Why you should try counselling

Hey readers,

As a person with mental problems, I know the importance of therapy. I have done counselling before. I have found it very beneficial to speak to someone confidentially that I have no emotional connection with.

Why you should consider counselling?

Firstly, it is confidential and as they are professional then they are not emotionally attached to you, making it much easier to be open without fear of judgement.

Knowing that a counseller is experienced in mental health, means that they understand how the mind works enabling you to feel that you are not being a fool but being heard.

It allows that time you have a counsellor to be your space to open up knowing that it is a safe place where you can open up. It gives you that time once a week to focus on yourself uninterrupted therapy allows you to be, you don’t always have to talk but being present can do wonders for your mental health.

Therapy is great if you are feeling alone and isolated, it allows you to talk and feel that actually, you are not alone. There are loads of people who go to therapy and have helped them to deal with the emotional baggage that is holding you back.

Counselling over time gives you back the control to deal with your mental health which will then have a positive impact on your overall life such as sleeping and relationships with other.

Going to a therapist and talking through your concerns and worries can give you better insight into understanding the way you behave. It can be a chance to spot the negative cycles of behaviour and work towards changing the bad habits into positive responses or actions.

Also, sometimes if it can be hard to talk to your partner and having a person who is neutral can help. Couple counselling can be beneficial to help understand each other’s point, I have in the past found it beneficial for me and my husband gave us time to understand one another with the support there. To find out more about coupling counselling do check out https://www/regain.us  for more information.

Here is a good read of an article discussing things counselling.

Have you found counselling helpful?

Cheers for reading X

This post is sponsored. However, all opinions expressed are entirely my own.

How to stop procrastinating

Hey readers,

Sometimes I am guilty of procrastinating – where I want to put off things and makeup all the excuses under the sun just simple in order to not do the task. There may be many reasons why people procrastinate and it his hard work to change that mindset. So, here is some of my tips that have helped me to get in touch with motivation and get stuff done.

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Write it down.

Sometimes, I have so many things I want to do that I simply get overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. Therefore, I have always found it good to start with writing down all the things I need to do. Then put them in order of importance and follow that list accordingly. It doesn’t matter if I don’t do all the things on the list, it is the starting of the tasks that are important. Once I have achieved this I can feel less dread and more inclination to carry on the next day and so on.

Smaller goals.

If you have one big goal a way to move forward is to break it down into more measurable chunks. Small steps lead to big things and knowing you have reached levels can spur you on to the end. Rather then simply seeing something big it can be better than to visualise and be inspired to get going on it.

Timetable.

Have a timetable that is split up into smaller times. For example, don’t just think about doing all the work in a three-hour block but maybe do one hour in the morning, one hour in the afternoon and one in the evening so it is broken up giving you that break. It is actually better to do work in smaller chunks throughout the day as your concentration will be better and then in turn production will be much better quality.

Environment.

Sometimes, I go and change my environment to give me that fresh scenery to work in. I have worked in the library and been much more productive because of the people around and got more done when there are fewer distractions at home.

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Buddy up.

working with someone else can be a real motivator as they kick you up the bum to get work done or the social pressure is much stronger there for willing to do the work rather than doing on your own and you use all the excuses inside your head. At least with someone else they can encourage you to do the work and challenge you if you are feeling like you have an excuse to step away from it.

Reward.

We all know rewards can be a great way of achieving a goal because it gives that incentive to do that work. So, maybe have a reward chart that you can treat yourself to something small such as a hot chocolate or an episode of your favorite programme.

What kind of thing helps you get out of procrastinating?

Cheers for reading X

 

Selfishness can be good

Hey readers,

I know when you hear the word selfish it dipicts  a negative picture but I want to share with you today why it is actually good for you SOMETIMES to be selfish.

Firstly, because you are listening to your needs and not others. Sometimes, we need to say I want this because I need it for my saniety.

It gives you assertiveness and feeling of comfortability to talk about your feelings to others. It is healthier because of not ignoring your needs and doing something about it can help you feel good. Asking for something should not be shamed upon, asking for help is ok, for me asking for timeout is important. It calms me down and others so in the long run everyone is winning.

You are listening to your needs and doing something constructive about it. As long as you are polite then I think it is ok to say look I need this for me becuase of XYZ.

You will help build your self-awareness skills in opening up to what you need. It will help increase your self-worth because you are being constructive and doing something to help you feel better.

It could mean better relationships because you are finding a solution to a problem, for example if you cook a lot and say to a housemate I need one a day a week off and you need to do the meal for us instead. Even though they might object it gives you the change to discuss issues and talk about how you are feeling. There is less anger and being open will be benefit making the situation more harmonious compared to if you sat on it and didn’t raise your issues. At least  then this could mean  something productive has helped and lead to more positive relationships without any negative impact because you have talked about the situation

Cheers for reading X