school I came across the PTA (a parenting teaching association) not to be confused my parents to avoid acrumn though very tempting!

Basically, what it means is that willing parents join this group to talk and discuss issues regarding school. They involve teachers and some parents which allows them to have a fairer and less biased view to voice opinions etc.


I have found that there is a lot of favouritism involved with parents of the PTA. The children get more mentions in assembly,  the winners of the raffle tend to be mainly the PTA parents or staff and generally it just feels like a cliché where they have the upper hand.

I kind of get irritated by the fact that they sell ice lollies or biscuits after school. I object to this because I feel that it is forced pressure for the parents to buy things, especially when you can’t get out the gate without your child clocking the stand. Then you have to deal with the constant pestering from your child to buy something. I also find the message of healthy eating that the school try to promote with external services a bit pointless when they sell junk food after school.  It does seems pointless trying to encourage healthy eating when you can’t be consist with the stuff you do within school.

I have been so skint before that I just didn’t have the cash to spare and the guilt/embarrassment of saying out loud to your child you do not have the money is just wrong.It makes you feel crap as a parent and causing conflict on the way home when no parent can be arsed to deal that. Nothing is more stressful with dealing with a argumentative child, when you have to deal with trying to get them home tired in the first place. It just means that the child is more grumpier it is double the stress, which is really not needed.

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I hate social pressure and appears that PTA feeds of this.  All they seem to do is try and make money in raffles or what not. I just don’t like the idea that money seems to be the main concern. I don’t like that fact that it is represents parents and gives some parents more control and possibly influence over teachers.

I just don’t see the point in PTAs. The goal is to get the fullest co-operation from home to school. I don’t want to know if it means stressing over money and the waste of time of having to do mind numbing boring stuff when I could be at home sat on my fat arse drinking a brew. I suppose it is ok if it is your thing but I just hate the constant pressure. I certainly wouldn’t trust PTA, they appear to have too much time on there hands and tend to make us other parents feel lower then them.  This is my experience anyway, could be totally different somewhere else.

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Cheers for reading X

Sticky Mud and Belly Laughs


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Getting children out of the door

Hey readers,

Why are children super fast when they  want to be but as soon as a parent is desperate to get someone urgent they go to  slough mode!

Here are some thoughts and conversationset I have when trying to get kids ready and out the sodding door.

1) Please get ready, we need to get to school.

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2) I hate you hubby for giving me the task of getting the boys ready, you absolute tool.

3) If I you don’t get ready then I am going to turn off the TV but at the same time promising to turn the tv on because you need to sit still because you need to do their hair.

4) If you don’t get ready I will phone your dad and you will be in serious trouble. (Let’s face it no one wants to hear your daddy yell at you, even mummy gets scared with the decibels used).

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5) When it gets close to birthday/Christmas or any special event that is important to your little darlings, it is the ultimate blackmail to get them ready and out the door promote. If parenting gets so bad it will be threatening every single day.

6) Shall I ask your teacher if you are like this at school? seems my son fears this one because he is so angelic he doesn’t want the illusion to vanish from the teachers eyes. Works a treat to kick his bottom into gear.

7) Threats about no pudding go down a treat (yes pun intended).

8) If in doubt and you desperate bribes can be used to keep your own sanity in tact. If ANYONE disagrees then they could bloody well come round at 7am and deal with the problem for me, no problem with that I tell you.

9) Stare at your child, if gives them the willies that the arguments must stop or mummy is going to lose her sh*t big time. This normally occurs when on a Friday because we all tired and about had enough of having to go through this drama for the fifth time this week.

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10) If your child loves school as much as mine threaten that if they don’t get dressed won’t go to school that day and do nothing all day at home. Amazing how effective that is and they comply to your need of them getting their socks on.

Cheers for reading X

Sticky Mud and Belly Laughs


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