How to tell if you are a hipster!

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Hey readers,

Today I saw a colouring-in book in Poundland and the theme of the pictures was all about a hipster’s lifestyle. I have have heard of this term hipster quite a few times over the past couple of years.  So, I thought I would draw together some key characteristics to identify a hipster.

I just thought I would start off with the definition of what a Hipster is: It is someone who follows the trends/fashion that is outside the cultural mainstream.

**Please note it is just a bit fun, nothing serious.**

1) Firstly, I think one of the main identifiable features of a hipster is their beard or mastache. I am not talking about the dirty biker type but you know the clean and groomed variety. The hipster beard/ mustache looks pristine and full of beard oil or mustache wax which is taken care of regularly. A lot of time and effort has gone into making the hipster beard look perfect.

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2) The hipster hates anything associated with mainstream, they are on their own level and only enjoy the love of indie film and (that tend to have a small budget in making them) tend to be underground and unheard of.

3) To be a true hipster they don’t like any well named bands such as Beyoncé but go for the more unusal tastes. They love bands such as Death Cab for Cutie, Radiohead or Archaide of Fire as their chose preference in music.

4) The hipster can be found hanging out with other fellow hipsters in artsy fartsy coffee shops and post their arty coffee on Instagram. Or unusual places that no other person has heard about.

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5) The hipster normally travels by riding a bicycle as their chose preference to travel and look down on people who drive a car.

6) The hipster has a love for old technology and when the hipster is out walking outside they flash their old Walkman whilst listening to their indie music of course. They appreciate graffiti not as a nuisance but art so they are probably walking around looking for some thought-provoking pieces.

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6) The hipster craves  ‘vintage’ and they get all their clobber from flea markets or raided from their parents and grandparents wardrobe.

7) The hipster wears spectacles not because of poor vision but for a fashion statement.

8) The hipster tends to be a vegan and more than likely have a specific Instagram account for all their foodie pictures which happen to be taken from their old style camera such as a Fuji X.

9) A hipster is found to have on their YouTube channel videos full of live music.

10) The hipster wears a  lumber jacket, skinny jeans and converse…you know what am talking about, this is a common uniform for a hipster.

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11) For a hipster, a tattoo or earring is so very important to their image. The hipster tends to opt for triangles, arrows or some sort of quote on their arms. The earrings that the hipster are one in the nose and big bloody holes. if you’re going to be a hipster you need to make an impression!

Cheers for reading X

Why I am against smacking children

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Hey readers,

Last week The Association of Educational Psychologists said that they want to ban parents from smacking children at home.

Smacking is banned in schools however parents can smack their child at home as long as it is deemed reasonable.

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I 100% agree that smacking anywhere should be banned because it is physical violence regardless of the amount of strength you do it. I don’t see how children learn from being smacked by their parents, all it does is make them lie better. To me, that is not good for anyone.

I don’t think children learn from smacking if anything I think it can have an impact on their mental health and increase the chances of anxiety. This is because they will be scared in case at any moment the risk of doing anything wrong and that to have negative consequences.

Having this form of violence (in my eyes) can make a child feel really sad. This can make their home life feel crap because of knowing that if they do anything wrong regardless of it was intentionally an accident there is the risk they get hit.

I think hitting is a negative way to parent and it doesn’t solve any problems. It is much better to have other ways to teach the child right from wrong.

If children learn from their parents then they will believe that it is ok to hit someone and then there is the risk that they too may one day hit another person.

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I don’t think it is fair that someone bigger then the child can go along and imitate and inflict pain on another. When will it stop, how will it end if it continues where do parents draw the line? How do you know if the parent gets fed up and thinks well got to hit the child harder to get the message through? This situation can escalate in a very toxic homelife impacting on the child’s mental health and other areas such as education.

I think if you want to earn respect from a child it doesn’t work if you hit them if anything it could result in the child hating the parent. It certainly wouldn’t want them to come to the parent and talk about any concerns they may have, as they don’t know how the parent will respond. Then this may cause a negative relationship between the child and parent, that can be damaging for the child.

I myself have been in similar situations and there is nothing worse as a child when you are petrified of going home to the horrible environment. You literally are scared and anxious at school. The anxiety gets worse closer to the end of the day. For me, I couldn’t probably concentrate on my school work because I was filled with dread and worried if I had done anything wrong therefore leading to being hit. It is the most horrible feeling in the world. The anxiety doesn’t just stop there it carries on all the time constant in the background. It is horrible to live like that and that is why I want smacking banned in the home.

Cheers for reading X

How To Fix Damages From A Failed Rhinoplasty

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Unfortunately there are a number of reasons for why rhinoplasty can fail. These can include failure to follow the instructions of the patient as well as incompetency technically on the part of the surgeon. What results can be an unholy apparition where the person’s nose is out of alignment or contour. This can take an average person’s facial appearance and make it into something decidedly unnatural which causes emotional pain and embarrassment.

Worse than this, a failed nose surgery can cause a real deformity of the nasal cavities and passages that negatively impacts the function of the person’s nose. Disappointment and anger are natural reactions to problems like these, along with bitter regret for have opting to have the surgery in the first place. In the end, many disappointed rhinoplasty patients will look for a reliable and dependable surgeon who can fix the damage and rebuild the horribly misshapen nose.

Repairing Unnatural Damages from a Previous Rhinoplasty Is Possible

It requires a high degree of medical, technical, and artistic skills to fix a surgically ruined nose. In fact the challenge is far more difficult than the original surgery should have been. There are several reasons for this. Delicate, thin components of the shape have to be recreated in a three dimensional picture. Twisted, collapsed, and shredded remains must be worked over into the new and improved shape.

Every fabricated section will need a true mirror image to mimic the opposite part. The final product has to be correctly and optimally aligned in such a way that the nose looks straight to the casual observer. Joints and seams have to be invisible after the surgery heals. The whole nose structure needs to be correctly proportioned so that it appropriately fits in with the rest of the person’s face. Not only does the outer appearance have to look nice and be smooth. The interior air passages have to be sufficient in size so that a comfortable quantity of airflow is permitted.

Differences Between First Time and Revision Rhinoplasty

The revision form of rhinoplasty requires a great deal more surgery time. This surgery is far more complex and easily needs a minimum of four to five hours of operative time. The recovery period turns out to be far longer as well, thanks to pre-existing damage to tissue and the longer surgery time. Those patients who possess healthy but thin skin could need a full six to twelve months to see complete results and healing. It could even take two years for optimal recovery and results to appear for those who possess thicker skin that is more prone to scarring.

Revision rhinoplasty also needs something besides merely extended treatment and recovery times. It practically always needs graft material for the surgery to be successful. This living material it wants comes from cartilage that the surgeon will have to harvest from somewhere else in the patient’s body. This is then applied to replacing the damaged nose tissue. The human organism only possesses three ample supplies of extra cartilage. This is why the results with the grafted cartilage will range widely from one patient to another.

The three types of cartilage employed for this revision rhinoplasty are from the septum, the ear, or the ribs. The best source is always from the septum because it is straight and comes from the nose itself. Next best choices are the ear and rib cartilage.

Cartilage from the Nasal Septum (Septal)

This cartilage comes from the dividing barrier which differentiates between the left and right nasal passages. The septum proves to be approximately the dimensions of a credit card. The cartilage beyond the outer perimeter of the septum is safely removable for grafting purposes in nose reconstruction.

There are so many benefits that septal cartilage offers surgeons. The only downside to it is that the excess supply of the material is highly limited. A great number of patients may not be able to take advantage of this excellent source of spare cartilage. Those suffering from prior septoplasties, intense septal deviation, or septal cartilage that has been damaged in the past will simply lack an excess supply with which to reconstruct a nose that was badly damaged in the prior surgery.

Cartilage of the Ear (Conchal)

Within the external ear is a bowl-shaped part that is on the other side of the ear canal. This conchal bowl may be harvested via a tiny incision hidden behind the postauricular crease. For most people, the cartilage a size of a quarter can be taken out without changing the look of the outer ear.

The downside to this ear cartilage is that it is curled, thick, and likely to crack under shaping or stress. It does resist infection effectively as well as resorption and warping. Yet the thickness, unworkable shape, and limited amount cause it to be less than optimal as nose grafting material. Yet there are scenarios when the cartilage from an ear can be effectively deployed to improve a nose surgery gone bad.

Cartilage of the Rib (Costal)

Most people think of the rib cage as primarily built out of bone. Yet in the places next to the breast bone (sternum), the ribs are comprised entirely of cartilage. Every person’s ultimate shape, strength, and thickness of the cartilage varies considerably. .Yet obtaining a length of cartilage that is two to three inches long is possible for aiding with nasal surgery reconstruction.

The upside is that this material is often widely available in sufficient quantities. Getting to it is difficult, takes time, and can be dangerous. Besides this, the cartilage from one’s nose has a tendency to be too brittle and weak when the surgeon thins it to the necessary thickness for the nose surgery. It often warps or curls up in only the months, weeks, or even days after surgery too.

This means that noses which a surgeon reconstructs using rib cartilage can be bulky or bigger than desired so that the thin grafting is not necessary in the procedure. This works for men who want a strong nose, but not well for those looking for delicate and shapely noses as these will all too easily warp. Yet for those whose nose jobs were badly botched, using cartilage from the rib can many times prove to be the only practical means of treating the issue.

If you’re thinking of undergoing a rhinoplasty or a revision rhinoplasty in the Beverly Hills area, you may look for or contact Dr. Andrew Frankel. Dr. Frankel is a board certified surgeon in Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery & Otolaryngology-Head and Neck Surgery. Dr. Frankel performs a wide variety of facial & neck area procedures.

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Rejuvenate “Tired and Sleepy” Eyes With Blepharoplasty

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Firm eyelids and a youthful look, that’s what you want to see in the mirror each morning. Happily, simply by placing yourself in the hands of Dr. Mark Glasgold and his associates, you can soon restore that wide-eyed and vibrant countenance you desire. After all, the eyes are known as the windows to the soul for good reason. Left to droop and loosen, your upper eyelids start to cover your eyes. That hooded, heavy appearance to your gaze, deceptive as it may be, will make you look sleepy and older. Eyelid surgery is the answer, surgery that’ll erase the years that hang above your still very much young at heart eyes.

The youth-rejuvenating results are fully realizable, but the best possible outcome requires the services of a true professional, someone who’ll consider every factor and lead you carefully through the procedure. Are there risks? How long of a recovery period should you expect after the eyelid surgery has concluded? For answers to these questions and more, please read on.

Understand The Procedure

Known by plastic surgeons as an Upper Blepharoplasty, the goal is to skillfully rejuvenate the skin of the upper lids. The procedure uses several small incisions to erase the years, to remove puffiness and that heavy aspect to the eyes that conveys an impression of weariness or apathy. Generally speaking, your plastic surgeon will recommend a local anesthesia. For full comfort and a stress-free experience, talk to Dr. Glasgold about a local, plus IV sedation.

At any rate, with thoughts of discomfort now dismissed, you’re likely wondering where the incisions will be placed. Like any other plastic surgeon, a specialist who views his work with a high degree of professionalism, the doctor directs his actions with great dexterity. Each carefully applied surgical incision is delicately concealed within the lines of an eyelid crease. Excess fat and tissue are removed at this point, and the area is sculpted ever so slightly so that the upper lid area gains a smooth, contoured appearance.

Characterizing Eyelid Surgery Experiences

Sitting in a waiting room, you worry a little. Escorted into the doctor’s office and seated, those worries evaporate like an early morning mist. For every question you have, there’s a reassuring answer. Indeed, you discover that eyelid surgery on the upper lid is considered routine, although the Glasgold group never treats any procedure as routine; as soon as you enter the sanitized operation area, every move, every incision and surgical action, will be made with clinical precision.

First of all, there’s the local anesthetic to administer. A slight stinging sensation is possible here, but that feeling soon passes. A light IV sedative is also carefully dispensed at this moment, all the better to assure a comfortable and anxiety-free procedure, from start to end. Only when the upper lid area is numb and you’re ready does the blepharoplasty commence. The incisions are concealed, perhaps in the fold of your eyelid or in a fine skin crease. Then, when the lid contours are well-defined and the puffiness-causing fat is removed, a few mico-sutures are used to invisibly conceal the work.

In point of fact, after the procedure is over, there should be very little bruising or swelling. The local anesthetic minimizes such post-op issues. Diligently wielding his instruments, your doctor also works hard, and with supreme dexterity, to ensure the incision marks blend into your natural skin creases and light wrinkles.

Who Will Enjoy The Benefit?

If you’re constantly being asked if you’re getting enough sleep, a moment comes when you wonder why everyone’s convinced you’re so sleepy. Perhaps you’re a woman, and your eye makeup would benefit from larger, smoother eyelids. Or, if you’re a man, that promotion you’ve been after is out of reach because your hooded eyes are making you look sleepy and old. Whatever the reason, this eyelid surgery could just be your way out of the eyelid-heavy doldrums.

Of course, you’re not worried about an obstruction to your visual field when you’re on the verge of opting for an upper blepharoplasty, but you’re certainly beginning to experience a different kind of anxiety. Looking in the mirror, seeing the reactions of friends, colleagues, and family, you just want to rejuvenate your eyelids and be able to convey the inner energies you’re experiencing. Thankfully, restored by this procedure, your eyes will look well-rested and significantly younger.

What Are The Post-Op Effects?

Well, a light swelling effect around the lid area is common. That post-op outcome could linger for as long as a week, and it may be accompanied by some localized discomfort, but it will fade. If the discomfort does last longer, please do contact your plastic surgeon. Otherwise, post-operative dressings are not required, and you can resume normal activities when the preoperative narcotics have safely worn off. As for driving, don’t attempt to drive until all narcotics and pain meds have passed through your body. Additionally, consider remaining a passenger until all of that concentration-debilitating eye discomfort has gone.

For more information and an appointment, call the offices of Dr. Mark Glasgold. Board-certified in facial plastic surgery, Dr. Glasgold and his professionally accredited colleagues will work with you to ensure you receive the highest level of care and consideration. Dr. Glasgold specializes in facial rejuvenation techniques including eyelid surgeries in New Jersey. From the moment your consultation begins to the moment your procedure concludes, your path to a positive outcome is our sole concern.

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Adjusting

~ mummyhereandthere ~ 17 Comments

Hey readers,

My word of the week is

because my youngest has started full days at school this week and to say he is tired after school is an understatement. I was ambitious one day this week and took him to the library after school thinking he might enjoy it. Turns out nothing but winching and eventually a full down meltdown, joy I certainly learned from that experience. He is defiantly not used to full days like he does now.

I have been to the dentist which I hate but I had to have a filling which sucks, but it is done now. My dentist is social as well when he has fingers in my mouth, why. I can’t answer him coherently.

I have been loving also the darker nights. It feels so much cosy to sit and wrap up with a throw.

I hope you have had a good week.

Cheers for reading X

How to have a smooth school morning routine.

~ mummyhereandthere ~ 36 Comments

Hey readers,

Now we are back at school some of us *ahem* struggle with the morning run. It seems chaotic and rushed so here are some ways that have helped me to have a smooth school morning run without the stress.

Preparation do in the evening. 

So. where shall we start? well, I think the first important thing to incorporate into your school routine is preparing the night before to reduce the stress. This will help give you the confidence that everything is under control. Making sure that the school bags have been emptied of the millions of letters, getting the bag ready, having all the school uniform gathered and placed neatly for the morning. Therefore once it is morning all you have to worry about is getting your darlings motivated to get dressed.

Lunch.

If you have a child who takes a lunch to school preparing it the night before can help save some time in the morning. As parents, we need to do the minimal as it is important to make sure we have a HOT tea, crucial!

Reward Chart. 

If you are struggling to get your child motivated one way to help in the short term is a reward chart. Plan out each section – get up, eat breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth etc and give star when that routine is done, once the child collects x amount of stickers they will be rewarded for their good behaviour. This can help ease your child into a productive routine and hopefully with time they know what to expect and it be a much calmer affair.

10 minutes early.

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If you have children like me that are not what you would call speedy when they walk to school (ironic any other time you would think that they were the Bolt). Then leaving ten minutes early so that you can take your time, there is nothing worse, well for me than rushing around, it makes everyone a bit tetchy. Also, you can have a more relaxed affair as you are happy and no need to shout at the children to get a wiggle on. You can have an actually normal conversation as well, amazing!  

Being aware of what is happening. 

A thing that I have in the past struggled with is forgetting to check if there is something important happening at the school. Making sure you have a diary to put the important information such as needing to bring in money or food for a special occasion. Therefore you can feel in control and know what is happening beforehand. Make sure that you read the newsletters or any letter from the school bag the night before.

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Breakfast.

I make sure that the cereal boxes are out, bowls and spoons the night before can really save some time in the morning. Doing the baths again the night before is another you can do to reduce the amount you have to prepare in the morning.

Anxiety. 

My eldest suffers quite with anxiety because of having autism. What can help settle him and reduce any conflict is talk to him the night before about anything that is bothering him and if you can try to come up with a solution.

Hope this helps and is there anything that helps you reduce the stress of the morning routine?

Cheers for reading X