I thought I would share some things that impares me because of having aspergers.
I hate vangsness with answers. I like black and white. when people give me ambiguous answers I get worried and unsure as to do socially.
I can read facial expressions to a certain degree. what I am saying is that I can do the overly obvious but misleading ones I really haven’t the foggiest. I am not too keen on abstract ideas and clear, precise information. Although, ironically I am partial to a bit of abstract art.
Tied to the above point I am continuous misinterpreting voices. particularly when it comes to pitch and I be honest at times hubby’s tone really hurts my ears. I literally shout at him or I break down in tears over nothing much, for example do you want a coffee?
I am the not the best touchy feely person. I could go without physical contact for long periods of time. As a parent at times I have to force affection. This does not mean I don’t love my child, I do love them to the moon back, I would die for them. The problem lies with the sensory aspect that interfere with the bond.
I can not handle long periods of time in peoples company. However, saying that over the years I have grown to tolerate more of people. One of the biggest challenges as a parent is dinner time and at times I have to hand over the reins to my husband as I need a break and rest. The bickering between my two boys gets so loud that it is hard for me. I hope as the boys get older I can manage it more.
Sometimes, I may appear young in my behaviour and the way I interact. I can get excited, I tic and get repetitive with words and sway for comfort. In one sense that is why I get on with my children because of my youthful behaviour, the kind of behaviour I display is laughing in unapproachable situations. The urge to respond to the situation is so high that I therefore to aid the impulse have to dig nails into my skin or bite hard my tongue until the urge goes away. In some cases results in cuts and pains in my mouth because I can’t always feel pain at the times which really doesn’t help the situation.
Another problem I have is not always choosing the right clothing for the weather conditions. So, when it is really hot I have been know to wear long sleeves, black. Alternatively, when it is cold I forget my coat or wear saddles. Which is not very practical for me. This is also a problem with being an autistic parent in choosing the right clothing for my sons. My husband has to guide me even after five years I make mistakes.
Cheers for reading X
Household activities such as cleaning or cooking often take parents’ time away from their children. However, tackling these duties as a family can solve the problem. Moreover, kids are pretty curious and even if you don’t ask for their help they will come to the kitchen exactly when you are preparing their favourite cake. Usually, the first thing that crosses a parent’s mind in such moment is “oh-oh” yet, cooking with kids can be a real fun if you follow a couple of simple steps. Moreover, encouraging your children to help you with the preparation of the food has a lot of benefits and will help them acquire some valuable skills.
Follow these steps and next time your child approaches the countertop while you are cooking everything will be under control.
Buy kitchen aprons for all members of your family. In this way, when you ask your kid to put it on, they won’t feel like they have been punished. Most of the children would find it amusing to wear an apron but you can never be sure how your child will react. However, when they see that you are already wearing one, they will accept it as something normal and the most important, later you won’t wonder how to get rid of the greasy spots on their clothes.
Free the working space
Tidy domestic cleaning advises that you should always keep the working area clean, so that when you and your little helper are cooking, there won’t be any broken cups or plates. The freer working space your child has, the smaller the possibility is for a mess in the kitchen. Another important thing is to remove from the countertop every vessel directly after it has been used and you don’t need it anymore. In this way, your kid won’t be able to push accidentally on the floor the pot with egg cream.
Clean on the go
Always keep a bottle of soapy water on the countertop. When your kid is cooking with you, they can’t be as careful as you are and you can’t blame them for that. Be patient and every time you see that there are any food deposits on the countertop, sprinkle them with soapy water and wipe them away. If you are cleaning on the spot it won’t be necessary to spend an hour dealing with the mess after the teamwork.
Organise the cooking process in advance
If you know from the previous evening that on the next morning you will be making breakfast together with your kids, do some small preparations in advance, that will help you decrease the possibility for a mess to a minimum. It is a win-win situation because you still will be able to involve your kids in the cooking process and keep your kitchen clean.
Once you are in the kitchen with your kid, forget all other activities and even your mobile phone. Pay attention to them, stimulate them to work slowly and carefully. If they are not doing something properly, give them a lesson. Remember, that when the child has a desire to learn something, you are the one who needs to teach them. With time they will be able to help with the cooking without making a mess.
These steps may help you look at cooking as a wonderful way to spend more time with your children. Even if you are not able to follow them every time, don’t forget that involving your child in this activity will help them acquire many valuable skills, which will prove to be pretty useful later in their life.
Firstly, I want to confirm that I love my children but sometimes they can be a right pain in the arse and here is why!
They expect you to know the rules of the game that they have made up in there head and if you dare ge tthe rules wrong they go berseck. I mean come on I am not psychic.
They have a knack at saying things at the most inappropriate time in public places super loud. Such as, one time my youngest decided to ask me in the toilets why do you have a hole mummy? Where is your hole mummy? What is that in your pants (sanitary towel for your info).
You have to watch their mind numbingly rubbish shows that are really bright now a days, in my opinion anyway!
Why are children so loud, particular first thing in the bloody morning. Then there is the never ending questions, just drop it for the 1000 time, we are doing it because mummy said so, now sod off.
Children are SO needy and constantly demanding, I mean they really could give Mariah Carey a run for her money and that is saying something 😉
The older a child gets they cost and they are aware of it with their own certain desires and specifications, no dubes anymore, *sob*!
The meltdowns when they are tired are killer, especially when they are in total denial.
They like really like early mornings and they 99.9% of the time get up at the same time of the day, regardless of late nights, dark mornings, nothing will stop the little monkeys from getting up and bouncing on mummy and daddy’s bed, pfft!
When we drive anyway the constantly asking are we there yet. I mean we haven’t even left the car park and it is, ‘are we there yet?’, well what do you bloody well think, fml!
If there are siblings involved it is constant bickering about what the other person has. It really doesn’t matter what it is, if the the other child has it then they will have a massive hissy fit. For instant there have already been several arguments in my household over the fact that one child has the blue spoon when they have the green, I mean seriously, they do the same job just as well, it is only colour.
Cheers for reading X
Have you heard of Wicked Uncle , well it is a fantastic website for all things quirky and a little but different.
I have select a few items from the website that I feel are a great present for Christmas for children.
Mood Cube (£5.50)
I think this is a great present for any children or adult that enjoy soft lighting to have them relax. My son has autistic tendencies and this mood light really helps him to calm down, especially when he is feeling really angry. I also think that the cube is a great way in creating a chilled ambience to a room because it changes different colours when it is switched on. It is battery operated but it lasts a long time and it is something that I enjoy as well so it’s always an added bonus.
StikBots are poseable figurines that are easy to manipulate and put into easy positions to create films. They are great tool for animation films for adults and children. You don’t even have to use them as a animated objects you can just play with them randomly like my son does. He has used this toy the most this week and I think it is going to be a firm favourite of his. He has enjoyed playing with them and creating imaginative play with them and they are really stickable on smooth clean work surfaces.
They come as a pack on two StikBots and you can also download the free app to record animated videos on iOS and Android.
Arctic adventure 4 piece set. (£12.95)
This lovely little set is great for imagination and role play for children. It comes with a Slide and cave, one polar bear (with adjustable head) and two seals. Both my boys but more so my four year old loved playing it especially letting the animals slide down the slide. I think it is a lovely little set that is ideal in taking it away if you’re travelling with a child.
Paint glow in the dark face and body paint kit (£10.95)
The paint is neon, glow in the dark. What child doesn’t like having their face painted and it is super cool for them as they can play in the dark especially now that we have the darker nights. It is super fun and my boys loved playing together in the room (result five minutes peace me, whoop!). I was attracted to it as it is a bit different and I like to have as many different forms of entertainment as possible, as we all know that children get bored very, very quickly!
The paints themselves are kind and gentle on the skin. You don’t need to use any water. I found it really easy to apply and the brush was really good quality to use. It is really super fast in drying out and long lasting. I found it really easy to wash off with soap and water. It does say on the packet that it paints up to 100 faces.
The contents include 6 (13 ml) colours, pro paint brush, sponge, UV light, mixing palettes and tutorial guide.
I hope that has inspired you.
Cheers for reading X
I was gifted the items from Wicked Uncle but all opinions expressed are entirely my own.