Mother fudging guilt! 

Hey guilt,

We don’t need introductions we already know each other fairly well, as you are always there permanent 24/7 hiding in the background waiting to pounce.
I an just writing this letter to let you know that I seriously mother f****** hate you. you know this, you know when am weak and you can manipulate me. You think I will listen but I will but up a fight. There are days when there are constant internal squabbles between me and you. It is tiring and no one comes out.winning in this war. But I still put  up a fight most days, while you hoover in the  background.

I try to be a good mother,  I really do . I don’t get it always right but please stop with the pestering, knocking at my door every corner of the way through motherhood. No one provides a manual with this parenting malarkey so how am I supposed to know. Sometimes I am so scared that I don’t know what to do. All you can do is hope for the best. I am constantly learning through trial and error. Sometimes I win, other times I fail dramatically so.

I know you love the control over my weak mind, especially when I’m not certain but I’m sick of this battle between you and me. I have had enough of this constant battering me down with your mental torture.


You take advantage of all the information available, whether that be online, TV or whatever to make a stronger argument and bring me down. I am sick of this punishment! You dampen my mood and make me feel miserable. I shouldn’t have to feel like this. I have a right to be happy just like anyone else.

Ok, I lose my shit from time to time and shout mum makes an appearance. I let the kids watch TV, sometimes I look at my phone a little bit too much but give me a goddamn break it is hard work.

I know people are going to criticise me for making the comment but parenting is a full time job but no-one recognises what you do. Apart from you guilt, you are there waiting at every opportunity to put me down and make me feel like I’m the worst parent in the whole entire world.

Sometimes you mess with my brain so much that I lie awake in the early hours of the morning reflecting and where it all went wrong.
Right now I don’t care anymore and no I’m not 100% perfect but I’ll give it a good try. We all have to learn from my mistakes or how else do I grow as a parent.
I work my ass off, I try to do all them things that you should do as a parent I feed them a clear of them I love them but now and again I make mistakes I am only human after all.
so on a final note to you guilt I want to say f*** you.


a tired mother dealing with this guilt trip!


If I was invisible I would…

Hey readers,

Id I had to chose a super power for the day I would chose being invisible. It would blow my mind and I wouldn’t know where to start, but boy would I have so much that I would never want it to end.

What would I do if I had a super power?


Well first of I would find all them annoying people that wind me; Katie Hopkins, Donald Trump, Tony Blair, to**ers who feel the need to rev their mopped when my children going to bed and so far. I would make sure I books of poo and land it on their head that would be totally self-indulging.

Oblivious, got to play pranks on people and make sure you record it and upload on YouTube, just for the laughs!

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Free travel in Luxury to anywhere I wanted to go and sit in first glass drinking all the diet coke and eating crisps. Ideally I would aim to see Norway, Iceland and New Zealand for starters.

Haunt someone’s house, how fun would that be, I might even goes as far as my husband just to see his reaction. He is the sort of person who is totally logical and at times quite clinical about certain, such as death.

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As I am a nosy parker, love Come Dine with me, may the best house win, through the keyhole I would totally go and explore people’s homes. I definitely would pop alone to the Queen’s pad and mix things up a little bit, especially if she is doing a recording, haha!
I think may actually go to Harrods to the food quarter and you know have taster session with all the food that is on offer, my theory being is if you can’t do it when you are invisible when can you do it!

I totally would empty Rupert Murdoch’s bank account and make sure everyone knows about his phone calls/emails and any other type of ‘private’ information.

I would rip up Teresa May’s £950 leather trousers, see how she likes it when other people take things of her!

I could on and on but I shan’t bore you, but it has been good to dream.

What things would you do if you were invisible?

Cheers for reading X

How to be content

Hey readers,

In this day and age it is hard not to compare yourself.  I for one am guilty of this, it is so easy to assume that one has it all whilst you feel like you are floating above water.

We can forget that what you see with your eyes on the surface may not be the actually truth. How can possible know everything about someone when we only see a glimpse.

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That is why it is important to look for content within and not on unrealistic ideas that assume make other happy.

Sometimes you can fall under the trap of negativity, where all you see is the bad stuff. That is why it is important to take stock of what is good in life. No one has it all but I am a true believer in that there is one good thing in life even if it is small.

Today I felt sad as if my life is going anyway. I could continue down the negative spiral but won’t get me anywhere, it will just make me feel ten times worse.

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The things I have succeeded in is getting up and making sure my children are well and happy. I have read a book and even writing this post is productive.

I think it is important to accept the things you do have and not dwell. Being content with yourself so a hard thing to achieve when there are so many messages everywhere telling us to be like this or that. You feel like you are questioning everything.

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I think the main that I have learnt in my adult life is meaning and the value you put on something. I think that is the powerful thing. If you let go of connecting to something you would be amazed at how little impact it has on you.

I think the thing that is key in being content is questioning everything and working out what it means to you. Deep down is it really important to you?

Cheers for reading X

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how to improve your mobile battery


Hey readers,

Do you suck the energy dry form your phone. Let me give you some tips to help extend the amount of battery phone.

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Firstly, turning down the brightness can help reduce the amount of battery.

When using wallpaper as background for you mobile chose a darker themes as less light is used and can help reduce your battery usage.

Turning off vibrate can increase talk time for an extra 10 minutes, If you go into your settings of your phone it is very simple to switch over.

Turn off additional settings such a GPS, location and anything else that might not be used.

One of the easiest ways to help reduce battery time is to turn down the brightness as this contribute to your battery life. This is one of the most popular and effective ways used by people.

Looking through the apps on your phone and work out which ones are using up more battery then others, then turn off the irrelevant ones.


Now again go through a clear out of apps on your phone that you do not use anymore, this will help with reducing battery.

If you are not worried about constantly getting notifications with emails and any other notification form apps. Then my suggestion is to turn off them notifications will be a big help in increasing your battery life.

I have found that being on Android that using apps constantly comes with updates that never seem to stop. Well a way to deal with this is turn of your notifications. Therefore saves a lot of battery and if you need to update an app it is easy to do manual through the app store.


All this tips may seem little improvements but when achieving all these actions then they soon add up to longer battery life, making you get more out of your mobile during the day.

Cheers for reading X

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Beach Life

Hey Readers,

The other weekend we went out for a day to the seaside, which is supper exciting as we haven’t been to the coast for along time, so both my boys were super happy at the prospect.

We went to Dorset as it wasn’t the closest and it had sandy beach as my hubby does not like stoney beach, lol.

We went to a local coastal town called Lymington which was  lovely quaint town. We popped into a lovely little tea room and had some delicious sandwiches.

Then we decided to have a stroll around the town and take it easy. We obviously we had to have ice-cream as it is the law when you away.  We came to a real cool decorated ice-cream parlour, I just love the fun balloon lights.

Their ice-cream is one of the best we have ever had. My sons love bubblegum ice-cream natural but when they saw the bubble gum ice-cream cone that blew their tiny little minds.

It was lovely to just take our time and look around at the shops. We even got to see a gold letter box, which both my boys loved.




As you can see there was plenty of visual features to see. I am so easily distracted by quirky buildings and what not.

We then ventured on to a boat yard, and that smell takes me to so many happy memories of vising the sea side. There were seagulls and then general hustle and bustle of day to day life of fisherman and all that kind of thing.




The man in the above photo attracted my son’s attention as he was doing a bit of water-colouring.

We then travelled to a local beach (Avon) as you can’t beat a visit to the beach. Even though it looked overcast it was pleasantly warm.

My boys enjoyed jumping on the waves and building sandcastles. Luckily we didn’t visit during the heatwave period as it was fairly quite which I enjoy more as there is less noise and chaos about. (yeah I know anti-social but true).


Sadly, we only stopped for the day but it was a good day none the less and both boys returned home full of happy memories.

Cheers for reading X

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I hate the term girl gang

Hey readers,

There is this term knocking about on the internet called GIRL GANG and I hate it with a passion. Let me tell you why, well for a start I don’t need people to help me and nor do I like a person based on their gender. It is really not important to me and as sickly as it sounds I like a person because of who they are and not because they have a vagina.

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I don’t want to be an arse licker and you get that sense with this whole phenomena  of the term girl gang. I chose who I like and some girls quite frankly are twats where as others are my idols.

I don’t belong in gangs, it gives a sense of threatening and I don’t believe in ganging up on people to like you or others.


The whole term of girl is condescending anyway, like we are not allowed to be called women because they are too hostile. But that is what we are and we should celebrate it. But also we don’t need to have to push our gender out there surely, shouldn’t we just forget about that and celebrate the actually person.

There are all these kind of ideas of the people in a girl gang whereas if it is men they don’t go on about their gender but merely just get to the point. Which is what is much more attractive. Some great women are not bold and assertive that doesn’t make them less of a female and any less of a reason to celebrate them. You only get certain type of person in these gangs but there is so much more to a person then a title.


I class myself as a feminist in the sense that everyone should have equal opportunities regardless of your gender. It should be fair and not sticking silly labels to an idea of empowering others when really all you are doing is excluding others. If you want help then cut the sectioning off and let’s just celebrate people regardless of whether they have a vagina or not and see them as a person in their own right.

Cheers for reading X

Family Finances: Unexpected Situations To Plan For.

Hey readers,


Your family may be fit and healthy right now, but that has to potential to change any day. Anyone can be struck down by a long-term illness or condition. Sometimes, they are difficult to predict. You need to make sure your family is well-prepared in case you or your partner are diagnosed with an illness. You should start saving for an emergency fund to do this. This will come in handy in case you or your partner needs to quit your job. It is also a good idea to take out a life insurance policy. There are now ones that are aimed specifically at mothers, such as this one
Life is full of ups and downs. Unfortunately, we can’t always prevent the downs, but we can do our best to plan for them so that we can cope better with them. One of the best ways to protect our family is by ensuring you plan your finances. It needs to take any possible unexpected situations into account. This way, your money won’t be hit too hard by anything that comes your way. Here are some of the most common unexpected situations to plan for.


Just like illnesses, we can never predict when we might be involved in an accident. This can be anything as serious as a road traffic accident or as small as tripping up. But no matter how small the accident is, you could still end up with bad injuries. This might result in you having to take some significant time off work. Even though sick pay should cover some of this time off, you might end up needing to take unpaid leave. You can find out more about taking unpaid sick leave here: So make sure you have enough money saved up to get you through your recovery period. You could even use it to fund any operations or treatments.

Home Damage

Home damage is just like accidents. You can’t plan for them. Your home may be damaged as a result of a storm or other natural disaster, such as a flood. This could be extremely expensive to repair. The best way to protect your finances from this kind of situation is to take out a home insurance policy. Double check all the small print so you know exactly what it will cover. Not all policies will cover all types of damage.

Tuition Fees

Not all unexpected situations are bad! There are some happy ones, such as your kids deciding to head off to university! There is one downside to university, though. And that’s the cost! To help your kids with the financial burden of going to university, you should consider opening a bank account for them while they are still young. Pay in a small amount each week. This will build up over the years, and should be big enough to make a big enough dent in their tuition fees. They might still need to take out a loan, but at least it won’t be so big!

Thanks for reading X

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