Thrive App Review

Hey readers,

If you like me suffer with stress or anxiety then I have found a way that may help you and that is an app called Thrive . It is available on android and iOS.

So what is Thrive? well in a nutshell it is a service that provides helpful information and tools to reduce stress and anxiety, therefore making you thrive in life.

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When you first start the app it will go through questions on how you have felt over the past two weeks such as I have been experiencing not much enjoyment in activities. There helps give the app a baseline on your mood and also the areas that you need to improve on such as finding ways to wind down or getting more sleep.

The background of the app is a island on a beach and has soothing music to help make you feel more calmer.

Then there are three islands that you can navigate around which each having sub categories for tools for you to use to help you.

On the first island there is:

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Breathing 

Provides a step-to-step guide on how to do the breathing with you. It recommends that you do it three times a day for three minutes.

Meditation

These are guided meditation to help you relax. There are a variety of types such as sensory (focusing on sounds) to meditation in learning to not engage in worrying thoughts. There are different length meditation from five minutes to 25 minutes.

Deep Muscles

Works though all the muscles from the top to the bottom of the body and learning to untense and relax your muscles.

Self Suggestion

Using a phase like Keep calm and going through an exercise to help you relax.

Second Island consists of all things Zen like.

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Zen Garden

If you are like me and enjoy practical activities then this will be a good one for you.  Basically, it is a virtual Japanese rock garden when you focus on creating a garden that consists of calming features like water. It is practical but calming as well, as you are concentrating on the garden and design as opposed to the stress that is on your mind.

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Zen Challenge

Is a game where you have different levels to get one  bucket to another bucket. It starts of easy but does get hard.

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Final island consists of:

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Message

Where you can create a message of encouragement and in turn receive one back (I believe it is for other users of the app, I don’t know the person personally). PHOTO

Progress

Where you track how well you have been doing through the week or month.  You can revalue how you are feeling, how much times you have spent on activities giving you insight to what is working and what needs to be improved, if anything.

Mood Meter

You can analyse your mood with the mood meter. It is grey cloud at the bottom to indicate totally sadness and in contrast at the top is sunshine where everything is hunky dory.

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Wellbeing

This section looks at the concerns you raised organically when you first signed up to the app and then there is information about why for instant sleep is important. Further down there are tips and ways to help make the situation better. Such as not drinking caffeine before bed and getting blackout blinds.

Overall, I really like this app as it is practical and something you can use as much or as little as you want. You can use the tools that suit you, as everyone is different. What may work for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. A good point about this app is it is on your phone and you can use it anywhere. So, for instance I struggle with social anxiety. If I am particularly anxious on the day of a social situation I can go to the bathroom and do a three minute breathing technique to help reduce the anxiety.  I like the fact there is more than one option giving you that choice to tailor to your needs.

I have always found through my own experience as someone suffers with mental health issues, is that doing something practical when you feel  dire really can make you feel tons better. It gives back that empowerment and seeking out some help can build your confidence when you are feeling so rubbish.

I can’t really fault the app and give it a 5* because it is important to spend time on your mental health.

Cheers for reading X

I recieved app payment in exchange of review. All opinions are entirely my own.

 

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Now I am a mum I have learnt…

Hey readers,

Isn’t parenthood wonderful, since being a mum I have learnt so much. I know it is cheesy, but it so does change you as a person. Let me inlight you with the things I have learnt from being a mum.

Since being a mum I have been constantly thinking I am so tired and the fact there is nothing more appealing than spending a whole day in bed, could you imagine?!

Motherhood changes you for the better, you grown and learn skills. For example patience and how to speak more simpler, which are brilliant skills to master in my eyes.

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Sadly, you slowly learn the hard lesson that having children is expensive. This particularly came more apparent when my eldest started school.

Kids are noise and your poor little ears will be battered with the ongoing squabbling.

The washing basket will never be empty again and you take so much pleasure in completing washing

If you get to sleep till 8am you are privileged. I am also going to say that when you do have the lucky chance to sleep in, you will soon be greeted with sods law knocking on your door as you are so internally trained to wake up so early, you mind has suddenly thought there is some serious emergency.

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Guilt is there 24/7 and you doubt everything, no matter what anyone says you constantly question the decisions you make.

You will inevitably turn into your mother, there is no escaping – whether it be moaning that you are constantly tired or you got adopt them catchphrases such as, one more time, wait until your dad gets home.

No matter how many books you read, there is no one perfect answer. Changes are things change and popular ways of parent constantly shift. I learnt this when I had two children.

 

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The end of reception year at school

To my darling boy,

Can you believe that you have completed your reception and you will moving to year one. I can still remember when you were first born and being so tiny, how times have changed!

Well what can I say have noticed a real transformation, some good, some challenging shall we say. This year we have learnt so much about you and the person you are becoming.

I and daddy are so learning that you are autistic, even though no one will listen at the moment, but that is more politics and what the eyes can see more than anything but that is a can of worms that I won’t open here.

You have progressively got better with your speech and through expression. You have become more confident and independent. You have thrived in learning – I can’t actually believe how much you love reading now. You can’t seem to stop writing, which is just lovely to see. Your thirst for knowledge is mesmerising (thank Goodness for YouTube).

I know you feel frustrating at the beginning of school due to misunderstandings through communication but you have become more patient and willing to listen.  You’re so determined and possibly a little bit stubborn but I think that this are positive traits in a person and make good qualities in life.

You’re such a caring boy, always being kind and listening to others. You don’t exclude people and you want to make sure that they are involved. This might be down to understanding about mummy’s autism and the way that she cannot do the things others can do. Therefore, allowing you to be understanding of other’s needs.

You have excelled in every element of your school report and we are so proud of you. You have come on heaps and bouts. There is more work to do but I know you can achieve it as you are dedicated and focused.

We spoke to your teacher the day before you broke up and she said that you have improved a lot with your behaviour. When asked do you get involved with the naughty behaviour that other people do y out step aside and don’t get invoked. You are now more of a role model child to kids. Me and your daddy believe that this is down to the fact a few months ago we talked openly about your autism and how it affects you in certain ways.

I love you dear child and you make me so proud to allow me to call you mummy.

Well done and here is to the next year which I know you can’t wait to get stuck into

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Love you,

Mummy X

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My boy of late…

Hey readers,

I have a confession to make, today was hard day for me mentally, not only am I dealing with my  own issues but also them of  my son’s. Today he had a major meltdown which left us at breaking point. Not just for me I think, but actually for my husband as well. My husband is normally chilled out and causal about stuff so, it must be pretty bad when he is worried about how he will not only mange  with his wife’s autism (he is my carer as well) but potentially his son’s.

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I am currently sat in the other room because I really can’t cope at this point with my son’s screaming for over an hour.

We went to visit a butterfly farm locally to us, today, the butterflies are in a massive green house room and can freely flutter by. Here is where the problem lies, my son had a meltdown at this place because he could not cope with the butterflies random movement (which  I struggle also struggle with) but had taken medication to physical effects of anxiety).  He is 5 years old and is an independent walker however, my husband had to carry him around as the only place where he was calm after the heightened anxiety was where the butterflies were not in one of the other areas. The moment he stepped back into the arena where all the butterflies were that was it again, he just could not cope with it and was panic attack.

All afternoon he has been on a roller-coaster of emotions. But finally he has settled to just streaming and I mean screaming. He literally has to be restraint because of how violent his behaviour has become. He is biting, scratching, hitting, and lashing out and potentially harming our youngest.

Now,  I have been on a parenting course where it is frowned upon restraining children. I am very conscious of this. I do not do it under any circumstances but when it is a situation where risk involved and the child is hurting themselves and no other way can help that child stay calm then is not much left we could of done.

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Now you are wondering have we been to the professionals to discuss our concerns and the answer is yes, several times. Let me tell you the background, firstly he started school this September so we approached the school to see what his behaviour was like and to ask for guidance. They did observe but didn’t feel any worries. So, we went to our GP, he said to speak to the specialist person. SO we did and filled out our worries on paper, then they would investigate. That was fine, they came back to us I think within the month saying that they have taken on board our concerns but because his behaviour is not affecting him at school that they can not really do anything. However, they did say that come back in a year and see what is behaviour is like and see if any behaviour changes have occurred.

Well that is great help because as most of us know generally children are totally different when they are school, it is a different environment etc. I asked my cpn (community psychiatric nurse) who see’s me for my mental health what his advice is because he may have had experience and what he thinks we should do.

He said that the only path at the moment is through the school or GP. So because my son’s behaviour is masked (because I know for one he copies a lot of behaviour, he is very similar to me. I kid you not my husband always says that talking to him is like talking to me).

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So, basically there is no other avenue, because apparently if the child is perfectly well behaved then the child will go through the net but if the child is extreme then they will get the help they deserve. Bearing in mind that these teachers are looking after 30 odd children so they can’t spend long periods of time with them individually. It is just so frustrating right now because we just don’t know what to do but one thing is for sure no seems to care if your not extreme. They see the whole picture and that is what really sucks.

I am writing this so that I can document my journey with my eldest, who knows where we will end up but his behaviour is erratic and there is genuine concern there.

Cheers for reading X

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Things I would like to change

Hey readers,

I love my blog as it is place where I can track my thoughts and a way to express any worries I may have. Some things recently I would like to change to help make me life little easier.

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Recently I have been struggling with tiredness. It normally occurs around the end of the week and think that it is just because that it is a knock on effect of all the week has on me. I get tired anyway because of how much energy it takes to deal with my autism difficulties. I think just being kind of and not so demanding on myself. Taking it slower is better for me and my health and that is what I want to achieve. I am a firm believer in taking small steps or else it can be risky to lose motivation if I push myself too hard.

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I also want to try to be more experimental in the kitchen and try new recipes to help with getting more confident or at least giving hubby a break from the wonderful cooking he does. However, I do love trying new recipes, even if it is just once a week, it really does help with my confidence and esteem when I achieve good results.

Because of my tiredness and anxiety I dip in motivation to go out and about. I am hoping with my YouTube and the lighter days get more encouragement to go out. The thing is when I am out I feel good but my downfall is getting past the first step.

I know so cliché but someone with an anxiety condition it has to be to try not to worry so much. I panic about my parenting and how good I am. Sometimes, just accepting situation can reduce that great big weight of my shoulders.

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Cheers for reading X