My eldest is in year one in primary school and I have noticed some things that happen once you become a school mum. Here are some of the signs you are definitely a school mum.
are a slapdash affair, trying to remain calm but more frequently than not losing your s**t about the fact, your child can take 30 bloody mins and still not got their shoes on.
Letters, Letters, Letters
How many? the never ending forms of dates of book sales to trips and parents evening. It is non-stop and at times a bit overwhelming trying to keep on track of it all.
is now something you have to get done and let’s face it on a Sunday night mad dash to get something coherent down.
Knowing that you are losing the walls of protection of your child and social pressure is a big player now and that it is just the start.
Having to keep a check on making sure that you have paid for XYZ. You basically need a diary to keep on top of all the payments and dates that are happening.
Constant arguments of wondering how your son could lose this and that. Bringing home someone else’s jumper or at the end of the term accidentally losing his pumps from three weeks ago and not mentioning it to us, which coincidentally it is now half term holiday so you can’t do naff all about it.
is there pestering you every week about this or that just so they can look good amongst all us other parents who are totally below there standards.
Having to sit and listen to this and that committee every week it is something, why can’t they just let kids be kids and actually learn to fail instead of constantly trying to see positive in everything.
Arguing with your spouse with who is going to collect your child as you know it is mayhem and you can’t stand the small talk waiting for your little child to be returned to you.
When teachers can’t be arsed to listen to you and feel totally helpless because all they see is one side of our child and they seem more bothered about attendance.
Cheers for reading X
Have you ever suffered from writer’s block and need inspiration for ideas? Well look no further as I tell you some fab places to find content inspiration for your blog or whatever you need it for.
Here are my Six ways to find inspiration to write.
1) Obviously, a classic place would be to look on websites that relates to topics of interests, such as Mumsnet, huffington post or even general newspapers.
2) A way to generate ideas is to do a thing called a mind map where you put you focus theme in the middle and generate sub categories relating to the main theme. You don’t have to write sentences just words, pictures anything that generates an idea. I find it a really relaxing to get your creative juices flowing so to speak.
3) Third tip is a classic one and that is to read other people’s blogs that may be of similar interests to you. It can really help inspire when reading other people’s work.
4) Look at tweetchats on twitter as it is really good for getting you thinking. There are many regular chats on twitter, on a variety of topics so there is plenty of choice and look at things that may appeal to you to write about.
5) If you are on WordPress you can go to the section called reader allowing you to search on whatever word you type in. It with give you all the WordPress posts that relate to that aspect and it is really fantastic way of getting ideas.
6) Look up themes for a month or time of year you can find different ideas or do the block challenge which has a certain theme for each day can be really helpful in challenging you to write. also looking up Pacific days of the year for celebrations around the ones can really help find topic ideas and I’ve had really successful place in the past because of that.
where do you find inspiration for blog content?
Cheers for reading X
Why are children super fast when they want to be but as soon as a parent is desperate to get someone urgent they go to slough mode!
Here are some thoughts and conversationset I have when trying to get kids ready and out the sodding door.
1) Please get ready, we need to get to school.
2) I hate you hubby for giving me the task of getting the boys ready, you absolute tool.
3) If I you don’t get ready then I am going to turn off the TV but at the same time promising to turn the tv on because you need to sit still because you need to do their hair.
4) If you don’t get ready I will phone your dad and you will be in serious trouble. (Let’s face it no one wants to hear your daddy yell at you, even mummy gets scared with the decibels used).
5) When it gets close to birthday/Christmas or any special event that is important to your little darlings, it is the ultimate blackmail to get them ready and out the door promote. If parenting gets so bad it will be threatening every single day.
6) Shall I ask your teacher if you are like this at school? seems my son fears this one because he is so angelic he doesn’t want the illusion to vanish from the teachers eyes. Works a treat to kick his bottom into gear.
7) Threats about no pudding go down a treat (yes pun intended).
8) If in doubt and you desperate bribes can be used to keep your own sanity in tact. If ANYONE disagrees then they could bloody well come round at 7am and deal with the problem for me, no problem with that I tell you.
9) Stare at your child, if gives them the willies that the arguments must stop or mummy is going to lose her sh*t big time. This normally occurs when on a Friday because we all tired and about had enough of having to go through this drama for the fifth time this week.
10) If your child loves school as much as mine threaten that if they don’t get dressed won’t go to school that day and do nothing all day at home. Amazing how effective that is and they comply to your need of them getting their socks on.
Cheers for reading X
To my darling boy,
Can you believe that you have completed your reception and you will moving to year one. I can still remember when you were first born and being so tiny, how times have changed!
Well what can I say have noticed a real transformation, some good, some challenging shall we say. This year we have learnt so much about you and the person you are becoming.
I and daddy are so learning that you are autistic, even though no one will listen at the moment, but that is more politics and what the eyes can see more than anything but that is a can of worms that I won’t open here.
You have progressively got better with your speech and through expression. You have become more confident and independent. You have thrived in learning – I can’t actually believe how much you love reading now. You can’t seem to stop writing, which is just lovely to see. Your thirst for knowledge is mesmerising (thank Goodness for YouTube).
I know you feel frustrating at the beginning of school due to misunderstandings through communication but you have become more patient and willing to listen. You’re so determined and possibly a little bit stubborn but I think that this are positive traits in a person and make good qualities in life.
You’re such a caring boy, always being kind and listening to others. You don’t exclude people and you want to make sure that they are involved. This might be down to understanding about mummy’s autism and the way that she cannot do the things others can do. Therefore, allowing you to be understanding of other’s needs.
You have excelled in every element of your school report and we are so proud of you. You have come on heaps and bouts. There is more work to do but I know you can achieve it as you are dedicated and focused.
We spoke to your teacher the day before you broke up and she said that you have improved a lot with your behaviour. When asked do you get involved with the naughty behaviour that other people do y out step aside and don’t get invoked. You are now more of a role model child to kids. Me and your daddy believe that this is down to the fact a few months ago we talked openly about your autism and how it affects you in certain ways.
I love you dear child and you make me so proud to allow me to call you mummy.
Well done and here is to the next year which I know you can’t wait to get stuck into
We have had a couple of days so naturally can’t help but getting excited for the arrival of summer, I am British it is a thing and the fact that it properly me majority wet. That won’t stop me from celebrating all things summer.
I believe each has its good and bad, I suppose a bit like life really – you can’t have a rainbow without the rain. Anyhow, I digress. Now I am not a massive fan of humid heat with the right temperature and wind that is one thing I do look forward to. To go out more outdoors and not spend a huge fortune on the dreaded soft play areas. Fresh air is open and free nothing beats walking on the grass with your bare feet or looking up to see what shapes you can make with the clouds. It is a change to walk more and get out in the water parks or with a Frisbee.
During the summer months it means colder food such as salad, I do love a good ice burg lettuce. Alternatively, consuming ice-cream and drinking drinks with ice cubes in.
Summer is a time for less clothes, even though I am fat that doesn’t stop me from wearing shorts and showing my bear arms. Less need for leggings and more changes to wear dresses with the fresh breeze in the air.
As a lover of frugal I can’t not mention the fact there is little need to put the heating on and reduce your electricity bill. Likewise with the tumble dryer – instead opting for putting clothes on the line to dry all by themselves. I just love it when it is a hot day I can do two or three loads of washing and they are dry within a couple of hours, I know how exciting.
When the kids break up for a whole six weeks even though it is a daughting prospect the idea of lazy days and less rigman with the routine is a nice break for us parents.
Typically for my family our summer holiday occurs during the big six week school holiday, this gives us time to explore and see something different. Trying new places or food is always a winner in my eyes.
What kind of things do you enjoy about summer?
Cheers for reading X
The people of Wayfair went on the hunt to find out what home is for people. This is what Wayfair did:
We hit the streets of London over the Easter weekend equipped with an armchair and a microphone to find out what home really means to us! The findings were both insightful and heartwarming, exposing that our homes are much more than just buildings or places, they are family, comfort, inspiration, happiness and much more. Not only that, but we spoke to a further 400 recipients across the UK & found that over 71% of people coined the sofa as the most important item of furniture in their home, placing the importance on socializing and making use of communal spaces (or being couch potatoes if you look at it another way!)
Wayfair are doing a campaign on ‘What is Home?’ and for me personally home is not necessarily the physical things but the meaning associated with home. It is safety where when I close the front door I can come into my home and feel less judged.
You see I am autistic and I struggle going out in the outside world, so knowing I have a place where I can relax and not have to put on a mask is comforting. It makes me feel less anxious especially after a hard day, I can come home to my family and just be me without the fear of being judged.
Home is a place where I don’t have to be agitated or on guard, I can kick back on the sofa and just be. Enjoying the calm moments of reading a book with a blanket whilst my two boys are playing next door together with their Lego.
It feels like home because I am a mum and I provide all the needs for my children where they can fun but also develop as children. Where they will hold the memories for years of all the happy times of their childhood.
It is times when we lounge on a Sunday as a family scrawled out whilst watching Big Heads and rooting for King Henry VIII over Donald Trump.
Home is where we get excited about the small things we can do together as a family like watching a sunset or have Sunday dinner and discussing why mummy is called poopoo, while the boys are in hysterics over the hilariousness of it all.
What does home mean to you? What ideas stir up when you think of home?
Cheers for reading X