Why it’s good to cry

Hey readers,

I really struggle with my emotions at the best of times but there is one thing that I always fin helpful when dealing with my emotions and that is to cry.

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Before,  I used to hate it, as I felt so weak and a useless lump. However, my mindset has shifted as I got older and I came to the firm conclusion that I do enjoy a good old cry. It might not come to any solutions on how to deal with the problem but the feeling of when you cry feels like a cleaning of my motions, which I think is good for me mentally.

A lot of the time when I cry it occurs when I have had a build up of all the frustration and believe me and you I  get frustrated A LOT. I am autistic and struggle with seeing the world through a non-autistic way,  therefore I fee at times really angry and sad. That is why it is also important for me to find an outlet to get them feelings out in the open so they don’t get so overwhelming and interfere with my life too much.

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Therefore, I appreciate it when I cry, it is my body and mind telling me to let go, just let it all out and to me it feels like all the tension floating away. The after feeling of crying is what I enjoy the most, that transition where I can think clearer. I might not have any power to sort out a problem, nevertheless it helps make me think a bit more logically.

I see crying as a healthy way to manage my emotional response to a problem. we all cry  whether we admit to it or not. We should celebrate crying more and view crying as a natural reaction to situations when we feel sad.

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Research has highlighted that crying actually has a chemical response in the fact that we reduce our manganese levels. It has been found that when we cry the mineral manganese affect our mood and it is 30 times greater concentrated in tears then in the blood serum.

Crying gives us more control as we are actually physically doing something to help ease the pain, acknowledging the feelings and in a sense has been a way to helps humans survive in life.

Cheers for reading X

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Why running rocks!

Hey readers,

Recently I returned to running and got hit again by the running bug, I just love and let me tell you why!

Because running gets you out of the house and you get some fresh air.

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If your like me, I get quite frustrated with my inadequacies as a person and since I have started running have found running really great to just burn off them feelings.

It is good for you physical health, I only do running three times a week but I still find it beneficial in helping me ton up my legs and help strength my arms (as I am on medication where one of the side effects causes me great deal of physical pain).

You feel like you have achieved something positive and can make you feel better for it.

It is really fantastic to help you sleep if you do in the evening or alternatively, if you do it first thing in the morning it can set you up for the day.

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You build up stamina which is always handy if you have young children and they want you to run after them in the park.

I had a break from running for a few weeks and definitely missed it. Once I stsrted again with running I found it made me much happier in myself and like I achieved something.

Obiviously, a bonus reason for running is it burns of calerioes which who can not deny is wonderful.

If you have children it sets an example regarding doing exercise and a positive message of seeing it occur.

You never fully appreciate a shower until after a hot sweaty run.

It is free, you can do it practically any where and at any time if you wish.

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There are so many free apps like c25k to help beginnings that are a great guide to help you know where to start. If you are really confident then there is an event called parkrun (again free) where you run with others and such buzz, plus the feeling of being part of the running community.

As a parent you sometimes lose yourself, so it is good to do something for yourself, a bit of ‘me time’ where it is an activity solely for you to enjoy and get something out of.

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5 life lessons I have learnt

Hey readers,

I thought today I would share with you my five top lessons that I have learnt so far in my life.

My first lesson is that there is more good then there is bad in the world. Sometimes we can all get sucked into the doom and the gloom of bad news that we can forget that there is so many good people in this world. I think the below quote is spot on and something that we should all try and remember.

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My second lesson I have learnt is that sods law will always kick your ass every single time. When you think you know what will happen in life then  you can guarantee that something will pull that your feet at that moment in time. I suppose a classic example would be where is that bus when I am running late when normally it is bang on time!

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As an anxiety suffer you believe every thought and feeling at that given time. You feel like you are stuck and things will never change. So my third lesson would be that the feeling will pass. I try to focus on this thought when hard times hit and life seems scary!

My four lesson would be that you can take it or leave it when it comes to your  thoughts because at the end of the day they is just all they are and only come from YOUR brain. No one stuck have that choice to whether you act upon them or not.

The final lesson that I have learnt in my life is and one of the best cures for stressful situations is  to have a cup of tea and toast as it is the best way to solves problems.  So, if I need time to think this is the one stop solution to give me a chance to think clearer.

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What lessons have you learnt in life? What do you think of mine?

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9 ways to wind down

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As a person who struggles to wind down it is always good to find ways to help me switch off. I am quite an anxious person naturally, so therefore, at times I can neglect myself especially when the anxiety is getting to me.

1) Turn off the technology, this will help you switch off from all the noise that is going on. It give you time to turn off the thoughts and help get your body naturally tired.

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2) Don’t drink caffeine an hour before bed as caffeine is a known stimulate that will increase the changes of not wanting to go to bed.

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3) Make sure you get the right temperature for bedroom to help you feel more comfortable and ready to settle down for the night.

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4) Reading before bed is a fantastic way to help get you tired but also feel more relaxed.

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5) Watch something that is calming and not thought provoking and not a programme that will make you think or cause an emotional reaction because you don’t want racing thoughts as it can prevent you from sleeping and more likely waste timing thinking where you could of been sleeping.

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6) If you have anything thoughts that seem to be repeating and stopping you from getting sleep a good technique is to have a note book by your bed and writing down your thoughts. If there are written down then it is more easier to stay on top of them and they can then be deal with in the morning.

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7) Having a bedtime routine can help settle you down ready for sleep and it also trains your brain so it gets used to knowing what is happening and what to expect.

8) Put some relaxing music and create a calming environment.

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9) Have a bath – a great way to relax and soak the muscles after a long day.

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What ways help you relax before bed?

Cheers for reading X

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I hate the term girl gang

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There is this term knocking about on the internet called GIRL GANG and I hate it with a passion. Let me tell you why, well for a start I don’t need people to help me and nor do I like a person based on their gender. It is really not important to me and as sickly as it sounds I like a person because of who they are and not because they have a vagina.

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I don’t want to be an arse licker and you get that sense with this whole phenomena  of the term girl gang. I chose who I like and some girls quite frankly are twats where as others are my idols.

I don’t belong in gangs, it gives a sense of threatening and I don’t believe in ganging up on people to like you or others.

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The whole term of girl is condescending anyway, like we are not allowed to be called women because they are too hostile. But that is what we are and we should celebrate it. But also we don’t need to have to push our gender out there surely, shouldn’t we just forget about that and celebrate the actually person.

There are all these kind of ideas of the people in a girl gang whereas if it is men they don’t go on about their gender but merely just get to the point. Which is what is much more attractive. Some great women are not bold and assertive that doesn’t make them less of a female and any less of a reason to celebrate them. You only get certain type of person in these gangs but there is so much more to a person then a title.

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I class myself as a feminist in the sense that everyone should have equal opportunities regardless of your gender. It should be fair and not sticking silly labels to an idea of empowering others when really all you are doing is excluding others. If you want help then cut the sectioning off and let’s just celebrate people regardless of whether they have a vagina or not and see them as a person in their own right.

Cheers for reading X

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Ten mum thoughts when getting kids ready

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Why is it such as pain the arse to get out of the home with two children. God it is an absoutle nightmare. Here are my ten thoughts that crop up going through the military process of getting them ready to go out.

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  1. Do I really need to go out, I am knackered and we have only got one pair of socks.
  2. Surely I  must lose a few pounds from profusely sweating that I don’t need to do a workout later.
  3. Why do I also end up playing cat and mouse around the home.
  4. God my hubby is wanker because yet again I am left to get the kids changed.
  5. Why the fuck do you have to throw the shoes across the room.
  6. Why won’t you sit still for just one minute.
  7. I am turning into my mother, I never thought I would say ‘still for Godsake’.
  8. Thank God for bribery you saved my sanity once again.
  9. That’s it Cbeebies going on just so we can get the hell out of here by today.
  10. Looking at the clock outside, WTF! It  took two hours to get out the God dame door, jeez I wish I just stayed at home. Less sweaty with a cup of tea!

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Death and children

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When your a parent there is nothing more you what to achieve then to protect your children. You don’t want to cause any upset or harm. Sadly life is a bitch and death is there. But it is also part and parcel of life. Most of the time you can get so bogged down with the day to day stuff you almost can forget about the deepper stuff. Thenbl something happens and it brings you back to take note of what you have. For me particularly what I have lost.
I lost a friend and someone that was dear to me. She didn’t judge me even during my baddest times. I know people are judgemental but I was blessed some beautiful, simple yet meaningful nonetheless. This lady was 69 when she died suddenly and had a funeral this week.

Well I was devastared OK I cry a lot and I do cry in front of my children, I don’t hide away from that as I am quite an emotional person.
We try to be honest as we can with our boys. I tend to struggle so luckily my husband is clearer and more precise with answers. So my son anyway is exploring death as part of his development I have found out. We have answered as best as we can about what happens or though sometimes I can get away with myself.
One of the things we discussed and spoke to a professional was taken a small child to a funeral. It appears it is not the dune thing and has a risk that it can affect them for a long time.
Why do we need to cotton wool everything in our society. I mean just look at different countries that are more open tend to have less mental health issues and better communication. The more I read about child mental health issues it tends to correspond with not being open and discussing such matters with children. I even remember no one talked to me as a child about uncle being gay and aunty having mental illness. It as a very confusing for to make sense of that world.
I believe children become more curious because it’s being closed off to them, human nature I suppose.
But I digress I did take my son to thr funeral and some people disapproved but I think the deceased would be really happy they were there. We told our son as open as we can. I hope this builds a trust and he can be open with us in return.
Parenting is so hard making decisions as there is no manual. I hope I have given what was right for my son.

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