Why playgrounds are ace

Hey readers,

 

If you are a parent you would have experienced taking your child to the playground. I think they are brilliant resource for everyone to use and here is why.

They get you out the house and get you away from the four walls or watching too much tv.

Playgrounds are a great way of getting a change of scenery and be surrounded by green. Sometimes, just getting away from the same places is a blessing in disguise.

If there is one thing I love more then anything in the world as a parent is finding fun things to do with my child that are free because let’s face it children come with a bloody big price tag, especially when they hit school. So, if I can save some money somewhere then going to the playground is one. Plus it helps with keeping children entertained and stop complaining for awhile that they are a bored.

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Playgrounds are great for exercise, playing chase, walking or even pushing a child on the swing all contributes to keeping you active.

Going to the playground allows you to blow some cobwebs of and get some much needed fresh  air. It also provides a mental boost, and helps clear your head. It really is amazing such a small and simple activity can have a huge impact on making you feel less crap and giving you the change to think more clearer.

Visiting a playground outdoors gives the child the opportunity to get vitamin D from being out in the fresh air and  help build strength in their bones.

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Playgrounds encourage free play, where the child decides what they want to do, they can even make up their own games or use their imagination on the playground apparatus. This next  point coincides with the above one in the fact that a  child can test out there communional skills with socialising with other children at the playground. Therefore possibility  of working together to establish what they want to do. There is also the positive effect of finding a person to share the enjoyment of play with someone who has similar interests in what they like to do in the playground.

Therefore I conclude that playgrounds are ACE!

Cheers for reading X

Selfishness can be good

Hey readers,

I know when you hear the word selfish it dipicts  a negative picture but I want to share with you today why it is actually good for you SOMETIMES to be selfish.

Firstly, because you are listening to your needs and not others. Sometimes, we need to say I want this because I need it for my saniety.

It gives you assertiveness and feeling of comfortability to talk about your feelings to others. It is healthier because of not ignoring your needs and doing something about it can help you feel good. Asking for something should not be shamed upon, asking for help is ok, for me asking for timeout is important. It calms me down and others so in the long run everyone is winning.

You are listening to your needs and doing something constructive about it. As long as you are polite then I think it is ok to say look I need this for me becuase of XYZ.

You will help build your self-awareness skills in opening up to what you need. It will help increase your self-worth because you are being constructive and doing something to help you feel better.

It could mean better relationships because you are finding a solution to a problem, for example if you cook a lot and say to a housemate I need one a day a week off and you need to do the meal for us instead. Even though they might object it gives you the change to discuss issues and talk about how you are feeling. There is less anger and being open will be benefit making the situation more harmonious compared to if you sat on it and didn’t raise your issues. At least  then this could mean  something productive has helped and lead to more positive relationships without any negative impact because you have talked about the situation

Cheers for reading X

The end of reception year at school

To my darling boy,

Can you believe that you have completed your reception and you will moving to year one. I can still remember when you were first born and being so tiny, how times have changed!

Well what can I say have noticed a real transformation, some good, some challenging shall we say. This year we have learnt so much about you and the person you are becoming.

I and daddy are so learning that you are autistic, even though no one will listen at the moment, but that is more politics and what the eyes can see more than anything but that is a can of worms that I won’t open here.

You have progressively got better with your speech and through expression. You have become more confident and independent. You have thrived in learning – I can’t actually believe how much you love reading now. You can’t seem to stop writing, which is just lovely to see. Your thirst for knowledge is mesmerising (thank Goodness for YouTube).

I know you feel frustrating at the beginning of school due to misunderstandings through communication but you have become more patient and willing to listen.  You’re so determined and possibly a little bit stubborn but I think that this are positive traits in a person and make good qualities in life.

You’re such a caring boy, always being kind and listening to others. You don’t exclude people and you want to make sure that they are involved. This might be down to understanding about mummy’s autism and the way that she cannot do the things others can do. Therefore, allowing you to be understanding of other’s needs.

You have excelled in every element of your school report and we are so proud of you. You have come on heaps and bouts. There is more work to do but I know you can achieve it as you are dedicated and focused.

We spoke to your teacher the day before you broke up and she said that you have improved a lot with your behaviour. When asked do you get involved with the naughty behaviour that other people do y out step aside and don’t get invoked. You are now more of a role model child to kids. Me and your daddy believe that this is down to the fact a few months ago we talked openly about your autism and how it affects you in certain ways.

I love you dear child and you make me so proud to allow me to call you mummy.

Well done and here is to the next year which I know you can’t wait to get stuck into

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Love you,

Mummy X

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Reasons why I love Aldi

Hey readers,

Let me tell you something about me  – I love to shop in Aldi. This post is all about my appreciate for the shop. See below my reasons why.

Can’t beat browsing the special buy isle, you never know what you are going find. It is pretty random and it changes frequently so you can excited with what will be on offer. You go into Aldi with aim of getting one thing and then come out with random selection of items.

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I am not a middle class blogger, I am on a budget and Aldi prices are reasonable. You can actually get fresh fruit and vegetable without fearing it cost a tenner.

They have some pretty cool recipes to try out, always handy if you are a rushed parent and need some inspiration.

They have some unusual items such as gin popsicles and deer burger. I Love the fact that Aldi are experimental in the choices of products in their shop.

Aldi support the Red Tractor label whereby the meet is 100% British therefore supporting local communities.

There isn’t a massive selection of choice compared to other supermarkets. However, this does mean that it is less stressful because I am not overwhelmed with choice. It is a fairly relaxed shopping experience, apart from the end with packing shopping away. (But then again I tend not to go with my children because of this and I like leisurely pace around the store).

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You be sure that every single Aldi has the same layout, therefore you know where everything is, meaning less stress shopping if you need to check into different Aldi’s. There is nothing more frustrating when supermarkets decide to change where they put stuff, nobody got no time for that!

I love the fact that Aldi every fortnight have a thing called super 6 special buys, consisting of fruit and vegetables at a lower price. This is great way to encourage people to buy healthier options.

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Aldi now at their tills have healthy items such as fruit, rice cakes and water to not lead you into temptation.

If you shop at Aldi what kind of things do you like about the store?

Cheers for reading X

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It's OK to not be OK

Hey readers,

Today I wondered into town on a hot Saturday. The atmosphere was busy, people everywhere. Both things I am not very good at.

I appreciate that this is standard, I aimed to go to the supermarket to do shopping. I got half way there and had a funny turn. Don’t worry it is my anxiety based symptom. I have social anxiety and today it reminded me that it was there. I am not invisible, maybe a naive thinking I am better then I actually am when in reality some days are tough.

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I think sometimes I forget that being in recovery from mental health problems is a rocky road and it is not simply just black and white. It takes as long as it takes, some days are better then others. It may take years  to recovery or it might be something I have to live with and manage. I think as a person dealing with social anxiety it is really quite hard to remember that life isn’t linear and it is quite messy.

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It is so easy for me to put pressure on to get get to the end but sometimes you have to just accept the fact that you are not ok and you know what that is ok. I also feel when you discuss mental health with others who may not have experienced it or have a different experience to yourself their ‘helpful’ advice is really not that. They put their frustrations on you and there is so much pressure to ‘pull yourself together’.

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These expectations that you should instantly find a magic cure especially when you have a label as such you sense that patience runs so thin. People don’t see mental health like physical, ok mental health awareness has improved but not the acceptance. People thing by changing your attitude it will instantly get rid  it doesn’t work like that. It is something that you have to  constantly work at it and you can be so hard on yourself. You forget that it is your journey and some days are just rough. It is ok to say you know what today is a shit day, sometime we have them. I am going to say quite controversially that sometimes it can be good to have a bad day because it gives you change to reflect and appreciate the good stuff.

Cheers for reading X

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Why I am pro-child telly!

Hey readers,

For the past five years of being a mother my main obsession has been Television / entertainment. I have been rattled with guilt, paranoia to near destruction of what other people think, mainly because of the pressure of social media but also because I feel my autism is a downfall. Therefore, I need to score points of being ‘ better’ because of my inabilities in other areas.

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I would obsess so much that i could not think of anything else, I would not enjoy my time with my child and felt always on edge.

I felt that my child if they watched TV every single condition associated with allowing your child to watch TV they would get.

I would get annoyed at hubby being so relaxed with just turning the telly on and I am always on edge. My whole body aches from anxiety. I worry that I am a failure because I allow my child to watch TV.

But recently I have learnt to accept that you know what TV isn’t that bad. It can be enjoyable, I love good old Mr Bean.

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TV can have a positive effect it can help with my son’s speech delay, it can educate them or it can simply help my eldest wind down from when he gets in from school.

I have noticed that if I live the TV all day long thew kids get bored, they wonder off. They look for something to do and they happy play together or entertain themselves.

When I dropped the guilt and thought fuck it, as long as they are happy, fed and alive that is all that matters.

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It is not the end of the world, it is so hard for any more especially first time round to know what to do and how to deal with giving the right amount of input.

But hand on my heart I have found the more relaxed I am, the more relaxed everyone else is around me.

Sometimes, you have to accept what the situation is and yes sometimes the 43 inch  babysitter helps because I am struggling or just need a break.

We are all more happy when I adopt this attitude. Plus, my eldest watched very little TV and very likely autistic. my youngest watches a TV, more clear in speech and socialable and not likely autistic. What does that say?!

So, if your reading this, give yourself a break, you are properly doing fine and the more research shows us that more then ever are parents more engaged.

Cheers for reading X

 

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Children's CozyPhones Review

best and Hey readers,

As a parent sometimes I wish for a bit of quiet time, especially if you have listened to the Gummy Bear song for the umpteenth time. Well here is a solution by having some CozyPhones headband headphones to give to my child to plug into tablet time. I don’t have to worry about them falling our as the earphones are inside the headband giving that extra security.

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Firstly,  I absolutely love the concept of the headband and as I have child that would constantly be pulling the ear phones in and out this is a helpful product to stop that from happening. Not to mention the design is soft, fun with the bright green frog character (although other characters are available). The only downfall sadly is the size is a bit too small so quite fiddly to put on my son’s head, however this  could be the fact my son has a big head.

Once we mastered getting the headband on and making sure the speaker part (is a round circle type thing, proper technical term there) in place they were good to go.

My eldest loves the headband because he feels all grown up as he has seen mummy with headphones when she goes out for a run.

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The stitching is really good quality and the material of the headband is soft fleece material. The cord has a 35mm plug so is compatible with a lot of different devices. The 36 inch braided cord comes in 36 inches  and can manage the wear and tear of a normal child life.  There is free shipping and cost $19.99. If you not a happy then a money back  guarantee.

Overall they are brilliant and much better then ear plugs. My son said they were really comfortable and he could hear really well through the headphones. Another positive about the headbands is that they are perfect for road trips when you need something to distract your child from asking are we there yet over and over. Giving you time to concentrate on a relaxed journey. They can also make great gifts for birthdays.

You can find more details about the product here – CozyPhones.

Cheers for reading X

I was given a pair of CozyPhones in exchange for a review. However, all opinions expressed are entirely in my own. 

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