Dealing with FOMO

Hey readers,

As a person who has experienced feelings of FOMO due to the increase social media presence of this idea of a perfect mother I know how tough it can be. Of course there is no perfect life but when you are bombarded with constant images of happy families constantly doing something and you’re at home not doing a great deal you can feel like you are missing out.

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I know the FOMO (feelings of missing out) is a common problem with the internet generation as there is always something going on and it natural to compare but where do we draw the line.

The dictionary definition of FOMO is:

Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.

Here are some ways have helped me come to accept my life and know it is ok not to be perfect.

Be kind to yourself.

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I think there is this need in society to have the next best thing, to constantly be doing amazing things on social media but sometimes you know what it is good to stay in and do nothing. Don’t beat yourself up for this, your allow to not do anything or go anywhere doesn’t mean you are not living, embrace and actually let go and enjoy it. I now do this and I cut that pressure of and it feels amazing. I slow down and just unwind and it really does the world of good for your mental health.

You’re not alone.

This may sound obvious but belief me when you are engrossed in the feelings of FOMO you lose your ability to rationalise, you assume everyone is doing something other than you. You get intrusive thoughts that you should be doing what everyone is doing and that social pressure feels very strong and the urge to comply is there. I found that actually not looking at some of the individuals who for whatever reason have much cooler life than me helps. I remind myself I am not alone and I also look around on the old social media to see that others doing similar stuff to me and that it is ok to be that. It is all about putting things into perspective realising that most people that you check out on Instagram are just one sided and you don’t see all their lives. Try to unfollow people that make you feel inferior – ignorance is bliss. Find other accounts that are similar to you and you can relate to. It will make you feel so much better and also contribute in helping come to accept your life in a more positive way.

Distractions.

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Sometimes, I feel overwhelmed with all the online information that is out there. The constant notifications that sometimes the best thing to do is mute the distractions, turn your phone on aeroplane mode or even better still turning your phone completely off. Even if it is just for an hour you will be amazed at how much better you will feel.

What things have helped you deal with FOMO?

Cheers for reading X

18 thoughts on “Dealing with FOMO

  1. I suffer FOMO but it’s a different kind of FOMO (https://pandoraandmax.blogspot.com/2012/08/fomo-is-not-dirty-word.html) so may I suggest, just busy yourself. Focus on what you are doing. If you are not doing anything, start organising. Plan the outing or adventure. I’ve set up a club just to do that (The Wednesday Club) and we used to book out Youth Hostels and 40 of us (families would go away). Organise picnics, watch for cheap tix to shows, just start doing stuff. Then you won’t notice what other people are doing, or if they’re doing it without you. And you’ll be having a good time so you also won’t care if they are.

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  2. It is absolutely a real thing, and Like that you are talking in this post about ways to deal with FOMO if you are to experience it. I think social media plays a big part in raising peoples awareness to what they may be missing out on, especially for teens and those in their 20’s who are often quite insecure and still figuring out what is most important in life. I think fundamentally it comes down to feeling satisfied in our own lives and having positive feelings of self worth. There will always be people who seem to have more. But then I think to myself ‘do they actually have more’? Yes maybe they do in terms of holidays or materialistic things, but I know that I am blessed with my life and that a fancy holiday as nice as it might be, it is not going to radically make my life better. What makes my life beautiful is those people who I love and who love me, and just being part of an amazing world where nature is at my fingertips. I really appreciate you sharing this post with the readers of #ABloggingGoodTime thank you so much for the great tips!

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  3. Hello Sam,

    I felt FOMO for the first time when I was in college 20 years ago. There were no social media then, at least not like what we have now, but I have my bedroom window. On Fridays or Saturdays when I’m in my dorm room without any plans, I would look out of my bedroom window and feel envy when I see other young people walk by, assuming they’re on their way to clubs to have a good time. But on other nights, when I’m one of those young people in the clubs, I really didn’t feel too ecstatic to be there. So I learned my lesson. Most times, the idea is much more attractive than the reality. Now that I’m a mom, I do what you do. I turn off social media and I find that I feel much better. #ABloggingGoodTime

    Best,
    Sigrid

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  4. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and putting pressure on ourselves to try to do everything. Thanks for linking up with #stayclassymama

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