50 ways to do self care

Hey readers,

Sometimes life can be stressful or we don’t look after ourselves. A way to help when life gets on top of us is practice something positive to do for ourselves to help make sure that you as a person are cared for. Below I have gathered 50 ways to do self care, the activities are a mixed bag and some are free some may require some cash. Others don’t take long compared to other activities that can take longer. Therefore, there is plenty of choice for you to choose from to help you feel good and making sure that you DO self care on yourself. It is important to look after others but ultimately you need to make sure that you as an individual are in tip top shape. Enjoy!

50 ways to do self care

1. Bath

2. Read a book

3. Go for a walk

4. Talk to someone

5. Write a blog post

6. Have a hot tea

7. Watch something funny

8. Have a shower

9. Bake

10.Paint your nails

11. Take a photo

12. Have a sleep

13. Go to bed

 14. Write a letter to someone

15. Colouring in

16. Explore nature

17. Read inspiration quotes

18. Write an action plan to a problem

19. Burn a candle

20. Have a cuddle

21. Treat yourself

22. Learn something new

23. Stretch your body

24. Dance

25. Stroke an animal

26. Drink a glass of water

27. Sort out your emails

28. Sell something on ebay

28. Clean

29. Sort out your drawers

30. declutter

31.spend an hour alone

32. Go to a coffee shop

33. Visit a art gallery

34. Choose to have a good day

35. Be spontanous

36. Listen to a meditation

38. Forgive yourself

39. Get a massage

40. Get a haircut

41. Make a playlist of your favourite tracks

42. Look at cat gifs on the internet

43. Create a mood board

44. Do nothing

45. Practice breathing

46. Binge watch a box set

47. Watch a film

48. Browse pinterest for inspiration

49. Squeeze a stress ball

50. Snuggle under a throw

Cheers for reading X

 

It's OK to admit your not ok 

Hey readers,

Today was a day that decided to take action over something that I’ve been in denial about for a while now and that is an increase in being very depressed. I have OCD so the thoughts are very intrusive and fast firing in my head and constantly checking things so enough is enough. My mood is really low and just a sense of dread followed with complete sadness.

I am on medication, however, for a month or two ago I decided to reduce one medication. I forgot what depression had felt like. When you have been taking medication for so long it suppresses your emotions. Which to be fair has been good as it means you can manage the day but you believe the mindset has shifted therefore believing that you don’t suffer as much.
Another reason why I wanted to reduce my medication is the weight gain. However, I think it is a small price to pay compared to waking up angry/crying/ suicidal etc.  I prefer to be fat and less breakdown than the alternative.

So, Today I took action, I spoke to my husband and booked an appointment to doctor to discuss the matter. Hopefully, the doctor can alter it, it may fall down to me having to go and be referred to a psychiatrist to get the issue resolved. 

However, in the past, I have used coupling counselling to express how I was feeling and explaining the things I do and the things I can’t change in a safe environment. It helped create a better communication especially since being a parent with mental health problems. To find out what couple counselling is all about then do check out this website https://www.regain.us/start/ which explains coupling counselling in more detail.

Yep, so it is just a ramble but glad I took action. Because it is ok to take medication and it is ok to not be ok. I still even now struggle to be open about my depression. It is hard when mental illness is viewed so negatively. I decided to write my thoughts down as a way to help me and allow other people who may be of interest in reading in this and no you are not allowed. It is a fight worth fighting for.

Cheers for reading X

Keep writing 

Hey readers,

People say, ‘just keep writing’  is the mantra to live by. I write my blog on all sorts of things that inspire me, from poetry to the food I love. I am not a niche kind of person, I just go with what inspires me within that moment and share it with the world.

There are days when I completely lost my motivation to continue to write or even log into WordPress. As a suffer from anxiety and depression the simplest things can feel like climbing a mountain and sadly one of them is writing. Even though from a young age have found writing down the better way for me to communicate my emotions, the struggle is there.

But when I write it makes a huge difference to me. The hardest bit is to actually get started, as soon as crack that then my thoughts just flow and I have so many thoughts believe me and you!

Sometimes, I think my writing is rubbish, though I believe that should not stop me from writing as it has purpose.  I do believe it is a good mantra to keep writing, no matter what the length, one sentence or pages of words, it keeps your mind light up and can open up new ideas.  Not to mention the benefit of keeping constantly writing every day can build up your confidence and improve in the skill of writing. We can’t be all natural, but we can practice. Deep down that is ok, because even if no one enjoys my content, I still am getting something out of it, no matter if it is big or small it is helping. There are many other worse things to do in life then ramble of some words (my interpretation of  my work). Of course, I am my hardest critic. However, I am going to remain optimistic because I enjoy ands it helps deal with the shit in my life.

Cheers for reading X

 

What does depression look like

Hey readers,

Below is a picture of myself taken today.

me

You could say I just look a normal everyday person minus her eyes being shut. You don’t think oh my God she looks like she has depression because you know what I do.

People always assume that if you are smiley or cheery then somehow you can not possibly experience depression. Well, news flash you can and furthermore, it can strike at any age, background or social mobility status because depression doesn’t pick who it wants to cause this nightmare mess inside your brain.

Anyone can experience it, at any time in their life. It can last weeks or years and definitely something that you can not physically measure, much to the disapproval of the government.

My point being is that some days I laugh, I cry, I hate and dread and all the other messy emotions that life has to bring. But also I have this mental battle, some days are OK and I manage. Other periods are short spells and then if there is too much stress in my life then can be several months where the black dog doesn’t sod off. He creeps around like a stalker catching me every time I am venerable or exposed to stresses in life. It sucks and there is nothing I can do but plot on. For me, it is a chemical imbalance mixed with stress and managing with my autism. It sucks and yes I smile but please be aware that I can mask like the rest of them.

We need to stop presuming that depression only affects certain people and that it is more grey than black with how it is presenting to the outside world. So just be mindful that there maybe someone smiling but deep down they are internally dying and hating everything that their life is.

If you are experiencing depression then do check out some really good quality articles about depression then please do check out BetterHelp free advice section.

Cheers for reading X

Today is the day

Hey readers,

I know I am like a recorder player keep coming back and discussing the same old topic. So I am really sorry if it is repetitive and boring. But I need to do something and I need to lose weight. TODAY IS THE DAY!!!!!

I don’t know why i get into these viscous cycles of binges. I need to focus, so where better then my blog to help keep a record of my ‘weightless journey’.

Argh…. so today I have eaten a cream egg (not so bad until the rest), 5 kit kat things and 500g Galaxy caramel washed down with full fat coke cola (330ml). I feel sick, hideous and ashamed. I did this when the husband was out and feel like  a sneaky snake. Because let’s face binge eating is sneaky and private.

Why do I do it? well from as young as 7 I turned to food for comfort, whether good or bad, I was there shuffling it in. Sadly, I now have piled on the pounds and I now the heaviest I have ever been.

I have lost weight so I know can do it, it is the change of behaviour and quitting the sugar.

To me sugar is like a drug and so very addictive. Once you start getting sugar, you just want more and more of the fucker. I want to quit it because I don’t enjoy it and it is merely but an enemy now, who I hate!

I struggle with willpower but hoping to use a goal such as lose x amount and I can buy something that i desperately want. If I don;t reach that goal I have to weight. What I am going to do is every pound I lose i put aside £1. When I have got the money for the desired object i can pay for it. My first thing that I want is some more emoji cards for my light box.

 

Wish me luck.

Today is the start:

Start weight – 14.11.5

goal weight 13.11.5

Here is a full shot of me and like most over weight people hate it!

cheers for reading X