Trends that should die forever!!!

Hey readers,

Watch out girls then is a returning trend that is coming this summer – underbun! If you have not heard of an underbun it is basically where you have such short shorts that your bottom slips out. Now I don’t care about flesh sharing but sometimes girls can show far too much for the eyes to see.

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Nude leggings are just a no no for me, sorry. They are not attractive and tell everyone the truth, no one wants to see them stretched over your backside, unless your stick thin it is revolting. They are also in a disgusting colour and they just not flattering at all, if you own a pair do us all a favour and bin them!

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What is it with glitter in your roots, seriously it looks like someone has sneezed on your head or you have a really bad case of coloured dandruff. Whoever thought this was cool, it is not, so please just die off!

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A recent trend that is growing in popularity is fur slides. To me they look like something that resembles a middle class lady of leisure that struts about in her silk dressing gown. They just look cheap and tacky, seriously if Rihanna fell of the cliff would everyone else jump off too?! I am glad I am so old that I just don’t care anymore (not that did when I was younger) to care about being hip and fashionable.

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Tracksuit bottoms with the word juicy plastered on the bottom, just looks awful. I thought they had there day but they seem to be reappearing in my local area, please just stop, I don’t want to be forced to look at your bottom.

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Fake tan just looks horrific, streaky and unnatural. Why do this, it is just not right, are they blind, do women not see this. Ok, some can get it right but a majority go overboard or can not blend it in correctly causing it to have that lovely streaky marking. I have done it once myself, never again. I looked like the angry orange and wasted money when I could of just brought a bar of chocolate and have been happy as Larry.

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Is there trends that you wish to fizzle out promto?

Cheers for reading X

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Book Review – Mad Girl by Bryony Gordon

Hey readers,

I love a book that you can lose yourself  totally  in and can’t wait for every opportunity to sit to flick through the pages. This book did just that it is a biography of Bryony Gordon who is a journalist for several years. She writes openly and honestly about her first hand experience of living with OCD and clinical depression.

 

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As a suffer off both clinical depression and OCD I felt I could really identity with how Bryony expressed her experiences clearly, how out of nowhere something triggered causing the panic and obsession. Almost like someone flicking on a switch.

I feel that this is a honest reflection of OCD. It is also not your typical cleaning OCD but a main focus on the thoughts and how they influence behaviour.

As a mother I also found the area about motherhood particularly around pregnancy interesting and relatable. Especially when it is your first time pregnancy can be very stressful and make you feel very paranoid especially with the debate about whether or not you should or should not take anti-depressants and the effect that it will have on your new born.

I think it is an interesting observation mentioned in the book about the fact that Bryony comes from a middle class family that was fairly stable with not a lot of trigger to cause mental illness. It goes to show that money can’t pay for everything and that mental health effects all walks of life.  The only good think about being wealthy is getting better care privately. The reason Bryony and her mum chose private over NHS is shockingly poor and a long waiting list to boot.Though she chats openly that it doesn’t matter as you still have to work hard to get a good therapist that understands you to help with your recovery.

It is a brilliant account of how OCD can feed off you when you are mentally low such as being in abusive relationship can trigger OCD behaviour.

Even if you don’t suffer from OCD it is fantastic way to help you understand better  about the condition and help increase awareness for mental illness. Also how hard it is to find the right help and that if the Dr’s dealt with it sooner then it would possibly be not as bad as the thoughts are not been long lasted for years as a way to cope with life stresses.

The best advice  Bryony concludes is cutting back on alcohol/exercise/eating healthy and just making sure that every area of your life is catered for can help reduce the OCD.

Bryony also reflects on her experience of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and the power of thought.  How CBT  worked for her and now accepts that slips happen, OCD thoughts will always be there but accepting them as just that but not taking them as gospel is the biggest progress to live a better more fulfilled life.

A powerful message is that mental illness is not on the same level of importance of physical health. If you had a broken leg you would get it plastered. But mental health is still a taboo that is not talked about and at times shamed upon with stigma or being blasé with comments about being a bit OCD with putting clothing straight. It is much more then complex and intrusive then simply having things in a certain way.

Bryony set up a group called mental health mates where strangers meet up in London to  walk and talk about mental illness.There is no demand to change just a place to not feel so alone and isolated. I think it is a brilliant idea and I wish there were more groups around in the UK.

In my personal opinion I think this is  one of the best books I have read of a first account of living with OCD. It is not pretentious or glamorised,  just trying to get the message out that whatever background shit happens. It is great to help get the message about what it is really like to live with OCD. I definitely recommend it.

Cheers for reading X

Pink Pear Bear

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Peeved off 

Hey readers,
Do you ever get days that piss you off. Seriously today is one of them. Whatever I look at makes me miffed. I think it because I an due on and I am slowly transforming into psycho bitch,I kid you not! That is what hubby calls me when the painters and decorators come and visit. So here is my list of things that have really irritated the hell out of me today. Be warned I have fire coming out of my mouth.

1) Left over balloons that pop randomly that make you jump out of your skin and really hurt my ears.

2) NT’s not understanding how change and swapping plans makes me a nervous wreck. One minute I have a plan and then you go along and wreck that by changing it to something completely different. I struggle with flexible thinking but you just say I am treating you bad and it doesn’t matter if I have Asperger as it is all bullshit and I am just being childish. Yep misunderstood or what and let’s face it autism can be displayed in childlike behaviour that is just the nature of the beast!

3) Having long periods of time spend with a person that you are warn out.I love the people put focusing on the social interaction is so hard not to mention the tedious social chit chat. It is also really challenging for me to have to think on my feet and try to comment on the moment. Sometimes my mind just goes blank not because I am bored but it is a real struggle to deal with what is happening and trying to work it all out. It sucks all my energy and sooner or later I will snap as I don’t have any respite till late and if I dare try to go for a break I am viewed as being anti-social and being a misery guts for isolating myself from the situation.

4) Your tone of voice is hurting my ears. To me you hate me and I just want to vanish and hide away. You think I am being mellow dramatic but something deep inside me wants to scream or breakdown in tears.

5) Having to adapt and deal with others gaining control is hard for me as I like control. Having control is comforting and soothing for me . I like to know what is happening and knowing the answers to be then taken off me I feel lost and anxious. It can trigger meltdowns or me wanting to self harm as I hate the situation where I have no control and meant to just go along with it. I can’t participate a little bit as I struggle with the the greyness. I am an all or nothing type of person as I can’t manage the balance where to do what if I am sharing a role. At least with having all the control I can take action and get involved. Alternatively, I can chill out to a certain extend when loss the power giving it to someone else to have that responsibility. But then I ultimately don’t know what the hell is happening causing me to get anxious. I can’t win because I am rubbish at balancing and getting the formation right. So I go back to me being yet another failure in my eyes.

Cheers for reading X

Sons, Sand & Sauvignon
Pink Pear Bear
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Starting School

Hey readers,

My eldest starts a new chapter in his life in September. He starts school and here is when it is a turning point, where I worry about what will happen when social pressure rears it’s ugly head.

I have already seen the impact of my sons decisions he has made based on the influence of his nursery friends. Small things but noticeable things. Such as he randomly wanting a England football t-shirt because his friend had one. He wanted it right down to the same number on the back of the top. I am fine with him having choice and pleased that he knows what he wants.  But I also know the power of peer pressure and the need we may have to want to fit in. I worry how it will impact on my son. I would love him to have the confidence to be his own person. I would love him not to be swayed by others but sadly we are reaching that point that you lose a tiny bit of your child and now we now simply have to adjust to the ever changing direction of my son’s journey through childhood.

It is scary and I do worry whether my son will get bullied or he will bully others. That being said he might not be either of this, which would be brilliant.

You think you know  your child until you have an opportunity to secretly watch them out of sight and you realise that they are slowly becoming their own person. What you think you know of your child can be totally wrong especially in a different environment such as nursery. I have witnessed some behaviour in my son that I would not see in is home environment.

I just hope me and my husband can teach our son that he can be his own person and that if he does not want to do something that he can say no. I want him to know he can always trust myself and his dad and we are always there  to talk if at all he feels anxious or needs advice.

It is awful to let go of being primary carer and allow other people to come along and be my son’s life to influence. I can not now at the tender age of five wrap him in cotton wool all the time though I can give hot chocolate and cuddles when needed. Lets face it one day my son won’t be a  child, he will grow into his own person where he will have to stand on his own two feet. All I can do is trust and hope that he turns out not too damaged. regardless of whatever path my son takes he knows that he is loved and accepted for who he is.

I suppose it is not just  a turning point in his life but a new chapter for me as a parent when my son slowly grows further in to independence and I am not needed as much as a guidance but just a warm hand of support.

cheers for reading X

Mouse Moo and Me Too

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My Petit Canard

Behind The Scenes Blogging Tag

Hey readers,

Northumberland Mam did a blog post called Behind The Scenes Blogging tag and inspired me to have ago .

 

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1. Where Do You Blog?

I blog mostly on my laptop on the sofa or on my bed in the evenings. This is because I feel more motivated to write in the evenings, maybe because I am more relaxed.

2. Where Do You Find Inspiration For Your Blog Posts?

Normally I get inspiration from my own experiences either from parenting or mental health as I am affected by both quite dominantly. Or if I am stuck for ideas I turn to the news, other people’s blogs or good old Pinterest to get my creative juices flowing.

I forgot to mention couple of posts are themed like Sunday photo or word of the week so I am kinda guided in that way.

3. How Long Does It Take You To Write a Blog Post?

It all depends really on the topic. But I always try to type out the bare bones and come back to it at a later date to spell check and edit it. I am not the best at grammar due to my disability. Normally in life I get a lot of  help from my husband  but I chose to be independent and do it all myself with my blog. I don’t care if that impacts getting any blog work. Because I like the fact one thing in my life is mine without any help. I like it messy it is part of me and I am not perfect. What you see is what you get!

4. Do You Plan Your Blog Posts? How?

Few of my posts are scheduled because loads of ideas come into my head at once or a specific blog post has a set on a date. So I spread them out but other times I am impulsive. I always try to do four posts a week sometimes more. Life is never straight forward and that applies to blogging as well.

5. What Kind of Camera Do You Use? What Editing Program?

Sometimes I use my phone (Sony Ericsson Z) though now I have started to use my Cannon camera as I am building on my knowledge of photography for a personal interest. I edit on windows programme but one day I will get round to trying to understand Gimp. My head is too fried at the moment to deal with new information form different things in my life. It causes me to get overloaded due to the fact of me being Autism that I can only focus on little bits a a time.

6. Do You Use a Notebook To Track Your Ideas?

Yes I do. I can’t live without my diary and notebook. I have two three notebooks dotted around my home for different things.  This has helped me feel more in control and ordered.

7. How Do You Take Your Pictures?

I love spontaneous so just take  a shot where the mood takes me.

8. What’s Your Favourite Type of Blog Post to Write?

Spontaneous ideas or about my own personal experience. I know it can potential help someone who is reading it. As I myself have turned to blogs when I have felt so isolated and even just words can comfort you.

9. Who Knows About Your Blog?

My husband knows but not many people are aware. I am not one to talk about it but if it was mentioned then I am open as a book. I am just not that kinda person. I hardly ever talk about to my husband in fact. But when I do it is now and again in mentioning about using something for blog contend.

10. Are You an Organised or a Messy Blogger?

I am an organised blogger. I am naturally in life so it is going to seep through with the blogging. I plan what days to do what, how many comments and linkies etc. Again I like to feel in control and no what is what, else I get anxious and can’t focus on anything. I am a black and white thinker and like to follow numbers. For example comment on four posts to a linky. Then I don’t feel overwhelmed and it is a bit more manageable.

11. Biggest Blogging Pet Peeve?

Loads of requests, not being authentic, automatically ticking the box you want to sign up to newsletter when you are commenting on their blog post. Ok I should check it myself but I think it is still wrong. I am strong believer of choice and allowing the reader to make their own decision. Sometimes we haven’t all got the time and rush to try and get the commenting done. Not to mention pop ups on peoples blogs, which results in the page to slowing down the loading up of the blog. Which is disheartening as it is a ball ache to wait for ages when you sometimes don’t have all the time in the world.

If you want to join in then just please tag along.

Thank you for reading X

 

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From Baby To Teen – How To Get All The Family To Enjoy The Great Outdoors

Hey readers,

When was the last time you and all the family enjoyed a nice long walk in the countryside? Lots a or families struggle to find the time and the energy to get out and about. And if your kids are all different ages, you might find it tricky to find activities that everyone will be keen to do.  Like most Mums, I love to get out and about as much as possible. It offers so many health benefits. So how can you combine quality family time together with some healthy fresh air?

It’s easy to struggle with a long walk if you have a toddler or baby. Toddlers will always walk much slower then anyone else. They will also tire very quickly. But this doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be a part of a nice long family walk or hike. Try using an all terrain pushchair like the Jane Crosswalker when you take your tiny tots out. That way, you can let them walk as much as they are able, and then let them rest in the pushchair as they need to. It’s pretty handy for stowing your snacks and drinks for the day too!

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Tweens and teens are always looking for a bit of fun and adventure. Your heart may be in your mouth as you watch them climbing and balancing high up. But it’s good for their physical development to let them try new things. When you’re choosing a family walk or adventure outdoors, try to pick a path that will offer the kids something extra to do beyond walking. If all the family have bicycles, then an afternoon exploring one of Britain’s hundreds of cycle paths

 could be ideal. There are plenty of accessories to ensure you are all safe, and that babies and toddlers can ride along too. It’s a great way to improve your fitness and stamina as well. Muscle strength will increase,  and you’ll be able to travel greater distances in a shorter time. Picnics are so much fun for all the family. Even a moody teenager likes to eat picnic food. There are thousands of beautiful designated picnic areas throughout the country to choose from. Of course, if you’re a little short on time, why not head to your local park for a meal? Eating outdoors is thought to aid digestion, and it can be a great way to relax. All that fresh air and extra daylight can do wonders for your mood as well.

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If you have a bat and a ball, you could take the whole family over to your local playing field for a game of rounders or cricket. Without a doubt, there will be other families and kids over there that would love a chance to join in. Not only are you all staying active, but you’re enjoying the benefits of a heightened social life! Great fun.

Whether you have a couple of hours or the whole day, there is no need to sit around at home suffering from boredom. Pack a bag with snacks, drinks and wipes. Then head out into the great outdoors for plenty of family fun.

Cheer for reading X

My Petit Canard

 

 

 

 

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