Comparison is a losing game

Hey readers,

 

You know what my problem is, the fact I compare myself to others. I know stupid, idiotic, moranic though some would argue that is instinctive as a means of survival.

In this modern day though most of us do it and if you are like me you have low self confidence particularly with parenting it is a hard battle to beat. Sometimes, it can help what with the endless supply of crap found with Google other times you are merely your own worst enemy.

Logically how can we compare someone when we are all on our own ‘journey’ and have different paths to lead. We cant! Not to mention the fact that there are so many variables that if they don’t match yours are pretty useless (intelligent,money, weight, support  networks etc, etc).

Sometimes the best thing (well for me anyway) is shut down, put down the thoughts or the search on Mumsnet or whatever you do that leads yourself into a deeper pit of self misery. Step away from what you are doing and go find something to distract you, even if it is cleaning. Which I found therputiv and it hrlps me cut away from the chains of the negativity.

I suppose what I am saying is to stop what your doing, don’t search for questions. I am slowly learning to repeat this lovely mantra, “fuck it”. Because relaxation is key and not focus on perfecion. This helps radiates more positivoty then  dealting one’s self and ending up a crumbled up mess in a dark room, questioning my sanity. Remembering that no one is perfect and we don’t fit into boxes. What works for one dissent work for the other. A lot of it is also superficial (do it myself on Instagram) and there maybe more then meets the eye.

 

 

Cheers for reading X

 

 

 

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16 thoughts on “Comparison is a losing game

  1. Thank you for this. I think you’re right I just have to remember that comparing myself to others just isn’t helpful and that we all have our own paths to take. #KCACOLS

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  2. I completely agree with this post! I’m always comparing myself with others, but you’re right. We are all on our journey, so with that now in mind, I’m going to try and stop it! Thank you 🙂
    Laura xx
    #KCACOLS

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  3. We agree with that post…actually we’re having one of those days. Comparing is the worse thing we can do. The best thing is to turn off the facility to look at other people lives (FB, Twitter and Instagram) and escape into a book. Hard for a blogger – I know! X #KCACOLS x

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  4. Yes you are right it is just so difficult to not compare yourself with others. I guess this is natural as you just want to see how are you doing with respects to others but it gets bad when you have negative thoughts. We are all different and we have our own journey. Thanks for reminds us this. Will try to stop doing this. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I’m very happy to have you again in this linky. I would love to see you again on Sunday! 🙂 x

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