End

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:


because it is finally the end of the summer term and glad for a break because both I and the boys are shattered. why is it at the end of the year I just feel washed out.

Hubby has benefits sorting out camping as we are doing it again this year. I struggle with spending days away with my autism so we are going to have to small holidays in the UK, making it more manageable for me and my health. I am blessed that my eldest is so understanding with me and how I am.

I can not believe also that now both my boys will be going to school in September, eek! Also means having to pay for two sets of school shoes, joy!

Husband has been helping at my son’s beaver class and he is now an official a leader. I predicted he would by the end of the year, I love it when. I am right haha

Cheers for reading X

Events

Hey readers,

This weeks word of the week is

because there has been so much on. First my eldest had his sports day. Was really pleased that he is learning to not get blogged down with the whole winning but focusing on just enjoying the sports.

My youngest had his first taster session at school this week and he loved it. He loved all the activities and just being in the same school as his big brother. Both boys were happy to find that the youngest is going to be in the same reception class that the eldest when he frist started. Simple pleasures eh when you are young.

In other news my eldest had his school parents review to see how he has been getting on during the summer term. He has been meeting his targets which is good because we were worried. when my ds1 comes howne he frequently says that he gets zero for his spelling at least we know now that not to be the case and he is doing alright. The way his anxiety was really got us worried. So that gave us some reassurance.

Cheers for reading X

Feed is best

Hey readers,

So you probably heard of the news story today regarding midwives been told to respect the decision by the mother if she decides not to breastfeed her baby.


This is such good news to hear because when I could not breastfeed my baby I was devasted and thought that was it I am officially the world’s sh*test parent. Even though I tried my hardest I just didn’t have the co-ordination due to my spatial awareness difficulties due to being autistic.

I remember going to a breastfeeding group pre baby and the sheer pressure from the group was scary. I felt like if I didn’t do this then I would be such a bad person.

After my eldest was born I tried for two/three days to breastfeed. I was in hospital for the two days due to complications. Every single time I needed help. I could not do it myself. Even after when I returned home I had my husband do it for me. Again it made me feel like a massive failure and it stopped me bonding with my son. I felt so angry with myself and feel that I was not adequate in being a mum.

I think the guilt of not being able to breastfeed was one of the things that triggered postnatal depression sadly.

Luckily, however, I saw a brilliant midwife who told me to just bottle feed, I was baffled but then I thought well actually yeah why not. She told me she bottle fed her children and it made me feel so much better knowing that it was OK to formula feed. Having that support was a big deal. Just knowing it was OK to do so and nothing bad was going to happen helped make me feel relief like I have never felt before.

So to hear the changes is such a positive step forward. I am not knocking breastfeeding but I think it is important to be mindful that not every woman can do it and that is OK. As long as the baby is feed that is much more important.

Cheers for reading X

How to stop your child from getting out of bed

Hey readers,

Sometimes we go through difficult times with our children where they struggle with different things happening in their life. I have myself experienced with both my boys times when they struggled to settle and go to sleep. They constantly would keep coming into the living room and saying they could not sleep. It was a blip and we worked through the difficulties. I tried several different things and thought I would share some techniques that maybe someone else may find useful.

Sad little boy sitting on the edge of his bed.

Routine.

Stick to a routine that suits you and your family needs. Kids love the consistency and if they know what is happening they can relax. It does take time but they will get used to it and it will make it easier for the child to settle down long-term.

Stay calm.

It can be easy to lose your s**t as a parent, it is hard work and very tiring at times, especially when your little darlings try to test you. But stay calm, it can help make the situation run smoother without the added tension.

Returning child to bed.

Keep putting them back to bed without any comments just a kiss and cuddle. I have been through this settling period a handful of times and they will eventually settle down once they know that they are not getting any benefit from doing it.

Worries.

Sometimes your child may have anxieties or something that they are worried about that is stopping them from sleeping. Ask them if there is anything that is on their mind and discusses options to help ease the anxiety.

Toilet.

Always make sure they go to the toilet before bed because any opportunity they can get up for they will believe me, and you.

Blackout blinds.

This is more relevant for the summer time but having blackout blinds are a life saver during the lighter months to help keep the room dark for your little ones.

Music.

I have only recently tested out playing relaxing music but both boys respond really well to it. We put a Bluetooth speaker in the room and have the music in the other room because I wanted an easy life. My children are the sort of kids to mess about at any given opportunity.

Reward charts.

Reward charts should be used short term for best effect to help motivate a child to change their behavior. Basically, if you stay in your bed you get a star and put it on a chart. When you collect x amount of stars you will be rewarded positively whether it be going to the park, getting an ice cream or magazine. It can be anything like that to help keep the child motivated. It is a great visual if it is on the wall so they can see where they need to work to.

Cheers for reading X

27 things you take for granted before you became a mum

Hey readers,

Sometimes as a mum, you don’t get much reward (I am not complaining because this is the life I wanted).However, you never really appreciate your life before you have children until you have children.

Girl in flight

Here is a list of some of the kind of things you took for granted before you became a mummy.

1) A lie in.

2) Going shopping by yourself.

3) Being spontaneous.

4) Only responsible for yourself.

5) Not having to read the same book over and over again.

6) Quietness.

7) Pee in peace.

8) Not having to share anything, haha.

9) Having an adult conversation.

10) You never knew what Peppa Pig was.

11) Having a conversation.

12) Not having to read yourself.

13) Hot drink.

14) Not having your clothes smeared in snot.

15) A Good night sleep.

16) Being ill and not doing anything.

17) Reading a book.

18) Having a tidy home.

19) Peace of mind.

20) Running errands without every five minutes having a small human ask are we going home yet.

21) Having a shower.

22) Not being late.

23) Having nice furniture.

24) Personal space.

25) Time.

26) Energy.

27) eating in a restaurant.

Cheers for reading X

5 ways to put a Spring in your step

Hey readers,

I know it is grey and rainy outside and can sometimes feel hard to get motivated, which is a sad case as can you believe it is Spring. So, here are my five ways to put a spring in your step.

De-clutter

There is nothing more cathartic then having a good clean out, sort out the things you want and not need. It gets stuff if suitable on eBay and sells or give to charity. I also love to get organised as sometimes as a parent always have the time or energy to put things in order. So, this could mean putting items in the right location to sorting out your paperwork so that it is in order and clear to find.

Go outside

It can be hard to feel motivated when it is so wet and grim but sometimes it is good to get outdoors for your soul. Put your wellies on and go out with the kids, they love splashing in puddles and you feel tons better after getting fresh air.

Flowers

A lovely way to bring Spring into your home and some colour are to buy some flowers, even if it is just a bunch of £1 daffodils they really do brighten up your mood.

Spring Clean

Nothing says Springtime like a good old deep cleanse around your home, dusting them cop webs of and giving the place a good old bleach. It is lovely now again to feel like a new page has turned and you feel so much better in your home.

Try something new

Sometimes we as parents or adults can get stuck in a rhythm and we do the same old because change is scary or hard work. However, trying something new can recreate the excitement, whether that be doing exercise, learning a new hobby or visiting somewhere you have not been before being a great way to get that buzz back in life.

Cheers for reading X

Wales

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

WALES

This week we went to visit my husband’s relatives in Wales. We spend a few days at Wales and even though the weather was a bit iffy, it was lovely to see a change of scenery.

We stayed in a Premier Inn and my boys are so excited, we have stayed in a fair few so they are used to them. They just get so excited and knowing they can have American pancakes for breakfast they were simply living their best life.

We went down a bit and it was really fun to explore and do something different. Plus, it was free and there was a museum as well, perfect for me, lol.

We went for walks in the countryside and it was lovely to be just in the open area and see nature. I love walking so it was lovely to have a wonder with the boys.

Hope you have a had a good week.

Cheers for reading X