Now I am a mum I have learnt…

Hey readers,

Isn’t parenthood wonderful, since being a mum I have learnt so much. I know it is cheesy, but it so does change you as a person. Let me inlight you with the things I have learnt from being a mum.

Since being a mum I have been constantly thinking I am so tired and the fact there is nothing more appealing than spending a whole day in bed, could you imagine?!

Motherhood changes you for the better, you grown and learn skills. For example patience and how to speak more simpler, which are brilliant skills to master in my eyes.

Swan, Swan Babies, Baby Swans

Sadly, you slowly learn the hard lesson that having children is expensive. This particularly came more apparent when my eldest started school.

Kids are noise and your poor little ears will be battered with the ongoing squabbling.

The washing basket will never be empty again and you take so much pleasure in completing washing

If you get to sleep till 8am you are privileged. I am also going to say that when you do have the lucky chance to sleep in, you will soon be greeted with sods law knocking on your door as you are so internally trained to wake up so early, you mind has suddenly thought there is some serious emergency.

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Guilt is there 24/7 and you doubt everything, no matter what anyone says you constantly question the decisions you make.

You will inevitably turn into your mother, there is no escaping – whether it be moaning that you are constantly tired or you got adopt them catchphrases such as, one more time, wait until your dad gets home.

No matter how many books you read, there is no one perfect answer. Changes are things change and popular ways of parent constantly shift. I learnt this when I had two children.

 

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Drained

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

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Because I am drained, I am really tired and my eldest is really testing me. Even  my hubby who is rather chilled himself it is slowly getting to him too.

My eldest is getting more violent (hitting, scratching, biting) and having meltdowns episodically after school. I am trying to deal with my own issues relating to my autism, so trying to find that winning combination is bloody hard work.

I get ‘advice’ but it is exhausted to implement the long list of new things to incorporate. I just get fed up with these professionals dumping this advice on to you. You then got to remember all these new rules. Along with having to go for PIP assessment next week my anxiety is really pushed. I just want that time to not have to think about how I am meant to perform and just be brain dead for a bit.

Cheers for reading X

go with the wind

Sometimes you have to go with the wind,

to learn a lesson,

to grow

and move forward.

how to reduce feeling overwhelmed

Hey readers,

I am autistic and often I feel overwhelmed by all the information that I am taking in, weather that be in the physical environment or online. So, I thought I would share with you tips that have helped me feel less overstimulated.

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The hardest thing to do so is to step away from the situation but it is the best thing to do. This is because it cuts the information and stops everything from processing. Close the computer, step away from the notes or environment and give yourself that time to calm down/switch off from what is triggering a heighted sense of overload.  I found when I have made an immediate cut off I feel I can think clearer rather than just being in the situation where all I can thing about is that one thing. It gives me change to breathe and think what my next move is.

Writing down what exactly I want to do with all the information that is spinning around in my head. Writing down has helped make me feel more space to think straight about exactly what I am doing next. Hence why I always carry a notepad, so I can write all that stuff down that is important to me. Doing this also gives me a sense of control so I don’t get scared of missing out on any vital information at a later date.

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Often when I am feeling overwhelmed at home it means that I have more than one task to complete. Typically, I am trying to multitask, which is a bad move as I am more likely to make mistakes. Therefore I do a to-do list of all the things I need to get done and then number them in priority. If I don’t finish the list I can leave it for a different time.  Sometimes, you have to accept that you are not super human and there is only so much time that you have to do stuff especially being a parent. If it is not something that desperately needs to be done then it can wait. I have done this and found that the work I do at a later date is much better quality. This is because I can focus more on the task rather than at an earlier time when I am stressed out and unable to contrite on that one task, win-win!

I am a big believer in using breathing techniques (it did take me a long time to learn the importance of this) but using all your power on focusing on the art of breathing has really helped over the past couple of months. It helps relax my body and mind, allowing me to feel a reduction in feeling overwhelmed/anxious giving me the break to think.

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With regards to my blogging I can get obsessed with linking up posts or saying yes to reviews, even though I am half-hearted about them. It is one of the most challenging things to do as a blogger is to say no, especially if like myself I struggle with social anxiety. Therefore, causing me to worry about the outcome. However, you have to look after yourself and can’t please everyone, you need to do what works for you. It is good to have a break or stop and think what makes you happy.

I hope this has helped anyone feeling overwhelmed, is there anything that has helped you get through feeling overwhelmed?

Cheers for reading X

Mummuddlingthrough

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