Me and mummy #1

Hey readers,

I thought I would join in this lovely linky by Nicola called mummy and me.  This is my first attempt so bare with me.

My eldest will not stay still and loves to play silly monkeys when trying to snap a selfie. I think it is because it’s Boxing day, he just full of sugar and he has his nanny and uncle around. Therefore he is not going to sit still and perform, haha!

I  love this shot of me and my youngest where we were playing and just captured the moment beautifully. I feel it really shows our bond beautifully. 

Not often will my eldest sit still but whilst we were waiting for the bus after his swimming lesson he was rather relaxed and cuddly! 

Nicola... Life Through My Eyes

Cheers for reading X 

Why I don’t do New Years resolution

Hey readers,

As we are swiftly approaching the end of the year and 2016 will be here soon people instantly want to make new year resolutions. I know the whole idea that ‘it’s a new year, new me’ thing but new year resolutions are just not my cup of tea. I appreciate that New Years resolutions can be a motivation to help change something you desire. But I shall tell you why for me I don’t do them.

1) I hate having to set something with strict rules. Little rebellious child in me wants to do everything other then that.

2) I find it hard to see a big expectation such as lose X amount of weight.
visualisation is not my strongest point and if I did set a deadline and fail along the way I want to give up straight away. I like small achieveable steps without the boundaries put into place.

3) From past experience when I have done New Years resolutions I fail at the first hurtle it CAN make the situation worse. This is because my mood is dwindled and have no get up go so more likely to sink into the undesired behaviour even more.

4) Because my desired behaviour is deep seated it can take a long time to change. I am one of them people who get frustrated when I don’t see results therefore easier for me to want to quit. It takes a lot of will power which is not great as I am a depressive and find New Year a trigger time for feeling low in mood. I have to be careful as I can slip into the destructive mindset as for me I feel this time of year is alll about reflection.

5) I believe that I can be impulsive for a chance and can make quick decisions without thinking. But lets face it most of the resolutions made on the wimp and unrealistic and I too sent the benchmark to high. I find insight and awareness is key elements in helping contribute to  change in behaviour. It’s ok to want to change but fully understanding the behaviour and why you do something is also key to  success.

Thank you for reading X

And then the fun began...

Sugar withdrawals

Hey readers

Hope you had a lovely Christmas with toys, food and family. But now that Christmas is practically finished with and the overindulgence is passing this will be a hard period for me to beat. You ask yourself why, Well let me tell you I have over indulged again and now going back to no chocolate is going kill me. I am addicted to sugar most of my life and gorge on it a lot. This period after such a heavy use of sugar is so dame hard. So I thought I would write some tips to help ease the pain and help get back on track.

1) Go cold turkey, set a day and get rid of the rubbish food. You feel guilty or find it challenging but you are gaining control so well done on this.

2) Identify when cravings appear in your day. I find that I get sugar cravings when I have a dip in the afternoon. Or when I am tired or need sugar to lift me up. Or in the evening when I am bored. Look for distractions to take your mind of craving sugar. Whether that be writing a blog post, playing a game or painting your nails can help you focus on something other food. 

3) Learn to swap your food for something better foodwise. For example, instead of using sugar in your beverages swap for sweetener, instead of full fat milk use semi-skimmed milk. Add more vegetables instead of meat and have yogurt as opposed to ice cream. 

4) Don’t go shopping on a empty stomach, it will easier to resist the temptation. Plus you are prepared and therefore you feel more in control. Then in turn will get you more motivated to say no and stay away from the naughties.

5) To break a habit it can take up to 21 days on average, although each day will get a little easier. It is good to have mantras when your brain is arguing for and against sugar. Remembering that you own your thoughts and you are in control of your actions.

Hope this helps 🙂

Cheers for reading X



Hey readers,

What happens when you sons think it is fun to rib wall paper off their bedroom wall. Then you have people visiters that think you live in a drug den. This is a result that happened because your husband won’t let you decorate because he is a decorater by trade and a perfectionist to boot. Not to mention that he is a procrastinator result see exhibit A below, grrrrrrrr! 

Exhibit A

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My top 5 things I love about Christmas

Hey readers,

As we are vastly approaching Christmas in three sleeps time (eek) I thought I would get a Christmas post done. 

Now I be honest I do find this time of year the hardest as I have disability which impacts me mentally especially when it involves socialising. But like everything in life I believe there is something good. So here is my take on the things I love at Christmas time.

  1. I love soft lighting and seeing all the decorations in the evening. I find it peaceful to look at as most are soft and subtle and not too darish. 
  2. Candles and dark nights with getting cost on the couch. I know this is bit whatever but I do appreciate these times. It is a time for me to slow down and relax.
  3. I enjoy Christmas movies (well more movies at Christmas time then actual Christmas movies). But again it is a time to slow down especially when it is dark and from outside and cuddle up under throws with my boys. 
  4. The feeling after I have done the mammoth task of all the ‘social stuff’ thrn can I truely relax. I am not that anti-social but it is really stressful for me to see people I don’t see often and deal with all the niceties. Plus I have to be careful with what I say as I can  sometimes not be sensitive and have to put this filter on me. Which is so dame hard under the pressure. That it is nice when I can close the doors and enjoy Christmas with the people I can about the most and not be paranoid every two seconds.
  5. I can be indulgent and not have to worry about the diet until afterwards. I can have some treats without stressing out about it. I have learnt to just do the things I like to do which  Includes going for a walk on Christmas day. 
And relax……

Cheers for reading X