10 best life tips

Hey readers,

As we get older hopefully we learn and grow insight to improve as a person. I myself have learnt some things along the way on my journey through life and I thought I would share some of my best life tips.

1) This lesson IS difficult but if you learn to not be anger and put blame on people you will lead a more fruitful life. Life is a b*tch and there are some God awful people out there. I have experienced a fair few. But, once I learn to let go of that anger and just accept it, life is much more pleasent. I don’t forget the hurt by any stretch of the imagination. I just let go, untie it from my emotions. The more you hold on to the negative feels they will only fester and bring you down. The more that you don’t allow it to influence you means you can enjoy life better.

2) I know people go on about enjoying every second and you should be enjoying it. However, lets face it life is not like that. Don’t put these expectations on, just focus on not taking life too seriously, have a laugh and make happy memories.

3) I know it is cheesy with the whole idea of the power of positivity. I suffer depression but looking at one small thing a day no matter what it is can really help you. Even for example it is just getting out of bed or leaving the house, that is one step closer to helping yourself move forward.

4) Enjoy the outdoors and surround yourself with nature – it can really help physically and mentally. Plus it is free, so even if you have no money you can still go out and look at the trees.

5) If you can help people, karma and all that. Plus it is nice to just do something for someone.

6) Don’t compare yourself to other people, remember that we are all on our own journey. You don’t know what people are going through, you only see a section of that person especially if it is on social networks like Instagram. Never forget that comparison is the thieve of joy so instead of worrying about missing out, just focus on your self and what you are doing.

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7) Write down goals – small or big get them down physically on the paper and see where you can make improvements. Small steps lead to better destinations. It can help if you are in a negative frame of mind to work on something that you can focus but also check in each month to see how far you have progressed. This can help make it feel more real and concrete giving you that well earned boast that you deserve.

8) Make sure you get some sleep because it really does help give a clear mind to think.

9) If in doubt or you don’t want to do something, do micro tasks that lead to the bigger goal. This can help you feel less overwhelmed and in the long run be more productive.

10) Make sure you are on top of your emails. Go through them each day and delete the unnecessarily ones.

What life lessons have you learnt along the way of your journey?

Cheers for reading X

7 ways to be happy everyday

Hey readers,

Sometimes we can forget to find the joy in the simplest of things and life can drag us down. But we can do something about that and gain some control back. I have got seven ways that aren’t difficult to help find happiness in the ordinary stuff. I hope you find this helpful.

1) Take time out and do something that you love doing, whether it be listening to music, reading whatever it does it! Even if it is just for ten minutes a day it will be worth it in the long term for your wellbeing.

2) Write down something that you are thankful for each day. It doesn’t have too big it could be as simple as hearing the birds. There is a way to train your brain to look at the positives in your life.

3) Go out and connect with nature, go for a walk and just be, take in the trees, the sky because we live in a beautiful world and it has a lot to offer.

4) Laugh – it produces chemicals in the brain to make you feel good and has brilliant healing properties as well.

5) Take some time out to be present and just sit and be. The world goes by so fast that you may miss out and just sitting and slowing down can really be beneficial to your health.

6) Do something for someone else and spread the happiness on. Some suggestions are making a hot drink, taking time to listen to the person and what they are saying.

7) Write down your feelings and work out how you can help reduce the negative and increase the positive.

Cheers for reading X

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Sometimes when I am down and all I can see is dread I hold on to my happy times. They are just memories of good times but though are non-materialistic they cost more in worth then any costly good I have.

Sometimes wherever you look you see sadness and heartache, you can watch the news 24/7 and feel pants. It can be hard to see the light when it so overcast with darkness.

Then random things happy, out of the blue without any warning that take your breathe away. Simple things such as taking a moment to talk to you when others see you as autistic. They see you as an individual and respect what you say. They don’t talk at you or speak in a patronising tone, it is the acceptance and thoughtfulness that can make you smile.

It is the gesture of when your husband allows you to have sleep in when you are so desperately tired after an emotional night that drains you from all your energy.

It’s when a stranger spots you dropped your bus pass (your so busy with your screaming child) and hands it back means so much but such a small act of kindness.

Seeing all the good heroes that just do it, just because they are a good human makes this world much more bearable and happy to be here.

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The day in the life of a depressive

Hey readers,

Today I woke up elevated with thoughts of all sorts of possibilities and within ten minutes everything got shot down again. You see depression for me anyway is not where you sit in corner and cry 24/7 – though there have been times when I have done that. But I feel depression is not simply the black cloud that hangs above but it is all sorts of emotions that I experience during the day.

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This may seem an odd thing to say but there are glimpses of happiness that can last 30 seconds to five minutes and I have even been know to laugh. You would think nothing was wrong with me, but you will be fooled.

Then my brain reminds  me of how shit my life is and how I mess up everything, and majority of the time it can be rooted to my autism. I don’t care what people’s views are living with autism is no walk in the park and it is hard to deal with. Sometimes, I just want to have a break from myself and then just stop the work. It is exhausting and emotionally draining, which affects my mood deeply.

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The next feeling could be agitation and just general hopelessness of being  stuck  in a situation that I have no  control over.

Anger comes along when I have to listen to the next person who tells me that it is mind over matter and that I can achieve anything if I put my mind to it. Don’t let the autism get the way they chant, but basically everyone can fuck I want to  be dead. For that one second sometimes you think the world would be better if I simply didn’t exist then having to deal with the nonsense circulates around my head.

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But then there are moments that are beautiful that are full of wonder and amazement that I can almost think I have achieved something good that day.

Until you start crying randomly at some music that brings it all back and all the negativity is refaced.

You see depression isn’t just one set of emotion, I have only named a few in this post but I want people to be aware that this mental illness is not just dichotomy and that it is much more complicated then what the media portray.

Cheers for reading X

Why being married is good

Hey readers,

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Sometimes married life can  be mundane especially with kids involved, you can lose sight of the person. So, today I am going to celebrate why being married is good.

I can be myself, warts and all without feeling a numpty, because I can be a numpty in my hubby’s eyes and still be loved.

You don’t have to do all the whole dating thing and put on this pretence idea of someone who you are not.

Provides safety and knowing that I have support and someone else who helps with the childcare.

I can fart and it is acceptable.

I can be relaxed and have a laff now and again 😉

You have company together and  can watch something you both enjoy.

Having someone to make you tea.

Having someone help when you are too anxious to deal with a situation.

Having a different perspective to yours.

Learning things from them that you would never think of.

Feeling less lonely.

Having the option to say to the children, ‘go and ask daddy’ when you can’t be arsed to answer the 2345 question that day.

Having deep and meaningful conversations.

Experiencing things with that person.

My hubby is someone I can rant, swear and let it all out.

Having a soundboard to listen to my whacky ideas.

Someone I can trust who is reliable.

Having a ying to your yang.

Being allowed to have a cheeky sleep now and again whilst they look after the kids makes a huge difference.

Someone who can help me understand forms and how to fill the fuckers out.

Someone to look after me when I am full of sickness.

Feel like a team that can handle the matter rather then just me tackling it and totally screwing it up.

Cheers for reading X