My son last week started year two at school. During year one in the summer term, he decided he wanted to wear a dress. I and my husband said yes we have no problem with him wearing a dress. He loves it even though his school friends ask him why. That is fine because kids are curious and I can tell you after the novelty they soon weren’t bothered at all. I also want to say at any time he can choose to change as he has a spare shorts and tee-shirt in his bag.
Now that my youngest who also is a boy started school last week has also asked to wear a dress, he asked we said yes. Now both my boys wear dresses at school.
I have no problem with my boys wearing dresses, trousers, shorts whatever. I don’t see why people get so cut about it. Surely boys should have the exact same freedom as girls and vice versa. I think it is a shame that society is fixated on having to separate girls and boys because really there is no need, it is just beyond silly. I think if we stopped trying to fit out kids into boxes then there would be fewer problems in the world. Like the old saying goes let kids be kids.
I believe as a parent my children can make their own choices, the only limit is obviously money otherwise go ahead chose what you want to be. I want them to have opportunities to express themselves and be their own person regardless of their gender. To me, if I didn’t let him wear the dress I deem that as sexist. Just because he is a boy he can’t wear it, why not?… let’s face it these gender divisions came from people’s attitudes that is all it is.
Do you know who got offended by my son wearing a school dress at school…. I can tell you this it certainly was not the children but the parents making a complaint. That speaks volumes really because children don’t care normally unless the family members have drilled it into them that this and that is wrong because you are a boy or a girl.
However, the problem of gender stereotypes doesn’t just happen with family and friends it goes deeper into society with the media that perpetuities these gender ideas of what is deemed the norm. Remember there was a time when girls could not wear trousers at school and now it is perfectly fine in most schools.
We Need to stop trying to make gender, it is fluid and kids need to be free to make their own choices and express themselves. It is the sexism in society that holds children back and causes problems with them not feeling good because they are a boy or girl. Why are people so focused on what gender you are. Surely we should focus on the individual and want they can offer rather than the fact my son is a boy and therefore can not wear dresses, it is just completely absurd you ask me. We need to change our attitudes by not focusing on if the child is a boy or girl but allowing kids to be free to be whoever they chose to be.
Cheers for reading X