How to stop your child from getting out of bed

Hey readers,

Sometimes we go through difficult times with our children where they struggle with different things happening in their life. I have myself experienced with both my boys times when they struggled to settle and go to sleep. They constantly would keep coming into the living room and saying they could not sleep. It was a blip and we worked through the difficulties. I tried several different things and thought I would share some techniques that maybe someone else may find useful.

Sad little boy sitting on the edge of his bed.

Routine.

Stick to a routine that suits you and your family needs. Kids love the consistency and if they know what is happening they can relax. It does take time but they will get used to it and it will make it easier for the child to settle down long-term.

Stay calm.

It can be easy to lose your s**t as a parent, it is hard work and very tiring at times, especially when your little darlings try to test you. But stay calm, it can help make the situation run smoother without the added tension.

Returning child to bed.

Keep putting them back to bed without any comments just a kiss and cuddle. I have been through this settling period a handful of times and they will eventually settle down once they know that they are not getting any benefit from doing it.

Worries.

Sometimes your child may have anxieties or something that they are worried about that is stopping them from sleeping. Ask them if there is anything that is on their mind and discusses options to help ease the anxiety.

Toilet.

Always make sure they go to the toilet before bed because any opportunity they can get up for they will believe me, and you.

Blackout blinds.

This is more relevant for the summer time but having blackout blinds are a life saver during the lighter months to help keep the room dark for your little ones.

Music.

I have only recently tested out playing relaxing music but both boys respond really well to it. We put a Bluetooth speaker in the room and have the music in the other room because I wanted an easy life. My children are the sort of kids to mess about at any given opportunity.

Reward charts.

Reward charts should be used short term for best effect to help motivate a child to change their behavior. Basically, if you stay in your bed you get a star and put it on a chart. When you collect x amount of stars you will be rewarded positively whether it be going to the park, getting an ice cream or magazine. It can be anything like that to help keep the child motivated. It is a great visual if it is on the wall so they can see where they need to work to.

Cheers for reading X

You know your a school mum when…

Hey readers,

My eldest is in year one in primary school and I have noticed some things that happen once you become a school mum. Here are some of the signs you are definitely a school mum.

Mornings

are a slapdash affair, trying to remain calm but more frequently than not losing your s**t about the fact, your child can take 30 bloody mins and still not got their shoes on.

Black Round Analog Wall Clock

Letters, Letters, Letters

How many? the never ending forms of dates of book sales to trips and parents evening. It is non-stop and at times a bit overwhelming trying to keep on track of it all.

Homework

 is now something you have to get done and let’s face it on a Sunday night mad dash to get something coherent down.

Close-up of Woman Working

Social Pressure

Knowing that you are losing the walls of protection of your child and social pressure is a big player now and that it is just the start.

Money

Having to keep a check on making sure that you have paid for XYZ. You basically need a diary to keep on top of all the payments and dates that are happening.

Lost Property

Constant arguments of wondering how your son could lose this and that. Bringing home someone else’s jumper or at the end of the term accidentally losing his pumps from three weeks ago and not mentioning it to us, which coincidentally it is now half term holiday so you can’t do naff all about it.

PTA

 is there pestering you every week about this or that just so they can look good amongst all us other parents who are totally below there standards.

Assembly

Having to sit and listen to this and that committee every week it is something, why can’t they just let kids be kids and actually learn to fail instead of constantly trying to see positive in everything.

Free stock photo of wood, school, room, row

School Run

Arguing with your spouse with who is going to collect your child as you know it is mayhem and you can’t stand the small talk waiting for your little child to be returned to you.

Statistics

When teachers can’t be arsed to listen to you and feel totally helpless because all they see is one side of our child and they seem more bothered about attendance.

Cheers for reading X

Wales

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

WALES

This week we went to visit my husband’s relatives in Wales. We spend a few days at Wales and even though the weather was a bit iffy, it was lovely to see a change of scenery.

We stayed in a Premier Inn and my boys are so excited, we have stayed in a fair few so they are used to them. They just get so excited and knowing they can have American pancakes for breakfast they were simply living their best life.

We went down a bit and it was really fun to explore and do something different. Plus, it was free and there was a museum as well, perfect for me, lol.

We went for walks in the countryside and it was lovely to be just in the open area and see nature. I love walking so it was lovely to have a wonder with the boys.

Hope you have a had a good week.

Cheers for reading X

How to cope with sleep deprivation

Hey readers,

When I was pregnant with my first child I was often told about the struggle I will face of lack of sleep when you become a parent. But boy they weren’t sh*tting me, I didn’t take any notice at the time because I was more bothered about finding a place to puke. The first couple of months is a killer but you can get through it as so many parents have before. Below I share with some of the things that have helped me when I have experienced sleep deprivation.

It is ok to ask for help, let your partner take care of some duties well you have a rest.

Sleep when the baby sleeps, everything else can wait and get sorted out at a later stage.

Make sure that you are eating correctly as food provides energy that you so desperately will need.

Be aware that your environment has changed, you can’t do everything and you need to be kind to yourself.

Learn the art of delegation – priorities that are important and need to be done urgently and learn to burn things off. At the end of the day, you can always come back to them at the end of the day.

Sometimes a walk outside can do wonders with getting some fresh air. It is amazing how just a walk around the block can be really beneficial. It helped me a lot in the early days when I felt like I was going insane looking at the four walls.

I know it is hard to believe but remember there is light at the end of the tunnel and it does get better. Soon, the baby will grow in the amount of time it sleeps through and before you know it you will experience a night where they sleep a solid seven hours straight and it is bloody amazing. I still remember that first time.

Is there anything that has helped you with sleep deprivation? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Cheers for reading X

Break

Hey readers,

my word of the week is:

because it is the last week of term and I am knackered. I always am but have to say I am a wingy cow, haha!

My eldest did me proud, we have always struggled with homework. He protests every time he hates homework. I encouraged him to do a bit and remind him that once it is done that he then has the rest of the night to play.

Well, he did his homework and then decided he wanted to do all of it. I told him he could do it tomorrow but he was having none of it and wanted to complete it there and then.

Another big achievement for him is he made up all the sentences by himself with no prompt. Now, this may seem like nothing but this child struggles with abstract and thinking ideas without prompts. So, when he did do sentences I was pretty proud of him as I know this is a big challenge for him.

hope you have lovely Easter.

Cheers for reading X