Flowery garden 

There’s no better place 

than being in a garden full of flowers

Or plants whatever takes your fancy

 I don’t need humans to feel content 

because nature has a way of 

Accepting you as you are

 so that’s why 

I like to be in a garden full of hope

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Happy

Sometimes when I am down and all I can see is dread I hold on to my happy times. They are just memories of good times but though are non-materialistic they cost more in worth then any costly good I have.

Sometimes wherever you look you see sadness and heartache, you can watch the news 24/7 and feel pants. It can be hard to see the light when it so overcast with darkness.

Then random things happy, out of the blue without any warning that take your breathe away. Simple things such as taking a moment to talk to you when others see you as autistic. They see you as an individual and respect what you say. They don’t talk at you or speak in a patronising tone, it is the acceptance and thoughtfulness that can make you smile.

It is the gesture of when your husband allows you to have sleep in when you are so desperately tired after an emotional night that drains you from all your energy.

It’s when a stranger spots you dropped your bus pass (your so busy with your screaming child) and hands it back means so much but such a small act of kindness.

Seeing all the good heroes that just do it, just because they are a good human makes this world much more bearable and happy to be here.

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The day in the life of a depressive

Hey readers,

Today I woke up elevated with thoughts of all sorts of possibilities and within ten minutes everything got shot down again. You see depression for me anyway is not where you sit in corner and cry 24/7 – though there have been times when I have done that. But I feel depression is not simply the black cloud that hangs above but it is all sorts of emotions that I experience during the day.

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This may seem an odd thing to say but there are glimpses of happiness that can last 30 seconds to five minutes and I have even been know to laugh. You would think nothing was wrong with me, but you will be fooled.

Then my brain reminds  me of how shit my life is and how I mess up everything, and majority of the time it can be rooted to my autism. I don’t care what people’s views are living with autism is no walk in the park and it is hard to deal with. Sometimes, I just want to have a break from myself and then just stop the work. It is exhausting and emotionally draining, which affects my mood deeply.

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The next feeling could be agitation and just general hopelessness of being  stuck  in a situation that I have no  control over.

Anger comes along when I have to listen to the next person who tells me that it is mind over matter and that I can achieve anything if I put my mind to it. Don’t let the autism get the way they chant, but basically everyone can fuck I want to  be dead. For that one second sometimes you think the world would be better if I simply didn’t exist then having to deal with the nonsense circulates around my head.

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But then there are moments that are beautiful that are full of wonder and amazement that I can almost think I have achieved something good that day.

Until you start crying randomly at some music that brings it all back and all the negativity is refaced.

You see depression isn’t just one set of emotion, I have only named a few in this post but I want people to be aware that this mental illness is not just dichotomy and that it is much more complicated then what the media portray.

Cheers for reading X

Why being married is good

Hey readers,

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Sometimes married life can  be mundane especially with kids involved, you can lose sight of the person. So, today I am going to celebrate why being married is good.

I can be myself, warts and all without feeling a numpty, because I can be a numpty in my hubby’s eyes and still be loved.

You don’t have to do all the whole dating thing and put on this pretence idea of someone who you are not.

Provides safety and knowing that I have support and someone else who helps with the childcare.

I can fart and it is acceptable.

I can be relaxed and have a laff now and again 😉

You have company together and  can watch something you both enjoy.

Having someone to make you tea.

Having someone help when you are too anxious to deal with a situation.

Having a different perspective to yours.

Learning things from them that you would never think of.

Feeling less lonely.

Having the option to say to the children, ‘go and ask daddy’ when you can’t be arsed to answer the 2345 question that day.

Having deep and meaningful conversations.

Experiencing things with that person.

My hubby is someone I can rant, swear and let it all out.

Having a soundboard to listen to my whacky ideas.

Someone I can trust who is reliable.

Having a ying to your yang.

Being allowed to have a cheeky sleep now and again whilst they look after the kids makes a huge difference.

Someone who can help me understand forms and how to fill the fuckers out.

Someone to look after me when I am full of sickness.

Feel like a team that can handle the matter rather then just me tackling it and totally screwing it up.

Cheers for reading X

 

 

 

 

Happiness is 

Hey readers,

There them moments in life that are so simple but make you so dame happy. it here is my list often but I could easily right endless amount.

  1. Having an early night and a real good sleep, making you feel or refreshed and ready to go in the morning.
  2. Kicking autumn leaves as you walk on by.
  3. When you have had a long day put of the home and you return in the evening with a lovely hot, fresh brew ♨
  4. When you find that quid in your pocket that you so desperately need.
  5. Having a hot bath and getting into fresh sheets 🛀
  6. When your husband lets you have a lie in.
  7. Not having to rush about in the morning, having a slow day.
  8. Not behaving mummy guilt and feeling confident about parenting.
  9. Having lots if ideas for your blog.
  10. Getting your nails painted perfect first time around.

Cheers for reading X