My word of the week is:
because it has been so cold, I am literally freezing, especially at night. I have even hunted down my hot water bottle and stacked throws up on to my bed at night.
In other news sadly my husband’s uncle died and we need to attend the funeral next week.
Sadly, the school has a ridiculous system with trying to get leave for a child. It doesn’t help the matter that the teacher lies saying that it is the government who deal with it, then the local authority. Turns out it is the head teacher who decides. Get this though the head automatically declines regardless so then it is up to to the local authority anyway.
I am feeling totally frustrated, what is the point in filling a form five days before to get the leave when it means nothing anyway. So, we won’t know now whether we will be have to pay money. We also have to stay due to the fact that it is 3 hours away so that is 2 days equals £240! I know crap!
Anyways hope you have had a good week,
Cheers for reading X
If you are a parent you would have experienced taking your child to the playground. I think they are brilliant resource for everyone to use and here is why.
They get you out the house and get you away from the four walls or watching too much tv.
Playgrounds are a great way of getting a change of scenery and be surrounded by green. Sometimes, just getting away from the same places is a blessing in disguise.
If there is one thing I love more then anything in the world as a parent is finding fun things to do with my child that are free because let’s face it children come with a bloody big price tag, especially when they hit school. So, if I can save some money somewhere then going to the playground is one. Plus it helps with keeping children entertained and stop complaining for awhile that they are a bored.
Playgrounds are great for exercise, playing chase, walking or even pushing a child on the swing all contributes to keeping you active.
Going to the playground allows you to blow some cobwebs of and get some much needed fresh air. It also provides a mental boost, and helps clear your head. It really is amazing such a small and simple activity can have a huge impact on making you feel less crap and giving you the change to think more clearer.
Visiting a playground outdoors gives the child the opportunity to get vitamin D from being out in the fresh air and help build strength in their bones.
Playgrounds encourage free play, where the child decides what they want to do, they can even make up their own games or use their imagination on the playground apparatus. This next point coincides with the above one in the fact that a child can test out there communional skills with socialising with other children at the playground. Therefore possibility of working together to establish what they want to do. There is also the positive effect of finding a person to share the enjoyment of play with someone who has similar interests in what they like to do in the playground.
Therefore I conclude that playgrounds are ACE!
Cheers for reading X
Why are children super fast when they want to be but as soon as a parent is desperate to get someone urgent they go to slough mode!
Here are some thoughts and conversationset I have when trying to get kids ready and out the sodding door.
1) Please get ready, we need to get to school.
2) I hate you hubby for giving me the task of getting the boys ready, you absolute tool.
3) If I you don’t get ready then I am going to turn off the TV but at the same time promising to turn the tv on because you need to sit still because you need to do their hair.
4) If you don’t get ready I will phone your dad and you will be in serious trouble. (Let’s face it no one wants to hear your daddy yell at you, even mummy gets scared with the decibels used).
5) When it gets close to birthday/Christmas or any special event that is important to your little darlings, it is the ultimate blackmail to get them ready and out the door promote. If parenting gets so bad it will be threatening every single day.
6) Shall I ask your teacher if you are like this at school? seems my son fears this one because he is so angelic he doesn’t want the illusion to vanish from the teachers eyes. Works a treat to kick his bottom into gear.
7) Threats about no pudding go down a treat (yes pun intended).
8) If in doubt and you desperate bribes can be used to keep your own sanity in tact. If ANYONE disagrees then they could bloody well come round at 7am and deal with the problem for me, no problem with that I tell you.
9) Stare at your child, if gives them the willies that the arguments must stop or mummy is going to lose her sh*t big time. This normally occurs when on a Friday because we all tired and about had enough of having to go through this drama for the fifth time this week.
10) If your child loves school as much as mine threaten that if they don’t get dressed won’t go to school that day and do nothing all day at home. Amazing how effective that is and they comply to your need of them getting their socks on.
Cheers for reading X
“Aw isn’t she cute” is something I hear a lot when people talk about my youngest. You see he has long blonde hair and apparently people assume that means you’re a girl.
I mean boys cannot possibly look cute or pretty, this is the society we seem to live in and quite frankly it sucks.
What annoys me is why does it bother people so much, why are people asking me why don’t cut his hair? I’m sorry boys are not allowed to have long hair or pig tales or pink no, well f**k you my sons do.
I even have dresses for them and they are not even dress up, like proper dresses from Sainsbury’s and boy that is one way to get a reaction from people.
It is not something I do to get attention. I have social anxiety for crying out loud. I don’t like attention but what I do like is giving my sons the choice to choose what they want and give them opportunities as I would want if I had girls.
My son has a spotty swimsuit for swimming because he wanted to have one because his friend who is a girl had one and he liked it, simple as that.
It is a strange thing this idea to have to dress a boy or girl a detain way. It seem ‘s that if they have a penis then they can’t possibly have a dress or whatever. The same goes for girls wearing blue and trousers.
We need to break down this silly rules, stop dictating us in shops with the two different departments. Let’s allow children to be children and give them the opportunity to choose, this will give better equality for all regardless of their sex.
I don’t want my sons to think they can’t do this or wear that simply because they are a boy. I want them to have the choice because they want to and having that freedom to do so.
We need to break down stereotypes and just accept that it doesn’t matter if a boy wears pink or girl wears blue it doesn’t stop their identity. They are still the same child.
Cheers for reading X
We don’t need introductions we already know each other fairly well, as you are always there permanent 24/7 hiding in the background waiting to pounce.
I an just writing this letter to let you know that I seriously mother f****** hate you. you know this, you know when am weak and you can manipulate me. You think I will listen but I will but up a fight. There are days when there are constant internal squabbles between me and you. It is tiring and no one comes out.winning in this war. But I still put up a fight most days, while you hoover in the background.
I try to be a good mother, I really do . I don’t get it always right but please stop with the pestering, knocking at my door every corner of the way through motherhood. No one provides a manual with this parenting malarkey so how am I supposed to know. Sometimes I am so scared that I don’t know what to do. All you can do is hope for the best. I am constantly learning through trial and error. Sometimes I win, other times I fail dramatically so.
I know you love the control over my weak mind, especially when I’m not certain but I’m sick of this battle between you and me. I have had enough of this constant battering me down with your mental torture.
You take advantage of all the information available, whether that be online, TV or whatever to make a stronger argument and bring me down. I am sick of this punishment! You dampen my mood and make me feel miserable. I shouldn’t have to feel like this. I have a right to be happy just like anyone else.
Ok, I lose my shit from time to time and shout mum makes an appearance. I let the kids watch TV, sometimes I look at my phone a little bit too much but give me a goddamn break it is hard work.
I know people are going to criticise me for making the comment but parenting is a full time job but no-one recognises what you do. Apart from you guilt, you are there waiting at every opportunity to put me down and make me feel like I’m the worst parent in the whole entire world.
Sometimes you mess with my brain so much that I lie awake in the early hours of the morning reflecting and where it all went wrong.
Right now I don’t care anymore and no I’m not 100% perfect but I’ll give it a good try. We all have to learn from my mistakes or how else do I grow as a parent.
I work my ass off, I try to do all them things that you should do as a parent I feed them a clear of them I love them but now and again I make mistakes I am only human after all.
so on a final note to you guilt I want to say f*** you.
a tired mother dealing with this guilt trip!