Those that make the loudest noise get heard!

Hey readers,

Those that make the loudest noise get heard. I know this totally the opposite of a similar saying and agree that you don’t always have to make the biggest noise. However, in some situations, you need to speak out and make that bloody noise to be noticed. This is a lesson that has taken me years to work out. I used to be reserved, even on my blog I worry about what to write and scared that if I am too honest people won’t like it.

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 I suffer from mental health conditions (OCD, anxiety, depression, social anxiety) and some of the thoughts that I have scared people. Living with mental illness is a very dark place to be and them thoughts that are taboo, I have to live with every single day. The kind of thoughts I have is thinking about not being here, the world be better off without me, I can’t cope anymore I just want to die. I dread getting up and having to get through another day. This is real life for me, it’s not pretty, it’s tough and I don’t chose to feel this crap if I could wave a magic wand I would be there like a shoot. I want to be More open and raw on my blog because that is what I like to read from others. I am not looking for solutions or sympathy, it is just my little place to express myself. Sometimes, just writing it down can be so cathartic and really beneficial, instead of bottling it in.

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I need to stop feeling so ashamed or worry I talk about anxiety or depression a lot. because you know what it is there in my life a lot. It is part of me so naturally is one my biggest influences on the content I make. One major thing I worry about is being open about my mental health on my blog and then maybe at a later date not getting a job because of it.

I think this conservative sort of keeping quiet and carry on mentality stems from childhood and the way I was brought. My earlier years I was brought a Roman Catholic which is pretty hardcore.

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So, I am slowly changing my thought processes and the way I communicate. It may not be to everyone’s cup of tea but someone may stumble across it appreciate that they do have similar feelings they are not alone. Mental health is very isolating and gets bad press because you know I have come across people that think I am being a drama queen, but accepting that is OK. The more we talk about mental illness the better chance of breaking down the stigma. I believe that mental health should be treated equally the same as physical health.

Cheers for reading X

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Thrive App Review

Hey readers,

If you like me suffer with stress or anxiety then I have found a way that may help you and that is an app called Thrive . It is available on android and iOS.

So what is Thrive? well in a nutshell it is a service that provides helpful information and tools to reduce stress and anxiety, therefore making you thrive in life.

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When you first start the app it will go through questions on how you have felt over the past two weeks such as I have been experiencing not much enjoyment in activities. There helps give the app a baseline on your mood and also the areas that you need to improve on such as finding ways to wind down or getting more sleep.

The background of the app is a island on a beach and has soothing music to help make you feel more calmer.

Then there are three islands that you can navigate around which each having sub categories for tools for you to use to help you.

On the first island there is:

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Breathing 

Provides a step-to-step guide on how to do the breathing with you. It recommends that you do it three times a day for three minutes.

Meditation

These are guided meditation to help you relax. There are a variety of types such as sensory (focusing on sounds) to meditation in learning to not engage in worrying thoughts. There are different length meditation from five minutes to 25 minutes.

Deep Muscles

Works though all the muscles from the top to the bottom of the body and learning to untense and relax your muscles.

Self Suggestion

Using a phase like Keep calm and going through an exercise to help you relax.

Second Island consists of all things Zen like.

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Zen Garden

If you are like me and enjoy practical activities then this will be a good one for you.  Basically, it is a virtual Japanese rock garden when you focus on creating a garden that consists of calming features like water. It is practical but calming as well, as you are concentrating on the garden and design as opposed to the stress that is on your mind.

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Zen Challenge

Is a game where you have different levels to get one  bucket to another bucket. It starts of easy but does get hard.

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Final island consists of:

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Message

Where you can create a message of encouragement and in turn receive one back (I believe it is for other users of the app, I don’t know the person personally). PHOTO

Progress

Where you track how well you have been doing through the week or month.  You can revalue how you are feeling, how much times you have spent on activities giving you insight to what is working and what needs to be improved, if anything.

Mood Meter

You can analyse your mood with the mood meter. It is grey cloud at the bottom to indicate totally sadness and in contrast at the top is sunshine where everything is hunky dory.

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Wellbeing

This section looks at the concerns you raised organically when you first signed up to the app and then there is information about why for instant sleep is important. Further down there are tips and ways to help make the situation better. Such as not drinking caffeine before bed and getting blackout blinds.

Overall, I really like this app as it is practical and something you can use as much or as little as you want. You can use the tools that suit you, as everyone is different. What may work for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. A good point about this app is it is on your phone and you can use it anywhere. So, for instance I struggle with social anxiety. If I am particularly anxious on the day of a social situation I can go to the bathroom and do a three minute breathing technique to help reduce the anxiety.  I like the fact there is more than one option giving you that choice to tailor to your needs.

I have always found through my own experience as someone suffers with mental health issues, is that doing something practical when you feel  dire really can make you feel tons better. It gives back that empowerment and seeking out some help can build your confidence when you are feeling so rubbish.

I can’t really fault the app and give it a 5* because it is important to spend time on your mental health.

Cheers for reading X

I recieved app payment in exchange of review. All opinions are entirely my own.

 

10 Ways to deal with anger!

Hey readers,

I get frustrated a lot because of my autism. I tend to then result in going down the angry root, easy and it gets rid of that pent up energy. That being said it can have consequences and yes some angry can be good, not for me I use it wrongly. I have however over the years learnt slowly to redirect that angry into more productive ways. So, I am going to share with you ways that have helped me deal with anger.

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1. If you can go to your room and punch a pillow it will do wonders and stops any angry.

2. Go out for a walk and get away from the stressful situation.

3. Write down them frustrations, you will be amazed at how therapeutic after it is to clear the thoughts from your head.

4. Count to ten, especially when in the moment. I find that when doing it stops the instant rage and can give you that breather to think clearer.

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5. Walk away from the situation and give yourself time to calm down.

6. If it is something you need to make a decision or impulse give yourself time before doing some rash when you are not in the frame of mind to make a clear decision.

7. Anger tends to mask another emotion such as hurt, depression, sadness. It can be easier to be angry as a defense mechanism in order to protect yourself. If you can speak to someone whether be a doctor, friend or family member that you can trust to discuss deep feelings and allow them to come to the surface instead of being suppressed, may be a real benefit for your mental health long term.

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8. Do some physical exercise like running, swimming or whatever tickles your fancy. to get rid of that frustration can do  the world of good for your health.

9. Keep a journal of how you feel when anger occurs. Overtime you can evaluate what kind of things trigger the anger.

10. Have a plan in place for when the anger comes so you know what you can do when the anger occurs. You will tons better because you are taking action of managing your control and if it is anxiety based knowing how to respond or what triggers it can help you feel better about dealing with the situation.

What kind of things help you when experiencing anger?

Cheers for reading X