For the past five years of being a mother my main obsession has been Television / entertainment. I have been rattled with guilt, paranoia to near destruction of what other people think, mainly because of the pressure of social media but also because I feel my autism is a downfall. Therefore, I need to score points of being ‘ better’ because of my inabilities in other areas.
I would obsess so much that i could not think of anything else, I would not enjoy my time with my child and felt always on edge.
I felt that my child if they watched TV every single condition associated with allowing your child to watch TV they would get.
I would get annoyed at hubby being so relaxed with just turning the telly on and I am always on edge. My whole body aches from anxiety. I worry that I am a failure because I allow my child to watch TV.
But recently I have learnt to accept that you know what TV isn’t that bad. It can be enjoyable, I love good old Mr Bean.
TV can have a positive effect it can help with my son’s speech delay, it can educate them or it can simply help my eldest wind down from when he gets in from school.
I have noticed that if I live the TV all day long thew kids get bored, they wonder off. They look for something to do and they happy play together or entertain themselves.
When I dropped the guilt and thought fuck it, as long as they are happy, fed and alive that is all that matters.
It is not the end of the world, it is so hard for any more especially first time round to know what to do and how to deal with giving the right amount of input.
But hand on my heart I have found the more relaxed I am, the more relaxed everyone else is around me.
Sometimes, you have to accept what the situation is and yes sometimes the 43 inch babysitter helps because I am struggling or just need a break.
We are all more happy when I adopt this attitude. Plus, my eldest watched very little TV and very likely autistic. my youngest watches a TV, more clear in speech and socialable and not likely autistic. What does that say?!
So, if your reading this, give yourself a break, you are properly doing fine and the more research shows us that more then ever are parents more engaged.
Cheers for reading X