On Saturday me and the hubby took the boys (4 &6) to our local Showcase Cinema De Lux to watch Paw Patrol:Big Screen Tails, 60 minute special. During the week Showcase hosted 25 unique events and films celebrating art, film and music.
I normally don’t have the funds for this type of activity but due to getting free tickets and it being half term who could resist anything to entertain your little darlings.
I like this cinema (I have wrote about the cinema before here) because it is quiet due to it being further away from the city centre.
The cinema is really clean and modern with the design. It also was not crowded or loud which helps as my eldest and myself struggle with these types of issues.
There was free face paint on the day, which my children loved. There was no ques which makes the experience a lot more pleasant. This was a big hit for both boys and added to the enjoyment of the event.
The screening itself was really comfortable. The film was just over an hour so having reclined seats helped settle my boys. There was plenty of room space and because it is a kid screening I think parents like myself you don’t feel self-conscious or worry about the noise.
Husband noted that the leather seats could do with a wipe with proprietary leather treatment where the back and seat meet because you could hear some crazy creaking from leather on leather as people adjusted their seats mid film – not a problem with family films but may be a bit off putting with a thriller.
I liked the fact that the screening was a shorter film as both my boys struggle a bit with concentration, so that was a really positive and no arguments again added to a good time.
The lightening of the auditorium I loved as it was not overpowering and the subtle blue lights at the side of the walls was excellent in the design aspect of the experience. Also, I found the volume of the film perfect. Normally when going to the cinema it is super loud, which worried me a bit as my eldest is really sensitive to hearing and could potentially cause a meltdown (autism).
The boys loved the experience and felt very comfortable. I definitely recommend going to go to the cinema with young children.
Cheers for reading X
I was given tickets in exchange for a review. All opinions expressed in this post are entirely my own.
Today was a day that decided to take action over something that I’ve been in denial about for a while now and that is an increase in being very depressed. I have OCD so the thoughts are very intrusive and fast firing in my head and constantly checking things so enough is enough. My mood is really low and just a sense of dread followed with complete sadness.
I am on medication, however, for a month or two ago I decided to reduce one medication. I forgot what depression had felt like. When you have been taking medication for so long it suppresses your emotions. Which to be fair has been good as it means you can manage the day but you believe the mindset has shifted therefore believing that you don’t suffer as much.
Another reason why I wanted to reduce my medication is the weight gain. However, I think it is a small price to pay compared to waking up angry/crying/ suicidal etc. I prefer to be fat and less breakdown than the alternative.
So, Today I took action, I spoke to my husband and booked an appointment to doctor to discuss the matter. Hopefully, the doctor can alter it, it may fall down to me having to go and be referred to a psychiatrist to get the issue resolved.
However, in the past, I have used coupling counselling to express how I was feeling and explaining the things I do and the things I can’t change in a safe environment. It helped create a better communication especially since being a parent with mental health problems. To find out what couple counselling is all about then do check out this website https://www.regain.us/start/ which explains coupling counselling in more detail.
Yep, so it is just a ramble but glad I took action. Because it is ok to take medication and it is ok to not be ok. I still even now struggle to be open about my depression. It is hard when mental illness is viewed so negatively. I decided to write my thoughts down as a way to help me and allow other people who may be of interest in reading in this and no you are not allowed. It is a fight worth fighting for.
Cheers for reading X
Today I just want to talk about the fact that I am against children doing exams in primary school. I don’t see the point of it to cause that added stress for children. I think it is unhealthy especially when tests start at the age of 7, I mean come on really we need this.
I think schools focus too much on meeting targets for whose benefit?! Of course the government to try and see if we get children to a certain level. But this is added pressure and stress for children, they spend enough time at school to then have to go home and do more homework.
Can you actually believe now there are SATS for children aged 7, I mean come on let kids be kids. I am not surprised kids get more anxious when they are being judged on their ability. We should let kids play instead of trying to push information down their throat. I believe children learn more through play then sitting there trying to recite facts. Ok, some thrive of this don’t get me wrong but as a whole I think it is wrong to test children at such an early age.
I want my child to have happy memories of going to primary school instead of thinking I didn’t do so very well with my tests I has to do.
There is so much more pressure on teachers with how well they are rewarded as a direct outcome of the performance of children doing exams. Teachers are under a lot of stress and I believe that stress not only placed on teachers but also some parents.
Since my son started school last year there is an assembly each week and each child gets a certificate for attending school, for being the best reader or for this and that. I think it is wrong because there are many other reasons why children aren’t achieving or they are ill and they can come away feeling rubbish they didn’t achieve what the other children did. My son didn’t get a reward for sports day and he was really down. Ok, competitives good but I don’t believe in social pressure to perform to a certain level.
I have however, due to my autism felt the pressure to do certain tasks like read. As there are no clear instructions I tend to try and get my child to read. There are times when he is not in a good place mentally to do this task. This type of pressure isn’t good for the parent (me) or the child (my son). It can also cause friction in the relationship at such a young age.
Cheers for reading X
When my son started school I came across the PTA (a parenting teaching association) not to be confused my parents to avoid acrumn though very tempting!
Basically, what it means is that willing parents join this group to talk and discuss issues regarding school. They involve teachers and some parents which allows them to have a fairer and less biased view to voice opinions etc.
I have found that there is a lot of favouritism involved with parents of the PTA. The children get more mentions in assembly, the winners of the raffle tend to be mainly the PTA parents or staff and generally it just feels like a cliché where they have the upper hand.
I kind of get irritated by the fact that they sell ice lollies or biscuits after school. I object to this because I feel that it is forced pressure for the parents to buy things, especially when you can’t get out the gate without your child clocking the stand. Then you have to deal with the constant pestering from your child to buy something. I also find the message of healthy eating that the school try to promote with external services a bit pointless when they sell junk food after school. It does seems pointless trying to encourage healthy eating when you can’t be consist with the stuff you do within school.
I have been so skint before that I just didn’t have the cash to spare and the guilt/embarrassment of saying out loud to your child you do not have the money is just wrong.It makes you feel crap as a parent and causing conflict on the way home when no parent can be arsed to deal that. Nothing is more stressful with dealing with a argumentative child, when you have to deal with trying to get them home tired in the first place. It just means that the child is more grumpier it is double the stress, which is really not needed.
I hate social pressure and appears that PTA feeds of this. All they seem to do is try and make money in raffles or what not. I just don’t like the idea that money seems to be the main concern. I don’t like that fact that it is represents parents and gives some parents more control and possibly influence over teachers.
I just don’t see the point in PTAs. The goal is to get the fullest co-operation from home to school. I don’t want to know if it means stressing over money and the waste of time of having to do mind numbing boring stuff when I could be at home sat on my fat arse drinking a brew. I suppose it is ok if it is your thing but I just hate the constant pressure. I certainly wouldn’t trust PTA, they appear to have too much time on there hands and tend to make us other parents feel lower then them. This is my experience anyway, could be totally different somewhere else.
Cheers for reading X
Why are children super fast when they want to be but as soon as a parent is desperate to get someone urgent they go to slough mode!
Here are some thoughts and conversationset I have when trying to get kids ready and out the sodding door.
1) Please get ready, we need to get to school.
2) I hate you hubby for giving me the task of getting the boys ready, you absolute tool.
3) If I you don’t get ready then I am going to turn off the TV but at the same time promising to turn the tv on because you need to sit still because you need to do their hair.
4) If you don’t get ready I will phone your dad and you will be in serious trouble. (Let’s face it no one wants to hear your daddy yell at you, even mummy gets scared with the decibels used).
5) When it gets close to birthday/Christmas or any special event that is important to your little darlings, it is the ultimate blackmail to get them ready and out the door promote. If parenting gets so bad it will be threatening every single day.
6) Shall I ask your teacher if you are like this at school? seems my son fears this one because he is so angelic he doesn’t want the illusion to vanish from the teachers eyes. Works a treat to kick his bottom into gear.
7) Threats about no pudding go down a treat (yes pun intended).
8) If in doubt and you desperate bribes can be used to keep your own sanity in tact. If ANYONE disagrees then they could bloody well come round at 7am and deal with the problem for me, no problem with that I tell you.
9) Stare at your child, if gives them the willies that the arguments must stop or mummy is going to lose her sh*t big time. This normally occurs when on a Friday because we all tired and about had enough of having to go through this drama for the fifth time this week.
10) If your child loves school as much as mine threaten that if they don’t get dressed won’t go to school that day and do nothing all day at home. Amazing how effective that is and they comply to your need of them getting their socks on.
Cheers for reading X
We all get bogged down in the negative side of social media, so let’s for today celebrate all the good aspects of social media.
The internet is a good way to express yourself. I know for me I find verbal communication really, really difficult due to being autistic. Therefore, writing things down on my blog has really helped. There is also a great autistic community on twitter for example where you can openly discuss topics, it is great to get responses back. It can help other people understand you and help get more personal awareness out on specific topics.
As a parent and someone who struggles with mental health, loneliness is a feeling that has occurred over the years. I find the internet fantastic to connect with other similar people, whether it be through blogging, reading other people’s experience, tweeting or even discussing worries/feelings in forums. Also,the internet can be a useful way to distraction yourself from focusing on negativity. It really has helped me get out of that funk.
The internet is a splendid place if you want to get lost. With so much information out there, it is great to enhance your learning. You can even find scholarly type materials on google or good old YouTube.
The internet is definitely one way to get free entertainment and to do stuff without breaking the bank balance. There is so many options, some examples are; watching YouTube videos, listening to radio, using social media and evening writing blogs 😉
If we look at recent events from this year especially in politics it demonstrates that the internet has a powerful voice. The cyber world can influence for the good and make positive changes. A example of this would be with the way the internet has evolved politics with such matters of politicians being more transparency, though it is a slow process, it is something that is being taken seriously, especially with the way that majority of people get their information from the internet. Gone were the days when it was a two leadership battle, with having the internet it opens doors for more choice. Therefore, politicians have to work harder to get them likes and ultimately the power to change the lives of the ordinary public.
What positives do you find in social media?
Cheers for reading X
Looking for a easy recipe to do with the kids that takes less than 30 minutes then look no further with these gingery oaty biscuits.
- 150g oats
- 100g self-raising flour
- 1 heaped tsp of ginger
- 1 tbsp of golden sugar
- 75g determa sugar
- Butter + a bit more for the greaseproof paper
1. Firstly, pre-heat the oven to 170c. Then spread some butter on to some greaseproof paper and then place on to a tray.
2. Measure out the ingredients.
3. Put the butter, sugar and golden syrup into a pan on a low heat in order to melt the ingredients.
4. Stir the rest of the ingredients into the melted mixture.
5. Shape the mixture into little balls and place them on to the tray. I found that flattening down with a spatula helps give an even bake.
6. Place the biscuits into the oven and bake for 10 minutes or until golden.
7. Remove the biscuits from the oven and place on to a rack to cool down.
Cheers for reading X