Outdoors 

Hey Readers,  
my word of the week is:

because for most of the time this week the weather has been lovely so it has given us opportunity to visit places outside, which is fantastic for me as it’s much cheaper to go visit the park. Not to mention the fact that visiting the park is it’s free being and it is pleasant being in the open air. 

The boys have a lot of energy in the summer holiday so it’s been great to be outside to burn off for the energy playing outside. I also get some quiet time to read my book which isn’t often at the moment.

Also went to a field to check out to see if our  tents are still usable, ehich we haven’t used for 7 years to see if it’s still usable. Good news is that the tent is still usable and can fit us all. Therefore meaning we can go on holiday soon and use the tent. The boys are super excited as it is the first first time for my boys  camping so that should be a fun experience.

Cheers for reading X 

The Reading Residence

Blog Therapy 

Hey readers,

Some days are really crap, you wonder how you are going to get through them especially when it is only 9:30 on the morning.

I am so tearful because I have reduced one set of medication. I know it is only a side effect and will be worth the pain in the long run. But right now it is a struggle especially when I am so needed during the summer holiday.

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I am not very good when people demand me for long periods of time.  For me being autistic it is mentally draining and a real battle. I need to switch off and sometimes I just need escape to my bedroom for some peace for five.

I feel a bit suffocated as well being in a flat and the weather being rubbish. I just haven’t got the motivation to anything when I am so tired.

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I feel so guilty for feeling tired when I should be on the ball but sometimes I question My ability to parent such as today. I know this is just short lived and because I am frustrated, that being said I have to battle with this thoughts.

I feel pulled into two ways to right my personal feelings as one side of me thinks I am being silly. The other side feels it is cathartic and may help someone.

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It is amazing how powerful words on and just writing down your thoughts can really help even if there is no solution. It is a bit like therapy and that is one of the reasons why I love to blog. As in real life I am rubbish at expressing myself to others. Words seem to get mangled up and I stutter and shut down. Again this is influenced by my autism.

So, that is why I turn to my blog as a place of comfort and release of emotions. I don’t feel judged and it is a place where I can freely right without having to worry about all the other social aspects involved when speaking verbally.

Cheers for reading X

Bringing up Georgia
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On the side line 

Hey readers,

When I was a child I did this thing called masking, aka faking it and what this means is that I learnt the behaviour of others. The problem being is that if something changes that I can mess up badly because I can’t be flexible with my thinking. That is the one of the characteristics of autism is we manage change and see things  black or white especially when it comes to learn.

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I think it’s really hard being an autistic girl growing up because there is so much more pressure to be sociable then a boy. That all the boys got away with not getting noticed there for less social pressure. I used to absolutely hate being a girl because of this reason and I thought boys had it a lot easier or more relaxed attitude with regards to social and communication which suited me perfectly.

Now that I’m an adult I find it a bit more easier because I have more experience and knowledge but I still frequently mess up. If I am feeling anxious or if there is too much going on in my head can’t seem to focus on the rules. There are times when stressful factors cause me more brain power than normal and it is like I regress in my behaviour. That is why it’s so hard to measure autism, as it is not something that you can say x y and z it’s constantly shifting depending on the environment and mindset of that individual.

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Since being a parent I have learnt that there are so many other social rules involved when bringing up a child.

I first it’s lovely when my children where new born as there is less pressure on me to be sociable but since my child has started school last year I noticed that there’s a hell of a lot more interaction going on.

Me being an autistic parent does affects my self esteem. A lot of the time I feel inadequate,  especially as my husband is very good at communicating and engaging with others. It leaves me feeling really angry and frustrated. I know comparing is the worst thing to do but it coincides with me learning of other people.

I think  one of the hardest and upsetting things is when  people don’t see you as an individual but some sort of invalid because you’re autistic. They don’t look past the label or they do but then they just talk down to you in a condescending way. The thing is I am aware exactly what is happening, I just I don’t have the skills to communicate and express myself as clearly as other people do.

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It has really made me feel quite low at times because I feel like I can’t give my child everything that a typical parent has to offer. I suppose that is why I enjoy the school holidays more because I don’t have to worry about the social things. The only downside is that when I return I have to deal with the social side of education and what not.I feel rubbish and I have felt very very low causing me to struggle to get up in the mornings. I have also learnt to avoid situations and tend to get my husband to do them tasks because it’s too upsetting at times to have to face the discrimination against me. I think that’s one of the saddest things about being an autistic parent is the fact that you deal with a lot of rejection or misunderstanding. I like my voice isn’t heard and again that familiar Outcast feeling appears.

Cheers for reading X

Twin Mummy and Daddy
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Cool for cats

Hey readers,

You can learn a lot about cats about how to live a more relaxed life. I hate being human sometimes, I just doubt everything in my tiny little mind. I dread Friday is the worst, it is like I have had a whole week to beat myself up on not being good enough.

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Why do ‘some’ of us torture ourselves, we think we are weak when really we must be strong to get through this personal torment. There are days when all I would love to do is sit back in my hammock and just forget everything.  I know, I know I think too much, that is always been my downfall. I am just so glad for summer holidays, I am exhausted from worrying about not being good enough parent.

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I hate failure, we all fear it but if asked what is success, I wouldn’t be able to tell you so how can I fail if I don’t know what the alternative is?!

Life is much simpler being a cat, all you need to worry about is the small stuff like finding a place that is warm and sunshine touching your fur. How amazing would that be to have to care in the world. Maybe I should ask my husband because he is an expert in it.

Being a cat has so many benefits such as, getting rent free, being able to sleep as much as you want and have the freedom to roam about and piss on your territory . I would definitely be up for that, haha. Even if people annoy you, you cats can walk away and not give a damn, that must be so liberating not caring what other people think. There is no drama about being fat and what worrying about how people view you, you just prance about in your fur all day, look great with no effort whatsoever.

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Told you cats have it great, we can learn a thing or too.

I now leave you on a final quote:

Cats are connoisseurs of comfort.  

James Herriot.

Cheers for reading X

Best of Worst

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Holiday 

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:


because it is the start of six weeks off. Not sure if I should celebrate not having to do the school run etc or poop my pants at the bickering. All though technically it is five weeks now as one week has been done and dusted.

Well what had happened in that week, boys get quality time together mixed with the bickering.

The boys gave learnt the art of pillow frightening.

First trip to the A&E hopefully the last, basically youngest fell of the sofa.and caught his head on the TV corner. He has a small gash and he has got special glue but hopefully it will teach them not to mess on the sofas.

All the routine has gone out of the window.

So as you can see a pretty epic week to kick the summer off.

Hope your enjoying your first week off.

Cheers for reading X

The Reading Residence

Why I disagree with buying teachers presents

Hey readers,

It is the summer holiday break up today and as I took my son to school I witnessed the amount of presents a lot of parents brought with them to hand out to the teachers.

I be honest, I don’t believe in giving teachers presents because for one I am forced to take my child to school and ok I could go down the route of home schooling but I am just capable and I want to give my son the best opportunities.  I am a strong believer in giving people the choice and it feels a little bit false, in the fact that there is pressure from Clintons etc. I believe in choice and it just feels like you have to do it.

Part of me sees it as a competition from parents to get the present (but that is a whole new political post of its own). I wonder whether there is a bit of arse linking because if they are giving praise etc. it can influence how they view the child.

OK, now it’s that some are genuine and what to do something to say thank you to their teacher for helping their child. But what happens if you don’t have the funds and some people can’t even afford a spare quid, so don’t give me that one.

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Why do we have to buy material stuff, ok it is easier to buy a box of chocolates, it just seems that to say thank you to the teacher to buy them stuff. It is peer pressures at its finest, if you haven’t brought a teacher something then there is a change you feel guilty or embarrassed. I don’t think parents should have to feel like this but I know some people do.

So, therefore I believe that it should be band to buy stuff for teachers as parents have enough stuff to buy and find the money (I know this struggle I have been there it makes you feel totally crap as a parent).

Cheers for reading X

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Twin Mummy and Daddy

​How to encourage your toddler to brush their teeth {guest post}

Hey readers,
Today I bring you a guest post from Bhandaldentistry all about how to encourage your toddler to brush their teeth.

Toddlers are a challenge, even at the best of times. You may have a child that loves giggles and hugs all day long, but as soon as it comes to brushing teeth, they have a meltdown. This is especially true if you’re trying to encourage them to brush their own teeth. But there are lots of ways you can turn a potentially uncomfortable and confusing task into something they enjoy.

Make it fun

First, you need to make brushing fun. In the middle of the day, have your child brush his or her toys’ teeth, for some fun practice. When it’s time to brush, sing or play a song for two minutes so your child can anticipate how long the process will take. Finally take your child to get new supplies, and let him or her pick them out. That way, your child has some control over their tooth brushing, and they can pick out the brushes and toothpastes that excite them. 

Encourage independence

You can begin to encourage brushing independence by taking turns. Encourage your child to brush in the morning, followed by a quick sweep by you, while you do the complete evening routine. Or let your child brush for the first minute, while you finish up and get all the spots he or she missed.

Also try brushing with your child. Toddlers love mimicking adults, and this way, your little one can brush with you while seeing how to reach every part of their mouth. If they still don’t want to brush, let them brush your teeth so they can see how funny it can be.

Remember it’s about establishing habits

At the end of the day, they will not get this right, at least not right away. That’s why you’re there to help them get all the spots they’ve missed. The important thing at this stage is that they establish good habits. The good practice will come later. Try to keep that at the heart of everything, and you’ll soon find that your toddler will happily begin to brush his or her own teeth.

This post was written by the team at Bhandal Dental practice. Bhandal Dental Practice have created a free book for children to help with fear of brushing and going to the dentist. For more information please visit their website: Bhandaldentistry.co.uk

Cheers for reading X

Planning

Hey readers,

This week my word is:

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This is because I am consciously aware of the fact that we are fastly approaching the summer holiday. I am not good at adapting to change due to my autism, so I need to plan a system in place with how I am going to get through it. Previous years I tend to get quite obsessed with it but this year I am trying to be general and just have options of things to do when I feel like tearing my hair out.

I have also been to the library and withdrew some books out. I have lost my mojo to read physical books recently so purposely took the time to find some good books to get my teeth stuck into.

My youngest gave me a scare this week, whilst at nursery he fell on a balancing beam and the beam sprang up into his face. So, he has a gorgeous massive brush on his nose, close to his eye socket. Luckily his eyesight is ok and mainly superficial bruising rather then any damage.

Cheers for reading X

The Reading Residence

Mindful

Hey readers,

My word of the week is

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because as a person I am anxious and neurotic at the best times, I am autistic and always self conscious about how I communicate whether that be verbal or non-verbal. I have a lot of self-doubt and I am on edge a lot as a parent. But this week when I have had really high levels of anxiety, I have embraced and gone with it. This is something that I am not very good at because it is scary, generally with my anxiety I get a LOT of intrusive thoughts. It has really been really effective, not all the time but a small time. For me that is progress because I am a firm believer in baby steps and anxiety is something I have to live with. But this week I felt quite proud of my work, it takes a lot of courage to change especially when you are not feeling 100%.

So, I am going to take this opportunity to big myself up because no one else will. You know what I can get stuck perfectionist ways so it is good to see the positive.

Cheers for reading X

The Reading Residence

Heatwave

Hey readers,

My word of the week is

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blinking Nora it is hot, and the sweating is something else. I don’t know how people can enjoy this weather *ahem, my husband* I don’t like humid! It turns me into a moany cow, thank goodness for Twitter where I can just tweet my hatred for this weather. Don’t get me wrong I like sun but not with the stickiness.

Shall I discuss children? why not the struggle of  bedtime, oh my word how hard is it to get children in bed in this heat.

Thank goodness for the sprinkler on my balcony because that is where they have been most of the week, along with tons of showers.

The nights are the worst in the heat, I’m exhausted and hot, such a fun times to get through the days.

Then there is heat stroke, we didn’t even stay in the sun for a short while but they caught it and my this takes the grumpiness on to a new level.

Thank goodness that the weather is changing today, I am so very happy right now about this fact.

Cheers for reading X

The Reading Residence