Importance of the library

Hey readers,

Importance of the library!

Ever since I was a young girl I adored the public library. I used to go there every week. Even though I lived in the care system and other kids would tease me because apparently, it is not the done deal to read books, you should be smoking a spliff instead. I still loved going to the public library and it was my favorite thing to do. I used to get excited for when the day came. I felt so free to be surrounded by books of all sorts and knowing I could make the decision to which ones I wanted to read.

Now that I am an adult, one of my favorite places to go is the library. I love reading and the feeling of escaping in a book. It stops me obsessing about my thoughts for awhile allowing me to have a breather.

Libraries are a beautiful place for all to access. It doesn’t matter about your background, age, sex, disability etc the doors are open for you to come and explore if you wish.

I love the fact now that I am a parent I can share my love for libraries on to my children. They too can have that experience in choosing books and learning. escaping and the enjoyment of reading. Not to mention that the library has a role to play in education as it provides the tools to further reading and help the child understand the topics that are taught when they are learning.

I find so much joy going to the library and just taking time to look around, knowing I can borrow anything feels like I am in Willy Wonka Chocolate factory for bookworms. I love that there are new and old titles you can take out. I like to time to read sometimes books, there is a sense of community when others are doing similar things to you. Even though you might not speak to anyone, there is that sense of community spirit.

Also, I go to the library now as an adult to do my blogging work. I use it as a place where I can get a lot of work done in a short space of time. Having that opportunity gives me a sense of achievement and I feel good after as I have not wasted time being distracted at home.

I come to the library as they offer invaluable service for my children to take part in the community by having library activities such as in the past rythme time with then they were younger. It introduced them to books, songs and words. I now can go there with them for storytime to help get them excited to read and be around other similar aged children. In the summer my library offers reading challenges and at the end the child to read x amount of books gets a certificate. My eldest loves this because feels proud that he has achieved something. Also during the summer holiday, they offer activities and story time each week to go alongside the summer challenge. It is a great way to do something structured once a week that doesn’t cost me a lot but helps my son’s development and rewards him in other ways.

So, as you can see there are so many benefits for libraries, I am lucky that my library hasn’t been closed down as it would be a real shame for a lot of people. Especially vulnerable and elderly as it does provide a positive service to the community.

Cheers for reading X

If you get tired learn to rest, not to quit!

Hey readers,

Sometimes life can be hard right?! Sometimes trying to keep up with the momentum is challenging and you just not getting that buzz to continue. In actual fact, it is damn right hard to keep motivated and it can be quite draining.

Image result for if you get tired learn to rest not to quitIt can be so easy to quit because then you don’t have to deal with it or need to continue thinking of how you can overcome the obstacle that is so challenging. I think back to many a time that I have been in this situation but there is one vital lesson I have learned and that it is ok to have break, you don’t need to quit. The most important thing is to have a rest and not think about the situation.

It can help to have that break as it allows you time to rest and give a chance for creativity to come back to the issue at a later time with a  clearer head.

An example of times where I have struggled to overcome obstacles is when I am faced with having the confidence to keep writing or trying to find something new to write for my blog. This is because I I have found during these periods having a break has been really beneficial. I have also found it effective because I can stop trying to think of ideas, it can hurt my head at times. Sometimes, I have learned that just taking the time to live can give me the inspiration needed to come up with new content for my blog.

So, as you can see having a break can give you a chance to reconnect with that spark of why you wanted to do the thing before you got demotivated. It can help give you back that focus, so the best thing to do if you want to quit is to have a break first and come back later to see if things change.

What do you think? Do breaks help you?

Cheers for reading X

End

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

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because this week my son had the beaver toy to look after all week. Whhich was fun until we had to return him. My eldest doesn’t like to return beaver. so, took a lot of persuasion and discussion about if he did have beaver all the time he would be bored. At least when he gets him again in the future he can be excited because it is different and fun.

I also went to a school meeting at school about ds1. He seems to be doing ok, we need to work on him learning that he can’t win everything. He is not good at losing and gets very angry over it. So, we shall see how that turns out. It is something that is going to take time, like everything else.

Hope you have had a good week.

Cheers for reading X

Drained

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

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Because I am drained, I am really tired and my eldest is really testing me. Even  my hubby who is rather chilled himself it is slowly getting to him too.

My eldest is getting more violent (hitting, scratching, biting) and having meltdowns episodically after school. I am trying to deal with my own issues relating to my autism, so trying to find that winning combination is bloody hard work.

I get ‘advice’ but it is exhausted to implement the long list of new things to incorporate. I just get fed up with these professionals dumping this advice on to you. You then got to remember all these new rules. Along with having to go for PIP assessment next week my anxiety is really pushed. I just want that time to not have to think about how I am meant to perform and just be brain dead for a bit.

Cheers for reading X

how to reduce feeling overwhelmed

Hey readers,

I am autistic and often I feel overwhelmed by all the information that I am taking in, weather that be in the physical environment or online. So, I thought I would share with you tips that have helped me feel less overstimulated.

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The hardest thing to do so is to step away from the situation but it is the best thing to do. This is because it cuts the information and stops everything from processing. Close the computer, step away from the notes or environment and give yourself that time to calm down/switch off from what is triggering a heighted sense of overload.  I found when I have made an immediate cut off I feel I can think clearer rather than just being in the situation where all I can thing about is that one thing. It gives me change to breathe and think what my next move is.

Writing down what exactly I want to do with all the information that is spinning around in my head. Writing down has helped make me feel more space to think straight about exactly what I am doing next. Hence why I always carry a notepad, so I can write all that stuff down that is important to me. Doing this also gives me a sense of control so I don’t get scared of missing out on any vital information at a later date.

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Often when I am feeling overwhelmed at home it means that I have more than one task to complete. Typically, I am trying to multitask, which is a bad move as I am more likely to make mistakes. Therefore I do a to-do list of all the things I need to get done and then number them in priority. If I don’t finish the list I can leave it for a different time.  Sometimes, you have to accept that you are not super human and there is only so much time that you have to do stuff especially being a parent. If it is not something that desperately needs to be done then it can wait. I have done this and found that the work I do at a later date is much better quality. This is because I can focus more on the task rather than at an earlier time when I am stressed out and unable to contrite on that one task, win-win!

I am a big believer in using breathing techniques (it did take me a long time to learn the importance of this) but using all your power on focusing on the art of breathing has really helped over the past couple of months. It helps relax my body and mind, allowing me to feel a reduction in feeling overwhelmed/anxious giving me the break to think.

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With regards to my blogging I can get obsessed with linking up posts or saying yes to reviews, even though I am half-hearted about them. It is one of the most challenging things to do as a blogger is to say no, especially if like myself I struggle with social anxiety. Therefore, causing me to worry about the outcome. However, you have to look after yourself and can’t please everyone, you need to do what works for you. It is good to have a break or stop and think what makes you happy.

I hope this has helped anyone feeling overwhelmed, is there anything that has helped you get through feeling overwhelmed?

Cheers for reading X

Mummuddlingthrough

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