When your a parent there is nothing more you what to achieve then to protect your children. You don’t want to cause any upset or harm. Sadly life is a bitch and death is there. But it is also part and parcel of life. Most of the time you can get so bogged down with the day to day stuff you almost can forget about the deepper stuff. Thenbl something happens and it brings you back to take note of what you have. For me particularly what I have lost.
I lost a friend and someone that was dear to me. She didn’t judge me even during my baddest times. I know people are judgemental but I was blessed some beautiful, simple yet meaningful nonetheless. This lady was 69 when she died suddenly and had a funeral this week.
Well I was devastared OK I cry a lot and I do cry in front of my children, I don’t hide away from that as I am quite an emotional person.
We try to be honest as we can with our boys. I tend to struggle so luckily my husband is clearer and more precise with answers. So my son anyway is exploring death as part of his development I have found out. We have answered as best as we can about what happens or though sometimes I can get away with myself.
One of the things we discussed and spoke to a professional was taken a small child to a funeral. It appears it is not the dune thing and has a risk that it can affect them for a long time.
Why do we need to cotton wool everything in our society. I mean just look at different countries that are more open tend to have less mental health issues and better communication. The more I read about child mental health issues it tends to correspond with not being open and discussing such matters with children. I even remember no one talked to me as a child about uncle being gay and aunty having mental illness. It as a very confusing for to make sense of that world.
I believe children become more curious because it’s being closed off to them, human nature I suppose.
But I digress I did take my son to thr funeral and some people disapproved but I think the deceased would be really happy they were there. We told our son as open as we can. I hope this builds a trust and he can be open with us in return.
Parenting is so hard making decisions as there is no manual. I hope I have given what was right for my son.
Thanks for reading X