Get up and go,
but what happens
if there is no go
where do I go,
who can help me
when society is broken.
I’m stood like a fool,
the outcast that I am,
no one knows
the mask I hold.
forever trying to be
something I am not.
I never will reach,
I am just not good,
I wish was
then maybe life
would be much better.
instead I am stuck,
with my brain fu*ked.
We live in a technological age where you can practically get anything online from clothing to hayfever tablets to even psychological therapy.
When thinking about receiving psychological services online can you really trust them? How do you know that what the psychologist says is legit and save to do online?
Of course, like anything in life, there will always be some bad apples out of the bunch of potential good apples. However, that does not mean to say that online therapy is all bad. There have been many success stories from people who have received online therapy and it has really helped improve their life.
There are checks to see what qualifications a psychologist has obtained, meaning that they are above board and valid. They have had the correct training to give out to a client and that they are safe to do so. You can check to see if the psychologist is legit by visiting The British Psychological Society This website allows you to search a database of registered online psychologists and what they have trained in. You can see where they are based and what kind of therapy they offer plus how much each session costs.
Alternatively, if you’re not sure about an online company or online services then there is also another brilliant website where you can check the validity of the website called Scam guard. It is a site where you can see all the complaints given to that company and this will be an indication whether they are worth checking out or not.
A lot of people have really found online therapy beneficial especially if they can’t leave the house or with the overstretched NHS mental health waiting lists. Online therapy gives a person a chance to speak to a professional trained in talking about your issues. Online therapy can give that confidence to improve your situation, you are in control and if at all you do not like the therapy that you are receiving you can say no and end it.
The beauty of therapy online is that it is flexible with time. We are not just tied down to the local therapy that is on offer locally to use that has to be fitted in the traditional 9-5 Monday to Friday slots. The therapy that is offered online can be at any time with the options of evenings and at weekends, for example, therefore giving you the individual more choice and flexibility to fit around your lifestyle. Not only is the times flexible for getting therapy but also the choice of counselor and the type of therapy you want. You have more choice with online psychologists, therefore, you don’t feel you have to do something just because it is one option. You can take your time and find the right therapy for you.
Here is a good read that explains more about psychologists online.
Cheers for reading X
This is a sponsored post for BetterHelp, however, all opinions expressed are entirely my own.
This week my word of the week is
as I haven’t done a lot but it is just wan I needed for me to rest as I was totally exhausted mentally and physically. I have been to the park, scooting and checking out museums close by home. It has been pleasant and I have just rested which I believe has helped my soul. I think I just needed time to shut down. I have to take it slow, which I have been doing with pottered about, reading and just generally taking it easy.
Also, the boys have been kept busy with accessing free swimming lessons (they also have their normal ones) so that is one of knackering them out, #mumhack.
My eldest has also gone to the occupational therapist to help with hand control. We have had issues as he is left-handed but won’t write with his left hand. This is because he believes that because I am autistic and left-handed that will mean he will be the same. I try to tell him that really doesn’t matter what hand you write with there will always be autistics who either write in their left or right hand. It has been a struggle so hope these sessions will help.
Hope you have had a good week.
Cheers for reading X
My word of the week is:
First of to kick start the summer hols on day son decides to run in the kitchen with the tablet and accidently drop it on the floor. Restyling in leaving a wonderful massive crack on the tablet, excellent stuff.
We decided to try out the camping for one night this week and sadly I just couldn’t do it. I just couldn’t cope with the whole situation due to my autism. SO now I feel pretty crappy about myself about the whole situation that I am not good parent again because I cannot do what normal people do. I had a meltdown because of all the stresses and I worry that my husband thinks I’m a right diva but I’m not I just can’t cope with the situation. I am useless with change and dealing with new environments especially when it involves waiting around. It just a big massive trigger for me.
Cheers for reading X
I have spent a large proportion of my life living and battling mental health problems. I have experienced anxiety, depression, and OCD. So, I for one know how hard it is to manage and get on with living your life when you have hurdles to overcome. Here are some of the ways in which I try to help myself with improving my mental health and they may be useful for you too if you struggle.
Learn to be kinder to yourself.
This one is an ongoing problem that I struggle with, it is too put yourself down when you have learned to over time. It is easy to batter yourself with the negativity especially when you’re dealing with trauma. That said one of the ways you can do something positive in your life is to learn to be kinder to yourself. I bet if the situation was turned to a loved one would you speak to them the way you do to yourself. Changes are no so looking at the good, praise your achievement even if it is small. You can change behavior though it takes time but needs to be practicing to do so.
Take time out.
One of the best things for me when I am struggling is having time out to myself to have a breather and stop. For me, I like to get my headphones on and walk. It makes me switch off and just go somewhere else other than the situation I am in.
Set realistic goals.
Goals are brilliant – they help give focus and something to aim for. However, the one thing that can occur for people is making goals that are too unrealistic and less likely over time to stay focused and achieve. So, when you do consider making goals have a big goal but then make micro goals to help along the way to achieve that big goal. Another thing to take on board to reward yourself with something when you have reached the small goals. This will make you feel good and make you want to continue to the next level of achieving that goal.
See the positives.
As a person who sees the world with an empty cup of water, it can be so hard to see the positives sometimes you got to wing it until you make it. What I mean by that statement is that you have to force to see the positives, write them down and find something even if it is getting out of the bed in the morning, that is progress. Habits are hard to break so get into forcing yourself to write down three positives a day, over time this will become easier to do.
Break up the monotony.
Life can be boring at times so that why it is important to do something now again that breaks that samey samey up, you don’t have to spend a fortune you could go to the local park and have a picnic. It is refreshing to do something different now and again, it allows you to look forward to that day.
What things have helped improve your mental health?
Cheers for reading X