How do I find a therapist near me

Hey readers,

If you have read my blog before then you will know that I have suffered from mental health problems for a large portion of my life and have had several different types of therapists in my time.

If you are in need of a therapist to explore ways of managing your mental health issues or just talking to someone where do you look for one?

Finding a therpist1

Well first of you could ask your GP for a referral for some kind of talking therapy. However, in this day age, it can be a long waiting period depending on the severity of your mental health problems sadly. In the past, I have waited for two years to seek help and during the time my mental health has deteriorated.

There are community mental health nurses who can see you are a regular basis and can deal with a more practical side of things such helping with benefits, accessing services, housing etc. CPNs are primarily there to provide support for people with mental health problems adjust to living life in the community. You will need a referral from your GP to access a CPN. Alternatively, there is a service called IAPTS (improving access to psychological therapies) run by the NHS and they can provide CBT for mental health issues such as anxiety and depression. Normally you can also self-refer. However, this service is not available everywhere so you will have to check that it is available in your area.

If you can afford seeking private then the world is your oyster quite frankly. One place that you may want to look at this article Betterhelp that is a clear and concise in-depth information on where to go to find a therapist.

When thinking about seeking a therapist you have to understand that there are several different types of therapy and some conditions respond better to the type of therapy that is offered.

So, for instance, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) deals with current issues and doesn’t look at the past or childhood. Its main focus is problems that are present now and working with thoughts and behaviors to change the way you’re responding to the situation, This is great for anxiety, OCD, eating disorders for example. It is about changing one behavior for a positive behavior and it is short term. Normally courses last six to twelve weeks and it is a very practical way of seeing fast results.

However, if you have experienced trauma such as rape, abuse then I think therapy that is more exploring feelings and talking openly to someone in a confidential setting may be more suited because not about changing opening up and allowing them emotions to come to the surface.

Therapists can also be online and you can use Skye which is a modern practical way of communicating and seeking therapy. Depending on what you are looking for this option allows you to have more choice in the variety available rather than just having what is available within the area that you live in.

Also, if you are searching for a therapist in the private sector make sure that they have the right established qualifications to work with people who have mental health conditions. They need to have the right accreditation to work in mental health and giving therapy. Each type of therapy has a set of qualifications that a therapist needs, this is to show that the therapist has had the correct training to carry out the therapy on people.  It is good practice for therapists to be signed up with The British Psychological Society  and this allows you the general public can go to the BPS and ask what qualifications the therapist has and the training that they have undertaken.

Hope you find this information useful.

Thank you for reading.

This is a sponsored post for Betterhelp. However, all opinions expressed are entirely my own. 


Hey, readers,

my word of the week is:

because it is now officially summer and boy does the weather let us know. This weekend has been busy with clubs and kids parties, my eldest has been super exhausted during the week due to hectic weekend shenanigans.

DS1 also got to see his school artwork on display in a local public venue last night and he was super chuffed that he got his work chosen for it. Not just that but this week at beavers he got his gardening badge, which he loves because the design on it involves a watering can.

DS2 has been enjoying nursery with seeing the dentist giving our information and an exciting visit from the fire engine. He has been so chatty now to everyone so it is lovely to see his confidence grow. He will soon be leaving nursery next month and start school in September with his brother.

Cheers for reading X

You are the artist

Hey readers,

When I think of the term ‘you are the artist’ I envision it as interpretation. I am mostly bad at interpreting quite frankly. That being said there are times when I see that I think outside the box. I don’t follow a linear movement of what is expected of me due to my autism. I can’t read faces but I can follow my intrusion. I feel it is my light that guides me and helps me move forward.

Free stock photo of sea, dawn, nature, beach

They do say if you don’t have a strength with your senses then you are enhanced in other ways, I believe that to be true. I am not good at communicating, grammar is not my forte but my words are raw and I feel they have weight to them. I feel I am better with written words, I was mute when I  was younger and used poetry as a form of expression. Some may deem this as an art form and that is my calling. I love words, I find them powerful when writing down, maybe because I can take my time to think about what it is I want to say, maybe because I have so many ideas racing through my head I feel inspired. I am lucky that I have this art form. A few years ago I stopped writing, through a really bad trauma I took a change and started blogging, random stuff but it helped me greatly out a dark depression. It motivated me when I lost all hope when my hurt was so raw, words were my therapy. They gave me the strength to get up and carry on. Therefore I am grateful for having a love relationship with words, it has helped me heal and move on with my life.


Try it before you knock it

Hey readers,

We live in a world where technology is at the centre of our lives. Whether it is for work or play technology plays a big role.

A lot of people who are single don’t find people through the traditional ways of dating anymore. It is all about online dating and it is an easy a way of finding that someone to have dates, fun or even meeting that someone special in your life.

I know with dating advertisement there is a heavy focus on joining paid sites to see who is available to date. However, that should not be the case. You can still meet great people to connect with on free dating sites. It is ok to go on free dating sites – it doesn’t mean the quality of profiles decline.

Group of People Walking Under the Orange Tree

In 2018 there are so many free dating sites that the world really is your oyster. adult dating sites are a fantastic tool because you can tailor to your needs and define your searches to what you are looking for. There is a feature where you can see people in the area that you love making it that easy to hook up with like-minded people. Of course, dating sites don’t necessarily mean long-term relationships, as going on dating sites can allow a bit of fun and no strings attached type of need.

In this day and age, it is ok to be free and not always be tied down. The world is becoming more open about the types of relationships because not everyone wants a long-term relationship. It may be the case with some people who have come out a relationship who don’t anything serious, hence why they look for a marital affair. That is why casual dating sites are great as they offer the change to meet similar people wanting these types of desires. There is nothing to feel ashamed about dating and it is ok to just want sex. It is important to bear in mind your safety and making sure that everyone that is involved knows what the other person wants. Then by rights go and have fun and do what you want to do.

With free dating websites, you don’t feel compelled to go every single date in order to get your money worth so to speak. That is why one reason free dating sites are good because they allow you to not feel rushed, you can take your time and make sure the person that you wish to meet is the right one for you. Taking time means that there are better chances of getting a person who meets your requirements and that is suited to you.

Now some people find that dating online allows you to date more than one person at a time. if you are multi-juggling the dating world and one person rejects you it can be hard. Hence why people go on several dates at one time. It can be a great distraction tool to stop and dwelling and be moving on to someone better.

A good reason to go on dating sites is if you are older it can be hard to find company. That is why dating sites allow you to meet great company which will be a great way to have fun.

have you tried dating sites? what is your views about on dating? love to hear your comments.

Cheers for reading X

This is a sponsored post. however, all opinions expressed are entirely my own.

I have a chafing solution

Hey readers,

Its now summer and the weather is hot, hot, hot and nothing better than to get your summer clothing on but there is one problem and that is the dreaded chafing.

I am a big girl I won’t lie, I am size 22 but that doesn’t mean that I don’t want to wear skirts, dresses or shorts. Now, I suffer from chub rub, whereby the top of my thighs sweat due to the heat and then this causes them to rub and burn with the potential to cause a great deal of pain. It is not fun. I mention I am a bigger person however, you can have chafing problems being smaller as well, but being fat really doesn’t help in this situations.

Well, I have tried a lot of products out but I am open to more options, that is why when smoovall said they can send me out a sample of the chafing spray to try out and write a blog post about my experience I was delighted.

I think the packaging is super cute, simple and does not shout hey I have chub rub. First of all, it is handy to have the spray in your bag when you are out and about, making it convenient and you can top easily making you comfortable throughout the day.

I have tried the spray a handful of times and during these times have been super hot and I mean HOT. As we have got a heatwave at the moment in the UK this product couldn’t come at a better time. To apply the spray you have to spray from the area that it is affected on the upper thigh. The consistency of the spray feels light and doesn’t feel heavy or sticky. It has a pleasant smell which is a big deal because if you are going where it then you know you want a fragrance you enjoy.

The spray lasted all day, didn’t get patchy and my skin felt really smooth with the appliance on. When I returned home after I had been out for well over three hours, during that period I didn’t need to top up with a spray which is brilliant, saves money in the long run. There was no fiction and it made going out much more enjoyable. Ok, I can wear shorts or similar garments under my skirts but there is something refreshing about not needing to have to do that and feeling cooler without that option.

Guidance by Smoovall on how to apply the spray.

I shall be using this, well all summer for a start and then some. I found the spray a really good size as I could put in the bag if I needed to top up making it very convenient for me. Using this product for as a barrier to stop chafing really boosting my confidence to wear the clothes I want to wear in the summer without feeling uncomfortable out and about. I normally use E45 hand cream because it is good but short-lived so this chafing spray tops that for durability. So I would definitely recommend for anyone that suffers from chafing and what to feel comfortable in your own skin.

A single bottle of 80 ml Smoovall Skin Contact Spray contains an average of 30 spray applications. It is priced at £12.99 plus £1.99 for delivery, which is free on orders over £20.

Cheers for reading X

I have been gifted the chafing spray in exchange for a review of the product. However, all opinions expressed are entirely my own.

Reasons to love summer

Hey readers,

It is officially summer time now so let’s get celebrating this hot season. Here are my reasons why I love summer.


Washing Line

As a parent, nothing excites me more than to put out the washing on the line, to have that fresh feel when you bring it down. Nothing gets me more excited than getting four loads of washing washed, hung, got down and put away in a day – that my friends are some achievement.  Not to mention the buzz you get of feeling all domesticated and winning at life.

Al Fresco.


Eating outdoors is ace when you have  children because you can leave all the crumbs behind and don’t have to hoover. It is fresh air and being around nature no better place to be when eating. I finding having picnics less stressful then eating at home, maybe kids too and they seem much more relaxed with this option to the alternative eating at a table.


Sunset in UP

With the above point about picnics this can be incorporated with going outside, as I have young children it tends to be the park, which that it was my children every really want to be honest. They can burn off steam while I can get a moment to read some of my book, it is a winner and everyone is happy. It is also cheap day out, the kids get sleepy and everyone is happy to come home and chill out. Going out side mess less bickering and the boys get on better without each other wanting to pull each other hair out.

Schools out.

Family at the lake 

During the summer period of late July and August the boys have broken up from school and nursery. It  feels much more relaxed because there is a unstructured schedule but that sense of urgency to do homework or get out of the door early in the morning. It allows my eldest to be a bit calm as he hasn’t got the added anxiety of spelling tests (this might not affect every child, however my eldest is autistic and performance activities effects him greatly). If we have a day out somewhere on a Sunday or during the week we can take our time without having the thoughts in the back of the mind that we need to get home so the boys don’t get tired the next day for school or nursery.

Holiday away from home. 

The girl and stuff in the open trunk

Of course holidays tend now to occur during the summer holiday as it is the best time to break up the six weeks of summer holidays. Getting away from it all, exploring new surroundings and taking trips to the beach all make up create memories for the family.


Boy in sunglasses and hat eating popsicle outdoors

With summer normally means warmer weather, therefore the choices swing to lighter meals and anything that cool to help get through the heat. I spend a fair amount of money stocking up on the ice creams and lollies, of course a magnum or tip top are signs that summer has officially arrived.

What do you enjoy about summer?

Cheers for reading X