Why I am against smacking children

Hey readers,

Last week The Association of Educational Psychologists said that they want to ban parents from smacking children at home.

Smacking is banned in schools however parents can smack their child at home as long as it is deemed reasonable.

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I 100% agree that smacking anywhere should be banned because it is physical violence regardless of the amount of strength you do it. I don’t see how children learn from being smacked by their parents, all it does is make them lie better. To me, that is not good for anyone.

I don’t think children learn from smacking if anything I think it can have an impact on their mental health and increase the chances of anxiety. This is because they will be scared in case at any moment the risk of doing anything wrong and that to have negative consequences.

Having this form of violence (in my eyes) can make a child feel really sad. This can make their home life feel crap because of knowing that if they do anything wrong regardless of it was intentionally an accident there is the risk they get hit.

I think hitting is a negative way to parent and it doesn’t solve any problems. It is much better to have other ways to teach the child right from wrong.

If children learn from their parents then they will believe that it is ok to hit someone and then there is the risk that they too may one day hit another person.

girl sitting on vehicle seat while looking at window

I don’t think it is fair that someone bigger then the child can go along and imitate and inflict pain on another. When will it stop, how will it end if it continues where do parents draw the line? How do you know if the parent gets fed up and thinks well got to hit the child harder to get the message through? This situation can escalate in a very toxic homelife impacting on the child’s mental health and other areas such as education.

I think if you want to earn respect from a child it doesn’t work if you hit them if anything it could result in the child hating the parent. It certainly wouldn’t want them to come to the parent and talk about any concerns they may have, as they don’t know how the parent will respond. Then this may cause a negative relationship between the child and parent, that can be damaging for the child.

I myself have been in similar situations and there is nothing worse as a child when you are petrified of going home to the horrible environment. You literally are scared and anxious at school. The anxiety gets worse closer to the end of the day. For me, I couldn’t probably concentrate on my school work because I was filled with dread and worried if I had done anything wrong therefore leading to being hit. It is the most horrible feeling in the world. The anxiety doesn’t just stop there it carries on all the time constant in the background. It is horrible to live like that and that is why I want smacking banned in the home.

Cheers for reading X

Adjusting

Hey readers,

My word of the week is

because my youngest has started full days at school this week and to say he is tired after school is an understatement. I was ambitious one day this week and took him to the library after school thinking he might enjoy it. Turns out nothing but winching and eventually a full down meltdown, joy I certainly learned from that experience. He is defiantly not used to full days like he does now.

I have been to the dentist which I hate but I had to have a filling which sucks, but it is done now. My dentist is social as well when he has fingers in my mouth, why. I can’t answer him coherently.

I have been loving also the darker nights. It feels so much cosy to sit and wrap up with a throw.

I hope you have had a good week.

Cheers for reading X

school

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

This is because it is the return of school and my eldest is going into Year 2 and my youngest started reception.

My youngest was super excited to start school and he absolutely loves it. Although he’s only been doing half days this week until next week and it will be the whole day.

I think one of the reasons why my youngest is so excited because he just loves to be just like his eldest brother. I am pleased to report that he has adapted well and we’ve had no tears which are really good.

For me, it’s slightly strange as it’s so quiet but it is nice to go back to the routine and get things done without having children to entertain. I am amazed at how much easy is to do chores without children about and getting them done in half the time.

I’m not used to the alarm clocks mind and getting up so early so we will slightly tired by the end of the week.

Hope you have had a good week

Cheers for reading X

How to survive a rainy summer holiday day

Hey readers,

We all know we were lucky with the heat in some ways because at least it was dry and you get a sh*t load of washing done in a flash. However, the tides are turning and the risk of rain is high as we still have two weeks left of this holiday. So, how do us parents get through them dreaded wet days, let me tell you how…

Watch a movie. 

Now is an ample opportunity to not feel guilty about the tv on as most parents will be in the same boat. So, why not get an update with the latest hits and sit back and rest them tired parent eyes. Can’t beat cosy cuddles when it is raining cats and dogs outside.

Den. 

One of my kids’ favorite things to do is play with a den. As long as you have chairs or a table or even to cover, this can be great entertainment, especially if you have siblings. Simple pleasures make happy children.

Muddle Puddles.

Don’t be afraid to go out in the rain. Kids love getting their wellies on and jumping in muddie puddles. It doesn’t matter if they get dirty just take some spare clothes or you can change them at home.

boy jumping near grass at daytime

Take a bath. 

Do you know that sometimes when we are staying cooped up indoors with my boys do you know what I give them? A bath…that is right and they love it, especially if there are lots of bubbles. I give them a bath in the afternoon to chill them out a bit. It is a great way to kill a bit of boredom and before you know it you have killed a shed load of time by filling up the bath, doing the bath and then drying them off.

Books. 

Books are great for imagination and such a calming activity for children. The can help read the book if they are old enough and it is an easy way to have a discussion and chat about what the book is all about etc.

Baking. 

My boys love baking in the kitchen and not just for the prospect of licking the spoon when we have finished mixing all the ingredients together. They feel proud of their achievements and you can have the treats when you watch a movie.

pizza kitchen recipe rolling pin

Paint outdoors. 

What kid doesn’t love painting, a fun way to incorporate this is to give your child a brush, paper, and paint then they are free to go wild outside. They get fresh air, your crafting so no guilt. Life is good.

Indoor picnics. 

Picnics are not just for when you outdoors, you can have a lovely picnic at home on the floor. I guarantee this will go down a hit. Just place a picnic blanket on the floor and bring the goodies along, such an alternative way to eat indoors.

close up photography of yellow green red and brown plastic cones on white lined surface

When it is raining is a perfect time to spend some quality time at home with your loved ones and what better way to do something together than to do some of the board games up in the loft.

What kind of things do you do when you’re at home with the kids on a rainy day?

Cheers for reading X

Routine

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

This week I have felt settled. Ut normally accures during this time during the summer holiday when I have got used to the new routine. The boys have been a lot calmer this week too and we have restored normal service.

The eldest is super happy as he is now entered stage 5 of swimming and now he can be the same level as his friend.
On Saturday my husband had a Beaver day at the local scouts and he got invested so now is a officially a beaver leader. I placed a bet that he would be the end of the year and guess what? I was right haha. The boys also enjoyed the Bbq and bouncy castle.

We have also been taking part with the summer challenge at the local library which has helped encourage my son to read.

So overall a rather pleasant week has been had.

I hope to have had a good week.

Cheers for reading X