Reasons to blog

Hey readers,

I have been blogging for over three years now and feel that some experience of this whole blogging malarky. If you have never blogged let me enlighten you as to why you should consider, as there are many positives attached to being a blogger.

Creativity.

Firstly, blogging can allow you to be creative. You don’t have to be a niche but if you want to that is cool because it will be your blog. Blogging can be about anything, it is diverse in the blogging world. You can literally write about anything from domestic abuse to reasons to eat baked beans. It is a great tool for creativity and a way to express yourself to the world.

Therapy.

When I started blogging it was a distraction as I was going through some personal trauma. Blogging also helped me write down my feelings and express myself. I have autism and really struggle with verbal and trying to work out how I feel. With blogging, I can take my time and ponder. Blogging has helped me express myself when I maybe wouldn’t have. Writing has helped me grow in confidence with working out how I feel and exploring reasons why I respond in the way that I do.

Spread awareness.

One positive about blogging is it can help raise awareness of a message you want to spread. Blog posts are fantastic as they are from the individual rather than an organisation. They are personal and tend to be raw, making it feel more real in a sense. Blogging is a platform to get your voice out there, anyone can read it and it isn’t edited like professionals and I think that is one of the best things about blogs is that they tend to be first-hand accounts. I have always loved when exploring topics to reach out to the first-hand account as it feels real, people have lived it and know what they are talking about.

You learn about yourself.

I think exploring yourself can be quite hard but when you write it allows you to think about things. It makes your analysis and sees things maybe you might not instantly think of. Over time I have learned more about me through blogging and expanding areas of myself when I write.

Built an engagement.

Now, I am no great communicator but I will say that it has helped me get engaged with people. You may stumble across people that in normal life you would never have the opportunity to meet. Some bloggers make long-term friendship and think that is beautiful that something positive can come out of blogging.

Opens up to opportunities.

Blogging opens up to opportunities such as reviewing items or attending events. I am not the most successful blogger in this aspect but reading a lot of blogs if you are good at the social side of things then there are many doors that can be opened.

Make money.

Now, I have made the odd bit of money here and there which is fab as it has helped me when I really needed it. Some people can make a career out of blogging which I think is such an amazing opportunity to do something that you love.

Better writer.

As I have been blogging for a long period of time I feel that it has helped me be a better writer. I can write more words and can express myself better, which is always a positive.

Cheers for reading X

10 best life tips

Hey readers,

As we get older hopefully we learn and grow insight to improve as a person. I myself have learnt some things along the way on my journey through life and I thought I would share some of my best life tips.

1) This lesson IS difficult but if you learn to not be anger and put blame on people you will lead a more fruitful life. Life is a b*tch and there are some God awful people out there. I have experienced a fair few. But, once I learn to let go of that anger and just accept it, life is much more pleasent. I don’t forget the hurt by any stretch of the imagination. I just let go, untie it from my emotions. The more you hold on to the negative feels they will only fester and bring you down. The more that you don’t allow it to influence you means you can enjoy life better.

2) I know people go on about enjoying every second and you should be enjoying it. However, lets face it life is not like that. Don’t put these expectations on, just focus on not taking life too seriously, have a laugh and make happy memories.

3) I know it is cheesy with the whole idea of the power of positivity. I suffer depression but looking at one small thing a day no matter what it is can really help you. Even for example it is just getting out of bed or leaving the house, that is one step closer to helping yourself move forward.

4) Enjoy the outdoors and surround yourself with nature – it can really help physically and mentally. Plus it is free, so even if you have no money you can still go out and look at the trees.

5) If you can help people, karma and all that. Plus it is nice to just do something for someone.

6) Don’t compare yourself to other people, remember that we are all on our own journey. You don’t know what people are going through, you only see a section of that person especially if it is on social networks like Instagram. Never forget that comparison is the thieve of joy so instead of worrying about missing out, just focus on your self and what you are doing.

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7) Write down goals – small or big get them down physically on the paper and see where you can make improvements. Small steps lead to better destinations. It can help if you are in a negative frame of mind to work on something that you can focus but also check in each month to see how far you have progressed. This can help make it feel more real and concrete giving you that well earned boast that you deserve.

8) Make sure you get some sleep because it really does help give a clear mind to think.

9) If in doubt or you don’t want to do something, do micro tasks that lead to the bigger goal. This can help you feel less overwhelmed and in the long run be more productive.

10) Make sure you are on top of your emails. Go through them each day and delete the unnecessarily ones.

What life lessons have you learnt along the way of your journey?

Cheers for reading X

5 things I am doing well at

Hey readers,

Today I am writing about things that have being go well for me at the moment. It is good to take some time out and reflect on the positives as we all can get in a bit of a pattern and forgot about the good stuff that we have achieved.

journey 1

Firstly, this may seem trivial but for me it is really important as most of my life I have struggled with insomnia and getting to sleep due to anxiety. Recently, I have been getting some good night sleep, which has made a huge difference to my mental health. It really does help with making you feel more better especially thinking more logically and getting less emotional about certain things in my life.

I suppose the next point kinda connects to the last positive in that I have been staying calmer more especially when sometimes I may blow up or struggle to deal with change. I really struggle with change especially when it is unexpected but I have learnt to a little walk away and use distraction techniques.

journey 3

I have re-developed my love for colouring as a way to not only relax for me but also doing it with my eldest also helps me too. Not to mention the fact that doing an activity together has helped our bond and created some calm down which had a ripple effect on the rest of the day. I have found it is a great way to connect to my son as it something just for us on a Sunday so makes it special for him.

journey 2

The final positive achievement I have done recently is adding more exercise to help tone my body up and make me feel less ugh. I find regular exercise helps give me a bit more energy and again has helped as a way to get rid of some of the daily frustrations I am faced with.

Cheers for reading X

 

The things that I want to work on.

Hey readers,

I don’t really do resolutions but I like to have goals just generally to ty and strive to. So I thought I would write them down, no pressure to achieve them but do what I can.

  1. Learning to say no and not instantly saying yes because that is what people want to hear. Then later having to deal with the anxiety. Knowing that I can take my time and not instantly  reply.
  2. Being more accepting of myself and that I have faults but does not make me less of a person.
  3. Being more open with how feel and even improve how I express myself. Even if it is a tiny smidgen it is better then staying put.
  4. Working better on my atrocious grammar, something I am constantly striving to improve. English language is a struggle for me so there is always room for improvement.
  5. Having more confidence, I know so common but so true. I have very low confidence especially when it comes to parenting.
  6. Eating healthy and making  better choices when it comes to food.
  7. Getting better camera control when doing YouTube videos. Stop being so lazy and take my time with the tripod.
  8. Increasing my social media stats would be nice. Who doesn’t hey and though I am not that bothered and I don’t have a huge influence, it is nice to work on something that is visual and know you can grow from working on your blog.
  9. Getting better in social environments, even if it is just asking a shop assistant for something or going in and ordering something. I am constantly anxious and worry about being embarrassed in front of people.
  10. Not holding on to destructive thoughts or taking things personally. This is first mode I go into and trying to reason more would help me greatly.

Cheers for reading X

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