You know what my problem is, the fact I compare myself to others. I know stupid, idiotic, moranic though some would argue that is instinctive as a means of survival.
In this modern day though most of us do it and if you are like me you have low self confidence particularly with parenting it is a hard battle to beat. Sometimes, it can help what with the endless supply of crap found with Google other times you are merely your own worst enemy.
Logically how can we compare someone when we are all on our own ‘journey’ and have different paths to lead. We cant! Not to mention the fact that there are so many variables that if they don’t match yours are pretty useless (intelligent,money, weight, support networks etc, etc).
Sometimes the best thing (well for me anyway) is shut down, put down the thoughts or the search on Mumsnet or whatever you do that leads yourself into a deeper pit of self misery. Step away from what you are doing and go find something to distract you, even if it is cleaning. Which I found therputiv and it hrlps me cut away from the chains of the negativity.
I suppose what I am saying is to stop what your doing, don’t search for questions. I am slowly learning to repeat this lovely mantra, “fuck it”. Because relaxation is key and not focus on perfecion. This helps radiates more positivoty then dealting one’s self and ending up a crumbled up mess in a dark room, questioning my sanity. Remembering that no one is perfect and we don’t fit into boxes. What works for one dissent work for the other. A lot of it is also superficial (do it myself on Instagram) and there maybe more then meets the eye.
Cheers for reading X