how to reduce feeling overwhelmed

Hey readers,

I am autistic and often I feel overwhelmed by all the information that I am taking in, weather that be in the physical environment or online. So, I thought I would share with you tips that have helped me feel less overstimulated.

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The hardest thing to do so is to step away from the situation but it is the best thing to do. This is because it cuts the information and stops everything from processing. Close the computer, step away from the notes or environment and give yourself that time to calm down/switch off from what is triggering a heighted sense of overload.  I found when I have made an immediate cut off I feel I can think clearer rather than just being in the situation where all I can thing about is that one thing. It gives me change to breathe and think what my next move is.

Writing down what exactly I want to do with all the information that is spinning around in my head. Writing down has helped make me feel more space to think straight about exactly what I am doing next. Hence why I always carry a notepad, so I can write all that stuff down that is important to me. Doing this also gives me a sense of control so I don’t get scared of missing out on any vital information at a later date.

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Often when I am feeling overwhelmed at home it means that I have more than one task to complete. Typically, I am trying to multitask, which is a bad move as I am more likely to make mistakes. Therefore I do a to-do list of all the things I need to get done and then number them in priority. If I don’t finish the list I can leave it for a different time.  Sometimes, you have to accept that you are not super human and there is only so much time that you have to do stuff especially being a parent. If it is not something that desperately needs to be done then it can wait. I have done this and found that the work I do at a later date is much better quality. This is because I can focus more on the task rather than at an earlier time when I am stressed out and unable to contrite on that one task, win-win!

I am a big believer in using breathing techniques (it did take me a long time to learn the importance of this) but using all your power on focusing on the art of breathing has really helped over the past couple of months. It helps relax my body and mind, allowing me to feel a reduction in feeling overwhelmed/anxious giving me the break to think.

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With regards to my blogging I can get obsessed with linking up posts or saying yes to reviews, even though I am half-hearted about them. It is one of the most challenging things to do as a blogger is to say no, especially if like myself I struggle with social anxiety. Therefore, causing me to worry about the outcome. However, you have to look after yourself and can’t please everyone, you need to do what works for you. It is good to have a break or stop and think what makes you happy.

I hope this has helped anyone feeling overwhelmed, is there anything that has helped you get through feeling overwhelmed?

Cheers for reading X

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Observations of what happens in a heatwave 

Hey readers,

 Have you noticed that it is a tat on the hot side, yep, me too and I am terribly British in which I love a good moan about the weather. So let’s look at my accurate portray of what it is like to experience going through a heatwave.

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You know you are going through a heatwave when every sentence, every hour of the day is announcing to anyone who is listening, ‘It’s hot’.  Because no one obviously has noticed that big  yellow ball in the sky.

You go bat shit crazy in the supermarket for multi packs of ice lollies like your life depends on it.

You love your fan like a family member.

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Never has a cold shower felt so good until your child decides to walk in on you and declare you have a hole.

You get beyond frustrated at stupid questions asked by children about who is the smelliest when really all that matters right now is trying to concentrate on cramming as may ice cubes as possible into your cup.

You worry your bladder may explode because you have drank your weight in cold drinks in just one day.

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Your pillow has never felt so pumped then during this heatwave with constantly turning over the pillow at night.

You suddenly become a raging manic woman over the tiniest of things  because you fuse has finally blown and throwing wet pants on mummy’s head tips her right over that edge.

The dreaded bedtime you have to do. The ultimate question, should or should you not open the windows? Where the bedroom is like a fucking sauna and outside is just noise from people constantly revving and horn beeping timed just around the bed time hour. Don’t they know these people outside having fun at bedtime hour makes this mama very, very angry.

You pine for autumn so hard, please bring it back, because I don’t know if I can cope with any more under boob sweat.

Cheers for reading X

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MIU Color picnic blanket and water bottle review

Hey readers,

I was asked by the people of Miu Color to review a picnic beach blanket and a glass water bottle.

Firstly,  I went out went out with my youngest to give both items a whirl.

With the picnic blanket what I liked about it is the size (At 5’x6.5) is really good, easily could get me, hubby and two children sitting on it.

It is wipe clean, which is really handy, especially for just  a quick mop over with small spillages. It has a water and sand proof, fabulous for this time of year for when we head to the beach. It is really well padded as well with the two layer compared to some of the other similar items on the market.

I like the colour and the stripes, really vibrant and fun design. It has a handle on the blanket so brilliant if you want to hold it. Or alternatively it is really compact when folded up and excellent in putting it in my backpack which makes life a lot easier when you have children in tow.

The blanket folds away really nicely with the Velcro stripe so it is all held in once. Making it much tidier and in order, which is really attractive feature for me.

Someone is in their element 😉

 

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The water bottle is made of glass and comes with a silicon sleave. Mine was grey but there are alternative options with regards to colour. I really like the design it is slick and I lie the fact there is little circle windows, so you can see the liquid in the bottle.

The bottle is environmentally friendly and is BPA, PVC, Plastic and Lead Free. The bottle is made with borosilicate glass—the gold standard for safe, environmentally-friendly glassware. I find it really light weight actually.

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The bottle comes with brushes so great to get to the bottle and it is super easy to clean.  I liked the little lop holder at the top of the bottle and I didn’t have any worries regarding leaks, which I have experienced in the past with other bottles

Overall, I am very happy with the products, the quality is really good and I think I am going to get a good few years wear out of them. Which again is great for the environment because I am not constantly buying the similar products so saves me some money, as a frugal person makes me very happy indeed.

I also did a little vlog down below 🙂

 

Cheers for reading X

 

I was given the picnic blanket and water bottle in exchange for a review. All opinions expressed in this post are entirely my own. 

Twin Mummy and Daddy
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Hubby’s treacle  waffles recipe 

Hey Readers,

Looking for a sweet recipe look no further, I have a winner recipe here!

Ingredients

Makes 12 big waffles

  • Plain flour 300g
  • Demerara Sugar-  75g
  • Baking powder –  2 level teaspoons
  • A pinch of salt
  • Two eggs
  • melted butter – 100G
  • Milk – 500ml
  • Treacle – 1 tablespoon

(For savoury exchange the treacle and sugar for one more egg plus any herbs you want).

Method

  1. Flour, sugar, salt and baking powder into a bowl, make a well into the centre add the eggs and melted butter  and treacle. Gradually mixing from the centre mix the liquid into the dry (hubby find’s it easier using a dinner knife to do this because of the stickiness).
  2. Starting a  little at a time add and mix the milk in, you should get a mixture that is quite runny but thicker then pancake mix just add halfway through mixing hubby switches from a knife to a spatula, leave mixture to stand while you get your plate, toppings and waffle iron ready.
  3. If you normally make waffles then we find these work better on a slightly lower heat for a longer time, so for us instead of 3 1/2 minutes at setting 4.5 out of 8, we do it for 4 1/2/ minutes on setting 4.
  4. Enjoy!

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Why it’s good to cry

Hey readers,

I really struggle with my emotions at the best of times but there is one thing that I always fin helpful when dealing with my emotions and that is to cry.

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Before,  I used to hate it, as I felt so weak and a useless lump. However, my mindset has shifted as I got older and I came to the firm conclusion that I do enjoy a good old cry. It might not come to any solutions on how to deal with the problem but the feeling of when you cry feels like a cleaning of my motions, which I think is good for me mentally.

A lot of the time when I cry it occurs when I have had a build up of all the frustration and believe me and you I  get frustrated A LOT. I am autistic and struggle with seeing the world through a non-autistic way,  therefore I fee at times really angry and sad. That is why it is also important for me to find an outlet to get them feelings out in the open so they don’t get so overwhelming and interfere with my life too much.

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Therefore, I appreciate it when I cry, it is my body and mind telling me to let go, just let it all out and to me it feels like all the tension floating away. The after feeling of crying is what I enjoy the most, that transition where I can think clearer. I might not have any power to sort out a problem, nevertheless it helps make me think a bit more logically.

I see crying as a healthy way to manage my emotional response to a problem. we all cry  whether we admit to it or not. We should celebrate crying more and view crying as a natural reaction to situations when we feel sad.

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Research has highlighted that crying actually has a chemical response in the fact that we reduce our manganese levels. It has been found that when we cry the mineral manganese affect our mood and it is 30 times greater concentrated in tears then in the blood serum.

Crying gives us more control as we are actually physically doing something to help ease the pain, acknowledging the feelings and in a sense has been a way to helps humans survive in life.

Cheers for reading X

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Why running rocks!

Hey readers,

Recently I returned to running and got hit again by the running bug, I just love and let me tell you why!

Because running gets you out of the house and you get some fresh air.

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If your like me, I get quite frustrated with my inadequacies as a person and since I have started running have found running really great to just burn off them feelings.

It is good for you physical health, I only do running three times a week but I still find it beneficial in helping me ton up my legs and help strength my arms (as I am on medication where one of the side effects causes me great deal of physical pain).

You feel like you have achieved something positive and can make you feel better for it.

It is really fantastic to help you sleep if you do in the evening or alternatively, if you do it first thing in the morning it can set you up for the day.

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You build up stamina which is always handy if you have young children and they want you to run after them in the park.

I had a break from running for a few weeks and definitely missed it. Once I stsrted again with running I found it made me much happier in myself and like I achieved something.

Obiviously, a bonus reason for running is it burns of calerioes which who can not deny is wonderful.

If you have children it sets an example regarding doing exercise and a positive message of seeing it occur.

You never fully appreciate a shower until after a hot sweaty run.

It is free, you can do it practically any where and at any time if you wish.

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There are so many free apps like c25k to help beginnings that are a great guide to help you know where to start. If you are really confident then there is an event called parkrun (again free) where you run with others and such buzz, plus the feeling of being part of the running community.

As a parent you sometimes lose yourself, so it is good to do something for yourself, a bit of ‘me time’ where it is an activity solely for you to enjoy and get something out of.

Cheers for reading X

 

 

 

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5 life lessons I have learnt

Hey readers,

I thought today I would share with you my five top lessons that I have learnt so far in my life.

My first lesson is that there is more good then there is bad in the world. Sometimes we can all get sucked into the doom and the gloom of bad news that we can forget that there is so many good people in this world. I think the below quote is spot on and something that we should all try and remember.

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My second lesson I have learnt is that sods law will always kick your ass every single time. When you think you know what will happen in life then  you can guarantee that something will pull that your feet at that moment in time. I suppose a classic example would be where is that bus when I am running late when normally it is bang on time!

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As an anxiety suffer you believe every thought and feeling at that given time. You feel like you are stuck and things will never change. So my third lesson would be that the feeling will pass. I try to focus on this thought when hard times hit and life seems scary!

My four lesson would be that you can take it or leave it when it comes to your  thoughts because at the end of the day they is just all they are and only come from YOUR brain. No one stuck have that choice to whether you act upon them or not.

The final lesson that I have learnt in my life is and one of the best cures for stressful situations is  to have a cup of tea and toast as it is the best way to solves problems.  So, if I need time to think this is the one stop solution to give me a chance to think clearer.

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What lessons have you learnt in life? What do you think of mine?

Cheers for reading X

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