Why I disagree with buying teachers presents

Hey readers,

It is the summer holiday break up today and as I took my son to school I witnessed the amount of presents a lot of parents brought with them to hand out to the teachers.

I be honest, I don’t believe in giving teachers presents because for one I am forced to take my child to school and ok I could go down the route of home schooling but I am just capable and I want to give my son the best opportunities.  I am a strong believer in giving people the choice and it feels a little bit false, in the fact that there is pressure from Clintons etc. I believe in choice and it just feels like you have to do it.

Part of me sees it as a competition from parents to get the present (but that is a whole new political post of its own). I wonder whether there is a bit of arse linking because if they are giving praise etc. it can influence how they view the child.

OK, now it’s that some are genuine and what to do something to say thank you to their teacher for helping their child. But what happens if you don’t have the funds and some people can’t even afford a spare quid, so don’t give me that one.

thank you techer

Why do we have to buy material stuff, ok it is easier to buy a box of chocolates, it just seems that to say thank you to the teacher to buy them stuff. It is peer pressures at its finest, if you haven’t brought a teacher something then there is a change you feel guilty or embarrassed. I don’t think parents should have to feel like this but I know some people do.

So, therefore I believe that it should be band to buy stuff for teachers as parents have enough stuff to buy and find the money (I know this struggle I have been there it makes you feel totally crap as a parent).

Cheers for reading X

34 thoughts on “Why I disagree with buying teachers presents

  1. It is not an easy subject to discuss, I do buy gifts but both my teachers have given so much extra to my boys that i wanted to say thank you. However i brought careful gifts and plants that have a meaning and i wrote that in a card. One teacher asked not for gifts and only if parents wanted a donation to a charity the school raises money for. #thatfridaylinky

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  2. As a teacher myself I really appreciate any show of appreciation from my students (or their parents). It’s really not about the money spent (if I cared about money I wouldn’t have become a teacher). Give me a homemade card with well chosen and thoughtful words in and I remember why I do my (often thankless) job.

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    1. Totally agree with you… Working in school for 22 years l remember all the beautifully drawn cards from the children with their hand written messages. This year l got flowers and chocolates from our lovely parents but the present that stood out was an envelope with a homemade card and a lollypop in it and seeing the excited smile from the child while you open it

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  3. My reason for not buying gifts for my kids’ teachers is basically because I forget! But I have thought that when my third (last child) child goes through primary, I will give a gift each year and write the girls names on it too! xx #thatfridaylinky

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  4. I don’t feel you have to buy gifts. However, my Mum was a teacher and she worked damn hard, she gave up time over holidays to lesson plan and her evenings consumed with work……the holidays teachers get aren’t empty at all. I always remember her coming home with mounds of gifts and she was always so appreciative, in fact she still has some of the trinkets and cards she was give. So we did buy gifts for the teacher, ta’s and head teacher that have supported my son as they utterly deserve it. Always nice to hear a different side of it but I think teachers work so hard to bring out the most in our kids and a little token of appreciation at the end of the year is well received. Great post to get me thinking, popping over from #PoCoLO

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    1. I understand that, some are well meaning. There are good and bad teachers. I had an excellent teacher when I was a child who I made a card for, my life would not have taken the path it did would it of not been for him. However, I do think most of the time I do feel it consumerism gone mad. But totally appreciate your honest and acknowledge point of view. X


  5. At my daughter’s school, a collection ios generally organised by the PTA class reps. Mums and dads can donate if they wish and some go freelance and get their own gift. It is a strange phenomena I agree, but thankfully the pressure you mention doesn’t really exist. #thatfridaylinky

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  6. We are not pressured to do it, but I completely agree it’s ridiculous they get paid to teach our children end of Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

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  7. Our school isn’t that kind of competitive school so I don’t think you get the one upmanship other schools see but there’s presents nonetheless. I usually get the teacher and TA a small gift as a token of appreciation but more importantly is a nicely written card from my daughter on why she’s thanking them. Teaching is surely a thankless task at times and I don’t envy them and so a box of chocolates and a card is the least I can do after a year of my child!!! #thatfridaylinky

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  8. We used to send a card thanking the teacher for all their hard work as some of them really went the extra mile, but contribute to the class present that one of the mum’s did. They’d suggest a minimum donation, but it was very much give as much as you feel / can afford. It doesn’t seem to be such a thing in secondary schools though

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  9. My mum was a teacher and, as a child, I LOVED end of term because I knew that we would have loads of chocolates she’d been given. However, I know that, while she appreciated the thought – and the chocolates – she never thought it necessary for anyone to give her presents, and would be the first to agree that these traditions put unfair pressure on parents who are struggling financially. I think any teacher would agree with that though – they wouldn’t expect the gifts, or want any parent to feel pressure when they can’t afford it – the pressure comes from the other parents, doesn’t it? Everyone feeling like they should conform and fit in with what the others are doing. #PoCoLo

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  10. I have only ever done this once because the teacher in question had helped bring my son out of his shell and helped him with his schooling. She was a huge help and deserved a special thank you. I don’t generally buy into the teacher gifts thing.

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  11. My son loved his first year at primary school, so he made a card for his teacher and a card for his TA. I made them some fudge just as a little thank you for all their hard work. I wouldn’t necessarily buy something but I think a little food gift and a handmade card is a nice way to say thank you to them. After all, they’ve looked after those children and nurtured them all for nearly a year.

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