Introverted parent

Hey readers,

Sometimes I worry that I am not good enough parent simply because I am an introvert. I accept I am an introvert and there are some really good qualities that come with that type of personality.

When I look back as a child I saw people judge me because I didn’t always have a voice or couldn’t find the words to say what I needed to say. I believe that this was a mix of my personality and having autism. Communication is not my strongest point. However, I remember feeling bad because it kept getting mentioned. You see some points in my childhood I lived in the care system and there really was a lot of loud children that wanted to be heard. I was judged because I was not the status quo and then it made me question am I good enough?! I used to think that because I was quite, I was kinda of philosophical in the sense I liked to reflect and ponder over things. People notice loud people, that is fine it takes all sorts to make the world go round. The problem is at such a young age I interpreted the messages I was getting as I was not good enough. Bing quiet wasn’t good, I wouldn’t get anywhere in life because I couldn’t form friendships. To me communication meant opportunity. I still believe that to some extent. Nonetheless, I have come to accept who I am and that world needs both quiet and loud as they both in their own right carry brilliant attributes.

Sadly, there is also a downside, like everything I guess. Sadly, you can’t change who you are, I love quiet time and crave time alone where I can just be left alone to think. When I have time alone it gives me the opportunity to not have to think about the socialising which coincidently my husband thrives off it.

I am lucky in the sense I have a supportive husband that understands my needs and that yes it is selfish but selfish can be good, especially when it keeps the family home life calm.

I find social interaction exhausting with my children at times. I am not saying I hate my children most of the time I enjoy it and find it really fun and amusing. However, it can be really mentally draining for me. I suppose it doesn’t help that I am autistic as well so uses up a lot more energy trying to read the social situation. and trying to work out how to respond correctly. Not to mention my eldest is also autistic and has his own needs on top of everything else.

I think it takes a lot more energy for introverted parents like myself as I spend more time processing emotional stuff and probably over thinking. This can be good but also can be exhausted as it takes it out of you, let’s face it generally parenting is hard work so there is not much energy left for much more.

One good aspect of being an introverted parent is the fact that it can be a positive role model in the sense that shows that it is ok to have quiet time and do your own thing. It can also teach children that not every moment someone wants noise and that sometimes people need space.

Cheers for reading X

Activities to do during a rainy spring day

Hey readers,

I know it Spring and edging towards to summer but as we are all aware we still do have wet days. it can be a pain when it does get so wet that kids get bored, so here are some fun and simple activities you can do when a crisis hits.

Egg crest heads.

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Egg crass heads empty the head out of an egg and put some cress seeds a bit a soil and add water. Leave on the side to grow and Watch your little people’s faces light up.

Books.

Rear View of Boy Sitting at Home

There is nothing better than getting lost in a book to keep their imagination going. If they are a little older you could always get your child to read to you, whilst you still back and relax!

Bake.

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A brilliant way to get your little ones in the kitchen and help bake something delightful like gingerbread men or cornflake cakes,then you can enjoy your yummy treat with your afternoon film.

Movie.

Watch a movie is a great way to relax in the afternoon. Who doesn’t like a cuddle with a throw when it is dreary outside. Also a perfect excuse, if you can, to get five-minute shut-eye, ssssshhhh don’t tell anyone.

Jumping in muddle puddles.

Sometimes we need fresh air to keep our sanities intact. One fun activity to do outside is to jump in muddle puddles. There is nothing finer in life then coming back from a wet excursion and getting into some warm and cosy clothing.

Board games.

Bored games are a great way to spend with the family indoors, whether it is card games, pass the sausage or playing shopping lists it is a great way to kill an hour or two.

Craft.

Iowa man sits at a messy table while holding paint covered pencil and brush

Crating can in many ways, fir ny boys they love colouring in or getting out the paint a picture. It is a brilliant activity when it is wet and you’re stuck indoors. Don’t forget though the ultimate luxury for little ones is decorating a cardboard box.

What things do you like to do with your children to keep them entertained when it is outside?

Cheers for reading X

Gummy bear show, but why oh why?!

Hey readers,

if you have small children then you have been sure to be have had the privilege of having to hear the gummy bear song. If you haven’t heard of it then I beg you do not Google it or else you will never erase that memory from your mind.

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well, my youngest absolutely loves the gummy bear song, it is dame awful. It involves the popular American sweet a gummy bear, bright green bear singing a dreadful song called I’m a gummy bear, yes I am a gummy bear.

Now if that is not bad enough, the producers go further and milk it for all its worth and have only gone and done a blinking show, called the Gummibar and friends. It is wrong and traumatic to have to sit and listen to it .

It is full of nasally singing, bright colours in the show and al the way through it is none stop singing. I need to wear glasses to watch it. The story is so silly and I quite like to punch the gummy bear in the face truth be told.

I just hate it, it is a crap storyline and clearly milking it for all it’s worth. Ok fair enough you have to earn the doh but you killing me slowly with getting my son hooked on it and that is all he ever wants to watch now. FML!

I just want to point out that Gummy bear really needs to invest in some bigger pants as every shot when he is wiggling his butt I see his crack, it is not attractive and he is constantly dancing or singing, which is so painful to my poor little ears and eyes.

One final thought, the song is attractive and a total earworm, whether I want it going round and round it appears I am these days permanently singing it.

Rant OVER!!!

Cheers for reading X

5 ways to put a Spring in your step

Hey readers,

I know it is grey and rainy outside and can sometimes feel hard to get motivated, which is a sad case as can you believe it is Spring. So, here are my five ways to put a spring in your step.

De-clutter

There is nothing more cathartic then having a good clean out, sort out the things you want and not need. It gets stuff if suitable on eBay and sells or give to charity. I also love to get organised as sometimes as a parent always have the time or energy to put things in order. So, this could mean putting items in the right location to sorting out your paperwork so that it is in order and clear to find.

Go outside

It can be hard to feel motivated when it is so wet and grim but sometimes it is good to get outdoors for your soul. Put your wellies on and go out with the kids, they love splashing in puddles and you feel tons better after getting fresh air.

Flowers

A lovely way to bring Spring into your home and some colour are to buy some flowers, even if it is just a bunch of £1 daffodils they really do brighten up your mood.

Spring Clean

Nothing says Springtime like a good old deep cleanse around your home, dusting them cop webs of and giving the place a good old bleach. It is lovely now again to feel like a new page has turned and you feel so much better in your home.

Try something new

Sometimes we as parents or adults can get stuck in a rhythm and we do the same old because change is scary or hard work. However, trying something new can recreate the excitement, whether that be doing exercise, learning a new hobby or visiting somewhere you have not been before being a great way to get that buzz back in life.

Cheers for reading X

Wales

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

WALES

This week we went to visit my husband’s relatives in Wales. We spend a few days at Wales and even though the weather was a bit iffy, it was lovely to see a change of scenery.

We stayed in a Premier Inn and my boys are so excited, we have stayed in a fair few so they are used to them. They just get so excited and knowing they can have American pancakes for breakfast they were simply living their best life.

We went down a bit and it was really fun to explore and do something different. Plus, it was free and there was a museum as well, perfect for me, lol.

We went for walks in the countryside and it was lovely to be just in the open area and see nature. I love walking so it was lovely to have a wonder with the boys.

Hope you have a had a good week.

Cheers for reading X

How to cope with sleep deprivation

Hey readers,

When I was pregnant with my first child I was often told about the struggle I will face of lack of sleep when you become a parent. But boy they weren’t sh*tting me, I didn’t take any notice at the time because I was more bothered about finding a place to puke. The first couple of months is a killer but you can get through it as so many parents have before. Below I share with some of the things that have helped me when I have experienced sleep deprivation.

It is ok to ask for help, let your partner take care of some duties well you have a rest.

Sleep when the baby sleeps, everything else can wait and get sorted out at a later stage.

Make sure that you are eating correctly as food provides energy that you so desperately will need.

Be aware that your environment has changed, you can’t do everything and you need to be kind to yourself.

Learn the art of delegation – priorities that are important and need to be done urgently and learn to burn things off. At the end of the day, you can always come back to them at the end of the day.

Sometimes a walk outside can do wonders with getting some fresh air. It is amazing how just a walk around the block can be really beneficial. It helped me a lot in the early days when I felt like I was going insane looking at the four walls.

I know it is hard to believe but remember there is light at the end of the tunnel and it does get better. Soon, the baby will grow in the amount of time it sleeps through and before you know it you will experience a night where they sleep a solid seven hours straight and it is bloody amazing. I still remember that first time.

Is there anything that has helped you with sleep deprivation? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Cheers for reading X

Easter cornflake cakes

Hey readers,

Looking to do something with a young child over the Easter holidays then you need to check out this simple recipe.

Ingredients

50g of butter

100g of milk or dark chocolate

100g cornflakes

3tbsp of golden syrup

Mini eggs (for decoration)

Cupcake cases (my Easter themed ones come from Poundland and they have decorative pictures on a stick that can stick in the cake).

Method

1) Measure out the ingredients.

2) Melt the butter and chocolate, one at a time in the microwave.

3) In a bowl place the corn flakes, add the golden syrup, chocolate and butter. Mix all together so the cornflakes get all covered in chocolate mix.

4) Pour the mix into cupcake holders (o got my Easter themed ones from Poundland). Stick the decorative sticks in if you have some.

5) Place a couple of mini eggs in the middle.

6) Place the cakes on a tray and put them in the fridge for a good couple of hours or until set.

7) Voila there you easter cakes.

Enjoy.

Cheers for reading X