Age is a wonderful thing 

Hey readers,

People knock being old, for fear mainly. However, age happens to everyone. So, let’s celebrate it because it can be wonderful for many reasons and here is why.

With age, you become more confident because you have lived on this planet longer and you know what the crack is. You know most people in front and you learn to not give a s**t in some respects. You change and you learn to grow into a different person, with different needs. With age you slowly don’t give a monkey’s about peer pressure, you can wear what you want, listen to what you want and it doesn’t matter who you know because you can do your own thing.

Now that I have become older I care less about materialistic things that were much more important when I was younger. Not because of money more the fact I put more meaning on to them.

You are wiser with age and have learnt more so you have that experience. Which comes in handy sometimes as we all know knowledge is power.

I think we age certainly with myself I am less likely to judge. I am much more understanding and flexible with my thinking, understanding that people are different.

Let’s celebrate wrinkles as a positive because they indicate that we have lived, experienced and still here to tell the tale. If we stopped worrying so much about looking younger then the messages would slowly stop with trying to get us to buy wrinkle what not because it wouldn’t be working because no one would buy their products.

I like the fact I can get to see my children grow as I get older. I don’t fear it or get sad but happy and feel blessed that they are alive. As so many parents don’t get this opportunity.

What reasons do you have to why ageing is good?

Cheers for reading X

Maybe

Hey readers,

I have Asperger’s Syndrome, a mild form of autism (though to me it is not mild and it is present every day in my life).

Though there are so many areas to discuss autism today I am going focus on one thing that affects me and causes great distress at the moment. That is the word ‘maybe’, which by the way I hate it and I hate it in relation to a response to a question. It is covered in grey and makes me stressed, especially when it is a response to a question which I want a definite answer (which 90% of the time).

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You see as an autistic person I like control, I like to know what is happening. I love routine it comforts me. Sometimes I admit I get too rigid that I get struck and obsessive making my health deteriorate. One of the reasons is because I like black and white, I don’t like the murky waters of the unknown. I never have, I feel it is innate and my body responds instantly. I can remember as a young child-hating change and uncertainty. I had carers who seemed unpredictable which is not great if you have an autistic mind like myself you get very confused as to what is happening.  I was on edge not knowing how someone would respond. I had night terrors because of the fear. That is just one example.

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Maybe I will, maybe I won’t? but why can’t I have a yes or a no? Often, I didn’t care either way, I was more focused on the answer to be certain. I don’t like guessing games, I like certainty.

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I don’t know really what is the point to the point of this post, I just wanted to get it off my chest because right now I am dealing with maybe which quite frankly is most infuriating.

cheers for reading X

Break

Hey readers,

my word of the week is:

because it is the last week of term and I am knackered. I always am but have to say I am a wingy cow, haha!

My eldest did me proud, we have always struggled with homework. He protests every time he hates homework. I encouraged him to do a bit and remind him that once it is done that he then has the rest of the night to play.

Well, he did his homework and then decided he wanted to do all of it. I told him he could do it tomorrow but he was having none of it and wanted to complete it there and then.

Another big achievement for him is he made up all the sentences by himself with no prompt. Now, this may seem like nothing but this child struggles with abstract and thinking ideas without prompts. So, when he did do sentences I was pretty proud of him as I know this is a big challenge for him.

hope you have lovely Easter.

Cheers for reading X

How to Be a Better Manager at office?

You knew it was coming! You have worked hard all these years and deserved this promotion. Maybe, you are dreaming sweet dreams about your new assignment, and getting excited thinking about the perks and future possibilities. After all, you knew this organization for the past so many years, and have the right to be confident about your added responsibilities. However, is it so in reality? No, it is not. This is because there is much difference to be an office manager.

In most of the cases, good employees get the promotion to office managers. They get the lift because they were good. In such cases, the major problem is that the qualities required for a good manager have not given due consideration. Majority of these people are unaware of the role, responsibilities, and skills required for being a good office manager. They suddenly feel that there is none to consult or train them up and this is why such promotion from office employee to office manager to them is like jumping from the frying pan and entering the fire.

The position of the office manager is unique, and it demands certain skills. Their job includes many activities including the effective running of the office, providing support, and leading the team for growth and success of the company. Here are some tips on how to be a better office manager.

1. Try to be a motivator

As the office manager, you have to work with human elements, and they have to be handled delicately. Motivating the people is very important as only the motivated employees can increase the productivity for attaining the business goal. To face this challenge, you must set clear goals and listen to the opinion of the others about the plan. You must also praise the employees, and encourage them to do work hard for achieving the company objective.

2. Build a team first

Only motivation cannot bring in success. The employees have to work together for attaining the common objective. You must explain to the team members what their role in the team is, and how important is that for achieving the group’s goal. Also, empower the group to do certain things within a fixed deadline.

3. Lead by training

Even after motivating people and building teams, success may still be elusive. Nothing will come out of these actions until and unless you provide the right leadership. This is the ability that all successful managers have. To be a successful leader, you must know your team members well, provide them equal training and help them as and when needed.

4. Learn to listen

Listening is an art, and as the office manager, you must listen more than you talk. Never try to think the ways on how to reply while someone else is talking. As a manager, you should try to focus on the key points covered. This will help you to resolve the issues in the best possible manner, and attain the common objective.
5. Improve communication skills
Ability to communicate effectively with the team members and the management is essential for the managers. As a manager, you must learn to make effective queries and be able to clarify everything. To improve your communication skill, you must listen intently, and also mind the body language. All your non-verbal communications have to be brief and specific to the point. Moreover, you must remember that sometimes it is better to speak over the phone than writing notes. You should also explain the policy of the organization clearly among the team members.

6. Always maintain a positive attitude

As a manager, you are sure to confront difficult situations. This is a part of your responsibility. Mind, a simple simile or humor can diffuse such situations. Try to avoid blaming individuals, and focus on the deviations for setting a right tone in the team. When you do this, your colleagues will rely on you and deliver their best.

7. You should be innovative

As the office manager, you must be out-and-out innovative, especially when it comes to problem-solving. Never get frustrated with challenges and situations that apparently seem to be out of your control. Remember that the solution to all problems lies in the problem itself. Look at the problem from different angles to find the best-suited solution.

8. Should be able to do multitasking

As the office manager, you are sure to be responsible for several projects at a time. You may have to attend an irate customer, crack a business deal, settle some official dispute and also have to plan for the coming week on the same day. You should learn to live in the moment and pay attention to the details.

9. Must be flexible

Flexibility is the most vital quality of the successful office managers. As one rolls with the punches in the boxing ring, you should also be flexible enough to accept whatever comes in your way and learn to overcome that ultimately.

10. Improve the office environment

As a manager, you are also responsible for creating an office environment that is conducive to increased productivity. This can be done by including greens in the office. People have a natural affinity to the greens, and the employees will do their jobs best when they are near nature. Including the artificial trees and plants in the office lets the people have the feeling of green elements, and automatically boost up their morale.

The faux landscaping elements have passed through many evolutions over the years, and now these are professionally made using the best quality plastic foliage and color pigment to make them 100% botanically correct and none can distinguish them from the live versions visually. These are available in large varieties and can also be customized to suit any space requirement. Being UV and fire resistant, these do not fade and do not help spread the fire. These have no maintenance demand and can be installed easily anywhere you like. Being season independent, they enliven the office space around the year.

An open letter to my TV

Dear TV,

I am writing this open letter to you to tell you how I am forever grateful to you. You are the backbone of our home, no joke of a lie. I don’t think I needed anyone quite like you in my life especially now that I am a mother.

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You are central to our family, I class you as a helping hand and when I am in need you are always around to be available in my hour of need and kept me calm before I lose my rag.

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TV you’re so important because without you we would feel lost, you allow me to have that break to do things without the need to think how I am going to entertain children. I can get s**t done such as doing my cleaning like the washing or do the vacuuming without interruption from the kids. This may seem like a bad thing for a parent to do but you know what things need to be done or else the social services will come knocking on our door asking me why my home such a pigsty.

Not only do you help me in my hour of need but you bring us together as a family when we watching movies when it’s cold outside and we’re cuddling on the sofa mentioning popcorn. It is the small things that count and he’s will probably be kept as happy memories of what my boys did when they were younger.

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TV You are providing me with entertainment, a fair few belly laughs. you’ve been a source of education to help me to understand, kept me entertained with thrillers and update on what is happening in the news.

Therefore, from the bottom of my heart, I love you my little 42-inch tv you will always have a spot in the middle of my living room.

Cheers for reading  x