Techniques to help reduce anxiety in autism.

Hey readers,

I have autism and what accompanies that is anxiety. I don’t think you can permanently get rid of it, sadly it interlinks with the condition. That being said you can help reduce the anxiety with finding ways that can help minimise the anxiety.

One of the things that I really struggle with my anxiety is really badly shaking especially with my hands, they literally cannot stop moving, it is normally triggered in social situations and it is hard to hold a cup – and yes I have dropped a fair few in my time.


Therefore, I have spent many a time working ways to reduce shaking hands because it really annoys me because it is just so frustrating and embarrassing for me.

The first technique to help reduce shaky hands is to focus on my breathing, keeping my attention on the basic principles with breathing in and out. Making sure I am aware of my lungs up and down and making sure that all the thoughts are put aside, even if it is just constantly reminding myself focus on the breathing. At first, it is really hard because it is training your brain to think different but keeps at it and it will get easier with practice and time. However, it is a great tool as it gives you time to slow down with your thoughts and think about breathing. This in turns slows down the fight or flight response.


If it involves waiting around having some distraction techniques weather be writing poetry or colouring helps stop me from thinking about the anxiety and feeding into it.

Reducing caffeine can help, as caffeine is a stimulant and can cause an increase in an anxiety and heart racing.


Hand stretching has helped with trying to reduce the amount of adrenaline in my hand. Stretching out the fingers and pushing all my energy out. I focus on each finger at a time and notice the reactions that are occurring when doing it. This exercise can help once again in slowing down the anxiety and focusing on something other than the intrusive thoughts.

Is there anything that has helped you with anxiety, I would love to hear your thoughts?

Cheers for reading X

Mess free cooking with kids – how to prevent a cleaning mess

Household activities such as cleaning or cooking often take parents’ time away from their children. However, tackling these duties as a family can solve the problem. Moreover, kids are pretty curious and even if you don’t ask for their help they will come to the kitchen exactly when you are preparing their favourite cake. Usually, the first thing that crosses a parent’s mind in such moment is “oh-oh” yet, cooking with kids can be a real fun if you follow a couple of simple steps. Moreover, encouraging your children to help you with the preparation of the food has a lot of benefits and will help them acquire some valuable skills.

Follow these steps and next time your child approaches the countertop while you are cooking everything will be under control.

Kitchen aprons

Buy kitchen aprons for all members of your family. In this way, when you ask your kid to put it on, they won’t feel like they have been punished. Most of the children would find it amusing to wear an apron but you can never be sure how your child will react. However, when they see that you are already wearing one, they will accept it as something normal and the most important, later you won’t wonder how to get rid of the greasy spots on their clothes.  

Free the working space

Tidy domestic cleaning advises that you should always keep the working area clean, so that when you and your little helper are cooking, there won’t be any broken cups or plates. The freer working space your child has, the smaller the possibility is for a mess in the kitchen. Another important thing is to remove from the countertop every vessel directly after it has been used and you don’t need it anymore. In this way, your kid won’t be able to push accidentally on the floor the pot with egg cream.

Clean on the go

Always keep a bottle of soapy water on the countertop. When your kid is cooking with you, they can’t be as careful as you are and you can’t blame them for that. Be patient and every time you see that there are any food deposits on the countertop, sprinkle them with soapy water and wipe them away. If you are cleaning on the spot it won’t be necessary to spend an hour dealing with the mess after the teamwork.

Organise the cooking process in advance

If you know from the previous evening that on the next morning you will be making breakfast together with your kids, do some small preparations in advance, that will help you decrease the possibility for a mess to a minimum. It is a win-win situation because you still will be able to involve your kids in the cooking process and keep your kitchen clean.  

Cook slowly

Once you are in the kitchen with your kid, forget all other activities and even your mobile phone. Pay attention to them, stimulate them to work slowly and carefully. If they are not doing something properly, give them a lesson. Remember, that when the child has a desire to learn something, you are the one who needs to teach them. With time they will be able to help with the cooking without making a mess.

These steps may help you look at cooking as a wonderful way to spend more time with your children. Even if you are not able to follow them every time, don’t forget that involving your child in this activity will help them acquire many valuable skills, which will prove to be pretty useful later in their life.