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Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

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because this week my son had the beaver toy to look after all week. Whhich was fun until we had to return him. My eldest doesn’t like to return beaver. so, took a lot of persuasion and discussion about if he did have beaver all the time he would be bored. At least when he gets him again in the future he can be excited because it is different and fun.

I also went to a school meeting at school about ds1. He seems to be doing ok, we need to work on him learning that he can’t win everything. He is not good at losing and gets very angry over it. So, we shall see how that turns out. It is something that is going to take time, like everything else.

Hope you have had a good week.

Cheers for reading X

New

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

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because my son this weekend went to his first ever scout camp. We were a bit apprehensive as my son is autistic and we weren’t sure how he would respond. Luckily my husband is a volunteer so he stays with him so he doesn’t have a sudden breakdown. That helped a great deal. He did struggle in the evening and the following day. However hubby took him aside to talk it though.

The good news is he did enjoy the camp and he is really looking forward to the next one. However, Monday he was mentally drained from it, so we had to take it really slow with him. Still, for us it is positive he stuck it out and enjoyed himself.

He loved the food from camp as well, I can’t believe how much he ate and even tried the jacket potato though previously he would be against it.

Hope you have had a good week.

Cheers for reading X

 

The ordinary stuff #OreoCookieQuest

Hey readers,

I was asked by Britmums to share my joyous moments with my family. Oreo is celebrating The Great Oreo Quest promotion on packs now, which means anyone can pick up a pack and have a chance to win awesome prizes, including a once-in-a-lifetime trip to California and the Googleplex.

So, now as a parent living in a world where social media dominates our attitudes and influences, I thought the pressure was on. However, if you look close enough and watch your children you don’t have to look far to see the joy in the ordinary stuff.

It can be really hard with underestimating the ordinary stuff, I am one of the people who has been guilty of this. But taking a moment to relax and just be lead by what your child wants can be pleasantly enjoyable.

So, I give you my take on what is a wonderful and joyful experience that is simply coming home after school for my son and once changed having that time to play. My son struggles a bit with school because he wants to run around like a loony only problem is now that he is in year one he has to do school work, boo!

Therefore the time he has after school where he can do as he pleases is the best, especially as he has his sidekick with me to do so (his brother).

He spends three hours playing with his new additions of Fungus and Mungus, stretching them, giving them roles and having pretended play.

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He was super happy to talk to mummy uninterrupted and share the joy of his favourite toy. He loves telling me stories and getting into the roles so this is his happy moment.

He doesn’t want a lot out of life and as a parent, I could learn a thing or two. Although, I will tell you he did join getting some Oreo Cookies to add to the mix of happiness.

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Cheers for reading X

This post is an entry for BritMums #OreoCookieQuest, sponsored by Oreo. 

Relaxed

Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

Sometimes, if I am honest I can get overwhelmed before the half term as the prospect of having two boisterous children during the holidays fills me with dread. However, I have to say it hasn’t been too bad. The boys love playing together and not too many meltdowns. I have been relaxed and that makes a huge difference.

My eldest has made me his first ever cup of tea. He was so pleased because he has been so desperate to make me one. It was a lovely little surprise. Don’t worry he didn’t just do it himself but with assistance from his daddy. Then he was like I want to get a plain cup and he wanted to write with the sharpie pens ‘I love mummy and daddy’ and it was like an awwww moment, bless him!

Hope you have had a good week,

Cheers for reading X

My boy of late…

Hey readers,

I have a confession to make, today was hard day for me mentally, not only am I dealing with my  own issues but also them of  my son’s. Today he had a major meltdown which left us at breaking point. Not just for me I think, but actually for my husband as well. My husband is normally chilled out and causal about stuff so, it must be pretty bad when he is worried about how he will not only mange  with his wife’s autism (he is my carer as well) but potentially his son’s.

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I am currently sat in the other room because I really can’t cope at this point with my son’s screaming for over an hour.

We went to visit a butterfly farm locally to us, today, the butterflies are in a massive green house room and can freely flutter by. Here is where the problem lies, my son had a meltdown at this place because he could not cope with the butterflies random movement (which  I struggle also struggle with) but had taken medication to physical effects of anxiety).  He is 5 years old and is an independent walker however, my husband had to carry him around as the only place where he was calm after the heightened anxiety was where the butterflies were not in one of the other areas. The moment he stepped back into the arena where all the butterflies were that was it again, he just could not cope with it and was panic attack.

All afternoon he has been on a roller-coaster of emotions. But finally he has settled to just streaming and I mean screaming. He literally has to be restraint because of how violent his behaviour has become. He is biting, scratching, hitting, and lashing out and potentially harming our youngest.

Now,  I have been on a parenting course where it is frowned upon restraining children. I am very conscious of this. I do not do it under any circumstances but when it is a situation where risk involved and the child is hurting themselves and no other way can help that child stay calm then is not much left we could of done.

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Now you are wondering have we been to the professionals to discuss our concerns and the answer is yes, several times. Let me tell you the background, firstly he started school this September so we approached the school to see what his behaviour was like and to ask for guidance. They did observe but didn’t feel any worries. So, we went to our GP, he said to speak to the specialist person. SO we did and filled out our worries on paper, then they would investigate. That was fine, they came back to us I think within the month saying that they have taken on board our concerns but because his behaviour is not affecting him at school that they can not really do anything. However, they did say that come back in a year and see what is behaviour is like and see if any behaviour changes have occurred.

Well that is great help because as most of us know generally children are totally different when they are school, it is a different environment etc. I asked my cpn (community psychiatric nurse) who see’s me for my mental health what his advice is because he may have had experience and what he thinks we should do.

He said that the only path at the moment is through the school or GP. So because my son’s behaviour is masked (because I know for one he copies a lot of behaviour, he is very similar to me. I kid you not my husband always says that talking to him is like talking to me).

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So, basically there is no other avenue, because apparently if the child is perfectly well behaved then the child will go through the net but if the child is extreme then they will get the help they deserve. Bearing in mind that these teachers are looking after 30 odd children so they can’t spend long periods of time with them individually. It is just so frustrating right now because we just don’t know what to do but one thing is for sure no seems to care if your not extreme. They see the whole picture and that is what really sucks.

I am writing this so that I can document my journey with my eldest, who knows where we will end up but his behaviour is erratic and there is genuine concern there.

Cheers for reading X

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