To my darling boy,
Can you believe that you have completed your reception and you will moving to year one. I can still remember when you were first born and being so tiny, how times have changed!
Well what can I say have noticed a real transformation, some good, some challenging shall we say. This year we have learnt so much about you and the person you are becoming.
I and daddy are so learning that you are autistic, even though no one will listen at the moment, but that is more politics and what the eyes can see more than anything but that is a can of worms that I won’t open here.
You have progressively got better with your speech and through expression. You have become more confident and independent. You have thrived in learning – I can’t actually believe how much you love reading now. You can’t seem to stop writing, which is just lovely to see. Your thirst for knowledge is mesmerising (thank Goodness for YouTube).
I know you feel frustrating at the beginning of school due to misunderstandings through communication but you have become more patient and willing to listen. You’re so determined and possibly a little bit stubborn but I think that this are positive traits in a person and make good qualities in life.
You’re such a caring boy, always being kind and listening to others. You don’t exclude people and you want to make sure that they are involved. This might be down to understanding about mummy’s autism and the way that she cannot do the things others can do. Therefore, allowing you to be understanding of other’s needs.
You have excelled in every element of your school report and we are so proud of you. You have come on heaps and bouts. There is more work to do but I know you can achieve it as you are dedicated and focused.
We spoke to your teacher the day before you broke up and she said that you have improved a lot with your behaviour. When asked do you get involved with the naughty behaviour that other people do y out step aside and don’t get invoked. You are now more of a role model child to kids. Me and your daddy believe that this is down to the fact a few months ago we talked openly about your autism and how it affects you in certain ways.
I love you dear child and you make me so proud to allow me to call you mummy.
Well done and here is to the next year which I know you can’t wait to get stuck into
I believe that animals are really great for children and help them learn in so many ways. Let me express them reasons below:
- Animals teach children how to be gentle and soft towards animals.
- Animals can help with learning, mainly dogs because children who are not feeling confident in reading out loud are more willing to do so when dogs are around. They feel more confident in reading to dogs which can really help enhance their education.
- Animals can be loving and be a companion towards children.
- It can give responsibility to the child to learn to clean, feed and make sure the animal is loved.
- Stroking animals can help lower blood pressure and calm down a child who is angry or anxious. By giving the child something to focus on, therefore can help relax the child through touch and stroking movements that are slow and gentle.
- Animals help provide love and build a relationship of trust between child and animal.
- Having animals around can help strength immune system.
- Living with an animal can provide compassion in children.
- Sharing a common interest of looking after animals with other siblings can help enhance the relationship of the siblings because they have a common thing that they are both interested in.
- Having an animal to cuddle can help reduce loliness, isolation and feelings of hopelessness.
Cheers for reading X
My youngest is obsessed with pumpkins and every time he sees something that is orange and round it is a “pumpkin”, especially when he sees the lights on top of the zebra crossing.
My eldest has been to our local cathedral in our city for a trip with the school. So many questions about Jesus and bombing. He asked his daddy, “why did Jesus get bombed?!”
My youngest always comments about his brother by stated, “he is my big brother”. Super cute.
My youngest sees bees and calls them, “bzzzzzz, bzzzzzz”.
Anything that my ds1 sees that needs mending or painting or whatever he says, “daddy can fix that, he can mend anything, he has strong muscles, super big muscles”.
Cheers for reading X
Hubby shared a chat he had with my eldest early, “I wish mummy didn’t have autism. Can’t Dr’s give her medication to make it go away”. How to feel shit in fice seconds. It breaks my heart that I am now getting noticed by my son with being different, I suppose this is the start of things to come.
My eldest asking,” why do so many people get cremated it’s silly!”.
My DS1 saying, “I wish we could live in Wales forever and never come back”. Yep me too son I wish I could totally run away from it all at times :|.
I attempted to make a joke to my DS1 saying I would leave him in the car all by himself. His response was that it is ilegal to leave children alone in the car and the police will put you in jail mummy.
As we were driving past the graveyard the other day way DS2 comments, “boo”. this is becuase he thinks the tear ghosts there, 😂
Cheers for reading X
Joining in with some clippets of conversation with the boys.
My ds1 joke, “How do you make bacon? By killing a piggy 🐷!”
“If all children die together becuase of gun shooting in America then they can have a funeral together”. My eldest son comment after taking about gin crime originally around police carrying guns. Jeez it is a web of questions how the heck you got here.
“Mummy more Octonauts please”, ny you youngest asks me a million times aday. But at least now he is getting.more words in a sentence.
My eldest had a new catchphrase and constantly says to me, “everything going to be alright”.
Everytime the internet video is loading my eldest says, ‘ circle of doom”. Which is a phase he learnt of his daddy!
Cheers for reading X
Right now you are embarking on your newest adventure primary school. Oh boy were you overjoyed at this prospect and love it to the moon and back.
Well where do I start all them years ago when when I was overjoyed to feel you wriggle and jiggle inside of me. I have never felt more alive when I fell pregnant with you.
I have seen you grow from a little blob to a happy independent little boy who I am so proud to call my son.
Your such a quizzical boy and you want to soak up everything around you. You love learning and finding out why things work the way they do. So I am sure you are going be OK during school.
You have so much lust for life and start every day with a spring in your step. Of course, in some cases you are poorly but that is a rarity. You are hard work at times but that is only becuase you are so excited and have so much processing away up in your brain. There are times when I think will you ever stop to just enjoy the moment but maybe that is how you get your kicks by exploring.
Over the last year you have developed a wicked sense of humour and mischievous laugh which I so enjoy. You make mummy laugh (but I know secretly some of it is down to my making shhhh).
You also have a caring side especially towards your brother. When anyone cries you worry and do your best to make them happy. You love babies and everytime you pass one you say hello. I am sure you will make friends as you are a ball of energy and such fun.
It has been over a week and already evert single day you can not wait to go back. You can’t wait to play and get creative. I feel this is a big step where you will evolve intellectually and grow more mature. I’m going embrace the fact you will have fun and be happy.
The only downside is your speech but you are already getting there and it is a challenge we will face together.
I know at times it is frustrating when you don’t feel heard or the difficulty of expressing yourself to others. Never forget though that you will ALWAYS have the support of mummy and daddy.
Finally I just want to say how proud we both are of you. We have watched you in the begining staring at lights all day in the first few months of your life to watching far top many ‘ how to ‘ videos on YouTube. I love you as your own person and even though it is frustrating when you are so you stubborn it is merely I sign of how determined and motivated you are. I know that you will achieve because you have the drive.
Regardless of what path you take in life, always know that mummy and daddy love you dearly.
Love always Mummy X
It us that time to record them special moments with your little ones.
Both my boys were playing lovely together on mummy and daddy’s bed. U was in the next room and I overheard this conversation. DS1 says to DS2, “you be mummy I be daddy” you then can hear movement. DS1 announces, “Mummy it’s ten o’clock time to get up”. I wish I could lay in till ten haha!
After watching Power Rangers DS1 declares to me that, “Mummy if I take your backbone out you will go all wobble like they did in the power rangers”.what a lovely thought 💭
DS1 when shocked or surprised he says ever so sweetly, “oh my goodness”.
We went to our local museum recently where they were showing an exhibition all about Lego. My DS1 commented, “were at Lego Land”. I thought this was cute. i don’t mind because it is free and feel guilty because he keeps seeing the ads on TV for Lego Land and he so desperately wants to go. But sadly we can’t afford it but coming here today he was overjoyed and contended.
When my DS1 is thinking or sees something slightly different he comments by saying, hang on a minute”.
Thanks for reading X