Sometimes we go through difficult times with our children where they struggle with different things happening in their life. I have myself experienced with both my boys times when they struggled to settle and go to sleep. They constantly would keep coming into the living room and saying they could not sleep. It was a blip and we worked through the difficulties. I tried several different things and thought I would share some techniques that maybe someone else may find useful.
Stick to a routine that suits you and your family needs. Kids love the consistency and if they know what is happening they can relax. It does take time but they will get used to it and it will make it easier for the child to settle down long-term.
It can be easy to lose your s**t as a parent, it is hard work and very tiring at times, especially when your little darlings try to test you. But stay calm, it can help make the situation run smoother without the added tension.
Returning child to bed.
Keep putting them back to bed without any comments just a kiss and cuddle. I have been through this settling period a handful of times and they will eventually settle down once they know that they are not getting any benefit from doing it.
Sometimes your child may have anxieties or something that they are worried about that is stopping them from sleeping. Ask them if there is anything that is on their mind and discusses options to help ease the anxiety.
Always make sure they go to the toilet before bed because any opportunity they can get up for they will believe me, and you.
This is more relevant for the summer time but having blackout blinds are a life saver during the lighter months to help keep the room dark for your little ones.
I have only recently tested out playing relaxing music but both boys respond really well to it. We put a Bluetooth speaker in the room and have the music in the other room because I wanted an easy life. My children are the sort of kids to mess about at any given opportunity.
Reward charts should be used short term for best effect to help motivate a child to change their behavior. Basically, if you stay in your bed you get a star and put it on a chart. When you collect x amount of stars you will be rewarded positively whether it be going to the park, getting an ice cream or magazine. It can be anything like that to help keep the child motivated. It is a great visual if it is on the wall so they can see where they need to work to.
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Sometimes as a mum, you don’t get much reward (I am not complaining because this is the life I wanted).However, you never really appreciate your life before you have children until you have children.
Here is a list of some of the kind of things you took for granted before you became a mummy.
1) A lie in.
2) Going shopping by yourself.
3) Being spontaneous.
4) Only responsible for yourself.
5) Not having to read the same book over and over again.
7) Pee in peace.
8) Not having to share anything, haha.
9) Having an adult conversation.
10) You never knew what Peppa Pig was.
11) Having a conversation.
12) Not having to read yourself.
13) Hot drink.
14) Not having your clothes smeared in snot.
15) A Good night sleep.
16) Being ill and not doing anything.
17) Reading a book.
18) Having a tidy home.
19) Peace of mind.
20) Running errands without every five minutes having a small human ask are we going home yet.
21) Having a shower.
22) Not being late.
23) Having nice furniture.
24) Personal space.
27) eating in a restaurant.
Cheers for reading X
Looking for a simple effect chocolate sponge cake. Then check out my recipe below.
150g milk chocolate
6oz self-raising flour
7-inch cake tin
1) Preheat the oven 170c and grease the sandwich tin and line with parchment paper.
2) Put all the sugar and butter into a bowl and mix together with an electrical whisk.
3) Crack all the eggs into a jug, then slowly pour a little egg into the mix and whisk. The consistency should be creamy.
4) Next gradually add the flour and mix into the mixture until the flour is all mixed in.
5) Melt the chocolate in the microwave for a minute and then mix into the mixture.
6) Pour the mixture into the cake tin.
7) Place in the centre of the oven. Cook for 25 minutes then checks the cake with a toothpick to check if the cake is cooked. I had to constantly check it a fair few times (5-minute intervals) until the stick was clear.
8) Take the cake out of the tin and place it on to a cooling rack to cool down.
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I know it is grey and rainy outside and can sometimes feel hard to get motivated, which is a sad case as can you believe it is Spring. So, here are my five ways to put a spring in your step.
There is nothing more cathartic then having a good clean out, sort out the things you want and not need. It gets stuff if suitable on eBay and sells or give to charity. I also love to get organised as sometimes as a parent always have the time or energy to put things in order. So, this could mean putting items in the right location to sorting out your paperwork so that it is in order and clear to find.
It can be hard to feel motivated when it is so wet and grim but sometimes it is good to get outdoors for your soul. Put your wellies on and go out with the kids, they love splashing in puddles and you feel tons better after getting fresh air.
A lovely way to bring Spring into your home and some colour are to buy some flowers, even if it is just a bunch of £1 daffodils they really do brighten up your mood.
Nothing says Springtime like a good old deep cleanse around your home, dusting them cop webs of and giving the place a good old bleach. It is lovely now again to feel like a new page has turned and you feel so much better in your home.
Try something new
Sometimes we as parents or adults can get stuck in a rhythm and we do the same old because change is scary or hard work. However, trying something new can recreate the excitement, whether that be doing exercise, learning a new hobby or visiting somewhere you have not been before being a great way to get that buzz back in life.
Cheers for reading X