Parenting is hard at times

Hey readers,

Today I just want to curl up in a ball and hide away from the world. I have had a really difficult day looking after a really energetic child. It didn’t help that when walking into town my son decided all he wanted to do was just scream most of the way and chanting that he wants daddy. It is unbelievably exhausting especially as I am so sensitive to hearing because of my autism.

Then in the afternoon I just constantly had to deal with this mental  battle in my head that if I am not entertaining my child 24/7 then somehow I am a rubbish parent. It is a constant battle that occurs in my own head and the sad thing is, is that it is all made by me. No one has told me that I am rubbish, it is just me putting so much pressure on myself, probably some guilt around being autistic and having shortfalls that other parents don’t have to deal with. However, today my anxiety is so high that I am left with a killer headache because I am so tense from my self-inflicted anxiety. I have already had a panic attack and sometimes when so bad I am fearful social services will come and take my child of me simply because I had the TV on to much or I am a bit rubbish at communicating.  It sounds silly writing this down but at the time them fears are real and frightening.

Why is it so hard to find a middle ground, I suppose this is always my problem never really reaching that right balance of moderation. I have always been extreme because that is just simply the way my brain is wired. I am all or nothing, so naturally it would seem down into my parenting. I think because a lot of things is down to not communicating and no ‘rules’ as such I find it difficulty to manage. All the things that I am good at are structure based and have a step-to-step system, it is what I excel at. I am not good at ambiguous. I never have and I don’t think I will ever have the skills no matter how many times I try. SO, basically I need to accept me for who  I am and instead of putting me down, embrace them skills and use them to my advantage,. I think this is one of the biggest learning curves for me as an autistic parent to master.

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But I will say truefully with having such energetic child who will not sit still or does not want to engage in anything longer then five minutes is tough. Especially, when at times where I am by myself and feel like constantly breaking down with fear of how am I going to get past the next three hours?
I hope this stage gets easier and that I can relax and enjoy parenting a bit more and less of a pain in the arse chore that I have to get through.

I feel awful for writing this but this is the truth, this is how I feel at times. Don’t get me wrong other times parenting feels like a breeze especially when there is another parent to help out. But currently with my 3 years old child you it is solid work and really has an ability to have a knack at pushing my buttons.

Cheers for reading X

February faviourite things 

Hey Readers,

 

I am going share the goodies I have been loving this month. Check it out below 🙂

  1. I have really sensitive eyes and have tried a few wet wipes from cheap shops but love these ones from Poundland and great for a quick way to remove your make up costs £1.00.

2) How lovely is this gold spotty box to brighten up a room. From the brilliant Home bargains for £2.49 and as you can see I have already used the space up to store my nailpolishes.

3) How lovely is this fox cushion. I just love the quirky design with the geometric pattern. I got it off AliExpress online for £3.89.

 

5) Finally, I am in love with Khoal eyeliner from Primark. I have tried a few but this is a firm favourite and to top it all costs a grand total of a pound.

Cheers for reading X

Energy Within

Sometimes I don’t have the energy,

to embrace the day,

to fight this thing called life.

It is more appealing to hide,

In my little bubble,

with no interference,

form the so-called people,

that wide me up terrible.

My head goes into spin,

so I lose my direction,

with no idea,

how to get back in the arena.

All I can do is rest,

Waiting for the moment,

For me to perform.

The front that saves me,

So much heartache and woe,

When my strength appears,

I can get back to fighting levels,

With the  armor of safety,

To complete in this difficulty,

Of life and all it’s mystery.

 

 

Day out to Tropical Birdland (Leicester)

Hey readers,

It was half term this week and and what better to have a family day out and go explore someone new. So, that is just what we did, we got recommendation from someone we knew about this place called Tropical Birdland in Leicester.

At the birdland you can go through the aviary section where you can freely walk around and see many different  variety of tropical birds. Some closed cages and other cages you can walk in and get up close to.

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There is also other wildlife in the aviary area including owls and billy goats.

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There is a specific pond section with different moi fish and ducks.

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My boys loved being able to feed the birds and get to them close up and hear different calls that the birds made.

The avairey is set against beautiful, natural surrounds that are very calm and peaceful I found espeically being autisitic. There is also a woodland walkpath where the beautfiul woodland is there to greet you . You can freely walk around and explore if you desire. There is no time limit you can take as long as you want to explore with at the pressure of rushing around to take it all in.

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Further down the line there is an open area where all sorts of parrots are out in the open. Some even mimic human language which amazed my sons. If your luckily some get really close and sit on your shoulders.

Of course to make my kids ecstatic was the wonderful wooden play area for all ages groups – with slides, swings and climbing frame to keep them amused while you have a sit down and a break.

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I found the place really clean. The staff were really friendly and happy to assistant you and answer any questions you may have regarding birds.

There is an onside cafe and the food is really tasty. Alternatively there are many picnic tables and plenty of bins (which makes me very happy).


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Regarding the cost for tickets I think it is really reasonable. You can see the prices below compared to other well know attractions and I feel it is worth the money for an excellent day out for kids and adults.

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Defiantly a wonderful day out in the outdoors for any age really and really enjoyable experience.

Cheers for reading X

My top seven frugal tips 

Hey readers,

I love a good bargain and trying to save money when I can. So, I thought I would share some of the things that really help reduce the cost of my spending.

1.Plan, set a Budget for a X amount and stick to it.

2. Go to the supermarket near closing time to get reduced items.

3.You can put your recipts to a good use by download Shopprize from an app store and scan your recipts. You then can over time exchange the coins into amazon vouchers. It doesn’t take that long either. Sadly the app only works on Android at the moment.

4.Wait until after an occasion to get knocked down prices, I.e. Halloween/Christmas etc.

5.Use mysupermarket.com as it is brilliant for comparing products and finding the cheapest place to go.

6.Take advantage of the advantage card. Tesco and Boots are my favourite and they are nice little earners.


7. Save 10p every say in a jar, it soon adds up after awhile.

Thanks for reading X