My eldest starts a new chapter in his life in September. He starts school and here is when it is a turning point, where I worry about what will happen when social pressure rears it’s ugly head.
I have already seen the impact of my sons decisions he has made based on the influence of his nursery friends. Small things but noticeable things. Such as he randomly wanting a England football t-shirt because his friend had one. He wanted it right down to the same number on the back of the top. I am fine with him having choice and pleased that he knows what he wants. But I also know the power of peer pressure and the need we may have to want to fit in. I worry how it will impact on my son. I would love him to have the confidence to be his own person. I would love him not to be swayed by others but sadly we are reaching that point that you lose a tiny bit of your child and now we now simply have to adjust to the ever changing direction of my son’s journey through childhood.
It is scary and I do worry whether my son will get bullied or he will bully others. That being said he might not be either of this, which would be brilliant.
You think you know your child until you have an opportunity to secretly watch them out of sight and you realise that they are slowly becoming their own person. What you think you know of your child can be totally wrong especially in a different environment such as nursery. I have witnessed some behaviour in my son that I would not see in is home environment.
I just hope me and my husband can teach our son that he can be his own person and that if he does not want to do something that he can say no. I want him to know he can always trust myself and his dad and we are always there to talk if at all he feels anxious or needs advice.
It is awful to let go of being primary carer and allow other people to come along and be my son’s life to influence. I can not now at the tender age of five wrap him in cotton wool all the time though I can give hot chocolate and cuddles when needed. Lets face it one day my son won’t be a child, he will grow into his own person where he will have to stand on his own two feet. All I can do is trust and hope that he turns out not too damaged. regardless of whatever path my son takes he knows that he is loved and accepted for who he is.
I suppose it is not just a turning point in his life but a new chapter for me as a parent when my son slowly grows further in to independence and I am not needed as much as a guidance but just a warm hand of support.
cheers for reading X
Well it’s finally here, summer hols! Both my boys broke up from nursery on Tuesday albeit the youngest didn’t go in this week as he was poorly. Over the weekend the youngest had a temperature over 41.5 and he kept getting really cold and hot. He was very wingy and tired due to this bug he caught.
Saturday we did go out but he was so bad that I had to come home and get him comfy on the sofa with his quilt whilst watching a marathon of Octonauts. He was motionless on the sofa which is very, very unusual for my DS2. If you ever met him he would be really bouncy and have bucketfuls of energy. Clearly needed the rest on Saturday afternoon. He then started developing a rash with red spots. So, we did take him to the out of hours doctors in the evening as we rang up for advice and got told to bring him down to the clinic. The dr said it was some sort of virus and advised us to give him paracetamol and ibuprofen to help with his temperature. Strangely it went down but then on Sunday evening his temperature spiked again into the forties.
We decided Monday morning to not take him into nursery as his rash was so bad all over his face, legs and chest. We got an appointment to the dr that morning. They confirmed that it was a virus and gave him a proscription for some antibiotics. I am pleased to inform on Wednesday evening the rash has reduced and so has his temperature. Just in time for the holidays😉
In other news boy is it hot. I feel slightly dread of lack of child free time to get stuff during the summer. I think it is more the anxiety of change. Give it a week I will get into the swing of things. I can’t complain having lie ins and not getting flustered trying to get two children for nursery.
Thanks for reading X
Stumbled on this beauty of a tag by The Frenchie Mummy all about the Daddy. Check it out below.
Are you a Stay at Home Daddy or a Working Daddy? My work is looking after my disabled wife and children at home.
Would you have it any other way?Yes…I look forward to when my wife or I can go out to work.
Do you co-change dirty nappies? Even the very smelly ones?Yes.
A little fairy gives you the possibility of breastfeeding? Are you going for it or do you run away?If it was an actual thing then I would do it.
What is the one must-have item for a daddy?YouTube for teaching toddlers.
How many kids do you plan on having?The two we already have got.
Lads’ nights? How often do you have them?Never.
Your children’s favourite achievement?The flowers that grow.
What is your best memory with your kid(s)?The eldest is only four and the best memory is when they cuddle up with each other.
Name one thing you miss since being a daddy?Time.
Weight gain, before pregnancy, during, after and now? And we mean YOU DADDY, not the mummy!Gone down a bit.
Dream holiday with your kids?Sandy beaches and sunny fields.
Dream holiday without your kids or even without the other half? (You’re allowed to dream)Sunny beaches.
How has your life changed since having kids?Time has vanished and have to be extremely careful with what you say they never forget.
Finish the sentence “It makes my heart melt when…”I come home and they come running up to em shouting daddy, daddy!
Favourite beers brands and football team?Football team non. Brand De Dietrich. Beer Black Sheep.
Huggies or Pampers?Pampers.
Have you always wanted kids?Yes, ever since I was about five or six.
Best part of being a dad?Lots more things to be happy about.
- Are you a Stay at Home Daddy or a Working Daddy?
- Would you have it any other way?
- Do you co-change dirty nappies? Even the very smelly ones?
- A little fairy gives you the possibility of breastfeeding? Are you going for it or do you run away?
- What is the one must-have item for a daddy?
- How many kids do you plan on having?
- Lads’ nights? How often do you have them?
- Your children’s favourite achievement?
- What is your best memory with your kid(s)?
- Name one thing you miss since being a daddy?
- Weight gain, before pregnancy, during, after and now? And we mean YOU DADDY, not the mummy!
- Dream holiday with your kids?
- Dream holiday without your kids or even without the other half? (You’re allowed to dream)
- How has your life changed since having kids?
- Finish the sentence “It makes my heart melt when…”
- Favourite beers brands and football team?
- Huggies or Pampers?
- Have you always wanted kids?
- Best part of being a dad?
Don’t forget to nominate three daddies to complete this so daring challenge!
Hope you are well and enjoying the last week of academic term. Here I have gathered some chat from the boys, check it out.
- My eldest had some few pennies when he went shopping with me yesterday and the plan was to put them in the piggy bank. He asked, “mummy, I need a bank card like you and daddy so I can put my money in the bank”. Haha, this made me chuckle as he knows sometimes daddy puts money in his bank so is aware about the system with the card.
- After explaining to my eldest the fact the card is only allowed for 16s and over, he replied, “ok, I will keep the money and go to the shop tomorrow and buy a new toy tomorrow. Such a cheeky monkey😉
- My youngest loves cake and screams, #lenon tart mummy”. I just think it is so cute how young ones can muddle up there words.
- A conversation I had with my eldest earlier went like this. “mummy, why is my willy above my testicles and why is my willy not on my head?” Oh yes the joys of getting my son ready for nursery whilst debating the deep questions of the day, lol!
- The other day I asked my son as he stood there like a statue pulling a rather strange expression on his face. “What are you doing?”. His response goes, “I am getting a smelly toot out”. Why how lovely are you my little darling😉
Cheers for reading X
Northumberland Mam did a blog post called Behind The Scenes Blogging tag and inspired me to have ago .
1. Where Do You Blog?
I blog mostly on my laptop on the sofa or on my bed in the evenings. This is because I feel more motivated to write in the evenings, maybe because I am more relaxed.
2. Where Do You Find Inspiration For Your Blog Posts?
Normally I get inspiration from my own experiences either from parenting or mental health as I am affected by both quite dominantly. Or if I am stuck for ideas I turn to the news, other people’s blogs or good old Pinterest to get my creative juices flowing.
I forgot to mention couple of posts are themed like Sunday photo or word of the week so I am kinda guided in that way.
3. How Long Does It Take You To Write a Blog Post?
It all depends really on the topic. But I always try to type out the bare bones and come back to it at a later date to spell check and edit it. I am not the best at grammar due to my disability. Normally in life I get a lot of help from my husband but I chose to be independent and do it all myself with my blog. I don’t care if that impacts getting any blog work. Because I like the fact one thing in my life is mine without any help. I like it messy it is part of me and I am not perfect. What you see is what you get!
4. Do You Plan Your Blog Posts? How?
Few of my posts are scheduled because loads of ideas come into my head at once or a specific blog post has a set on a date. So I spread them out but other times I am impulsive. I always try to do four posts a week sometimes more. Life is never straight forward and that applies to blogging as well.
5. What Kind of Camera Do You Use? What Editing Program?
Sometimes I use my phone (Sony Ericsson Z) though now I have started to use my Cannon camera as I am building on my knowledge of photography for a personal interest. I edit on windows programme but one day I will get round to trying to understand Gimp. My head is too fried at the moment to deal with new information form different things in my life. It causes me to get overloaded due to the fact of me being Autism that I can only focus on little bits a a time.
6. Do You Use a Notebook To Track Your Ideas?
Yes I do. I can’t live without my diary and notebook. I have two three notebooks dotted around my home for different things. This has helped me feel more in control and ordered.
7. How Do You Take Your Pictures?
I love spontaneous so just take a shot where the mood takes me.
8. What’s Your Favourite Type of Blog Post to Write?
Spontaneous ideas or about my own personal experience. I know it can potential help someone who is reading it. As I myself have turned to blogs when I have felt so isolated and even just words can comfort you.
9. Who Knows About Your Blog?
My husband knows but not many people are aware. I am not one to talk about it but if it was mentioned then I am open as a book. I am just not that kinda person. I hardly ever talk about to my husband in fact. But when I do it is now and again in mentioning about using something for blog contend.
10. Are You an Organised or a Messy Blogger?
I am an organised blogger. I am naturally in life so it is going to seep through with the blogging. I plan what days to do what, how many comments and linkies etc. Again I like to feel in control and no what is what, else I get anxious and can’t focus on anything. I am a black and white thinker and like to follow numbers. For example comment on four posts to a linky. Then I don’t feel overwhelmed and it is a bit more manageable.
11. Biggest Blogging Pet Peeve?
Loads of requests, not being authentic, automatically ticking the box you want to sign up to newsletter when you are commenting on their blog post. Ok I should check it myself but I think it is still wrong. I am strong believer of choice and allowing the reader to make their own decision. Sometimes we haven’t all got the time and rush to try and get the commenting done. Not to mention pop ups on peoples blogs, which results in the page to slowing down the loading up of the blog. Which is disheartening as it is a ball ache to wait for ages when you sometimes don’t have all the time in the world.
If you want to join in then just please tag along.
Thank you for reading X